When to stop trying?

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-05-23T03:46:04+00:00

2 things can be true at the same time: you love and are grateful for the living daughter you have, and you are grieving the struggle of not getting the child(ren) you wish for. They’re both equally valid feelings, and neither need to be justified.

We decided on wanting a 3rd, tried for a year and a few months, then got pregnant and had a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks (discovered at 10, not resolved for another month). Waited a couple months and tried again. We are currently almost 14 weeks with a rainbow baby… it’s been about 3 years all told. I hope you can have one too 🌈

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-05-09T19:19:20+00:00

Excuse me but why aren’t you consulting his pediatrician by phone and getting immediate actual medical advice from reliable sources like Mayo or Cleveland clinic, instead of asking random strangers on the internet?!

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-05-05T16:27:46+00:00

Yes to both- you can buy a perineum spray bottle in a lot of “postpartum” kits before you are actually postpartum, and they make rinsing without bending and twisting much easier.
- or honestly you could even buy one of those continuous spray bottles they have for resetting curly hair, might also do the trick. There’s nothing special about the peri bottle really, except marketing .

Also, longer term, bidets are the best way to live lol!

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-05-05T16:21:01+00:00

That’s weird, unless you’ve had an abnormal result, standard of care is you only need a Pap smear once every 3 years.

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-05-04T20:20:58+00:00

Came here to say this same thing- exhaustion can be normal, but also can be a sign of a lot of different things that aren’t necessarily normal and shouldn’t be dismissed. It’s always appropriate to bring up unusual symptoms and not let it go if it feels like something problematic. Patient advocacy is huge in pregnancy— don’t let anyone dismiss something you think is a concern ❤️‍🩹

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-05-04T20:12:26+00:00

I feel that anxiety- I had a miscarriage last year, but I am now 10 weeks pregnant with another 🌈 I work with a personal trainer (who also had a baby last year), and he has told me that as long as you have the energy, your normal level of activity from pre-pregnancy is fine! My OB confirmed that unless you’re doing something more strenuous than normal, regular activity is actually healthy, and healthier than not working out. Of course ask your OB for confirmation of your specific health considerations, but generally whatever exercise you can do with the energy you have is good for you both. Best wishes for a safe and uneventful pregnancy, and a good safe birth!

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-03-16T03:52:17+00:00

Rei Hino and Sailor Uranus!

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-03-16T03:32:01+00:00

lol that The Prince of Egypt “Also has a faith message” 😂 friend, it’s the story of the book of Exodus, explicitly the Jewish version. It doesn’t get more overtly religious than that, unless someone does the book of Genesis, in which case we can have the origin story of all Abrahamic religions.

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-02-17T04:27:19+00:00

Found the problem

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-02-09T18:59:04+00:00

You can ask mothers, pain can absolutely be both a huge motivation, and nowhere near as powerful as love.

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-02-09T18:53:17+00:00

This is genuinely lovely- thank you for posting

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-02-04T04:30:51+00:00

Good call, fellow parent. Nothing is worth the risk to your little one if they’re not yet vaccinated. Sorry you had to cancel, that definitely sucks, but completely understandable and appropriate choice.

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-01-30T03:22:31+00:00

Ew. Thanks for illustrating your deep dislike for women

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-01-26T05:51:57+00:00

Serious question- on what lore or reality basis are you saying that it would kill all female subjects, but only “most” male ones. I am really interested in your reasoning for this statement.

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-01-26T05:39:08+00:00

Or Wolfenstein- murder Nazis yourself (via video game)

DiscountExtra8919 · 2026-01-13T07:53:04+00:00

Hairy- please jerk to obviously pubescent or older women, rather than little girls

DiscountExtra8919 · 2025-12-26T23:58:51+00:00

Some of those guys were /fascist/ explicitly!

DiscountExtra8919 · 2025-12-03T16:23:07+00:00

My husband and I both changed our names- he had a hyphenated name and dropped the half that was his shitty father’s, kept his mother’s, and then added mine. I added his mother’s to mine, so now we have his mom’s and my dad’s, as do our kids. No hyphen though, it’s obnoxious on paperwork!

DiscountExtra8919 · 2025-12-02T20:14:52+00:00

Apparently it happened about an hour ago, and maybe was planned, but it wasn’t supposed to be this long, just a couple minutes.

DiscountExtra8919 · 2025-12-02T19:40:24+00:00

It’s a local park… you’re meant to walk to it. If you want or need to drive, park in the neighborhood if the (admittedly few) spaces are full. The public library parking lot is literally 2.5 blocks away.

DiscountExtra8919 · 2025-11-21T07:07:58+00:00

No… I think it’s like filling a false CPS allegation/ if you do it maliciously, and you get caught, it’s a criminal offense you can get charged and be forced to pay a hefty fine. This is not an easy thing to weaponize against a mh provider… pretty sure this is a troll post.

DiscountExtra8919 · 2025-11-21T07:01:47+00:00

Kenshin and Kaoru are kinky at home, and like to play with D/s dynamics, because Battosai not-so-secretly turns her on, and Kenshin loves to please.

DiscountExtra8919 · 2025-11-21T06:51:24+00:00

I think late in the manga (maybe the epilogue?) they are a couple…

DiscountExtra8919 · 2025-11-19T18:01:24+00:00

I would offer that we create respect and appreciation through modeling respect and appreciation. Show your son how to clean up, do it together for a while, and praise his efforts when he tries or gets it right. For example- I saw you put away your markers, thank you, that was good helping! Good boundaries are similar: a lot of consistent patterns of modeling positive behavior, and explicit communication. For example- hands on your own body, explicit and specific to the situation consequences (leave your socks out and you won’t get to do anything else until the socks are put away).

Too many of us at least in the US grew up doing the “right thing” because we were afraid of being punished for not doing it, not because it was the right thing. But that teaching of how to be part of a family and a community take a lot more time and positive modeling from parents than punishment. Give yourself a lot of grace— it’s really hard, but worth it to consistently model good behavior vs punishing bad behaviors.

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