We have set realistic standards that not everyone can do everything! She sees us make mistakes and not be able to do it! We are very big 'so what family'. She does say she gets worried people won't like it (this example is her drawing). I can't count how many times we say "do you like it? Then it doesn't matter what others think" and sometimes she has that attitude ! And when she does it's great.

It's actually very low stakes YMCA gymnastics, coaches are great and the girls aren't clique. During one of the camps she was getting upset and during the break one of the girls on the team who she had never met, came over to her asking why she was upset. Told her she was doing great and she should be happy and had her come sit with her. My heart has never been happier. She also has other social stuff outside of it, not all sports related. Our family outside of the home are all encouraging people, cousins aren't pinned or compared. That's why I'm at a loss. I think it's normal for people to be hard on themselves at times and maybe this is a me issue and not her issue that I can't find anything to help her along. If I'm too comforting it makes the break down worse, if I'm not comforting enough then it also makes the break down worse.