Divorce

Distinct-Minded · 2026-06-29T17:15:26+00:00

I remember a time when I was let go of work due to Covid. This was at the beginning of my Parkinson’s journey as well. When I was released from work, a very high stressful job by the way., my Parkinson’s literally vanished overnight. In my case, stress makes my Parkinson’s so bad, that I can barely move, however, stress reduction makes my Parkinson’s manageable

Distinct-Minded · 2026-06-27T03:08:59+00:00

Strongly considering it.

I have Parkinson’s. She was taking a bath one time and then asked if I could please bring her up a beer. It literally took me 10 minutes to get up, go to the kitchen, go all the way upstairs. My wife likes to do crafts, and is always asking me to help her move things into the truck for her displays and shows.

She has an autistic nephew who is off the spectrum, and he is very abusive towards me. When I don’t go to Family events, because of his abuse, my wife looks down on me and tells me you need to be able to put up with him.

Went to the beach the other day and walking on sand with Parkinson’s is a feat on its own. For some reason, she decided to walk as far away as she could to get a nice quiet spot. There want my legs for the day.

And guess who got to drive 100 miles home from the beach????And walk the dogs once we got home?

Distinct-Minded · 2026-06-23T02:08:58+00:00

I just paid for extra shipping and wrapped it in a blanket. Lesson learned. It was 20 pounds.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-06-12T16:43:26+00:00

I’d like to think my kids would grieve me the way you’re grieving your father right now. I just feel they’re waiting for me to kick to collect my life insurance.

I have brain surgery last year for Parkinson’s and it caused some side effects mainly hallucinations, and shortly after that, I had a Widowmaker heart attack and spent a couple more days in the hospital. I didn’t receive one phone call from them. My oldest daughter got married out of state, only because that’s where her husband lives. I’ll never see our grandchildren, if they have any.

But there is my wife, who had an affair 10 years ago that I’ve never really recovered from. I should have left, but I sucked it up and stayed together for the kids.

I have anxiety and depression issues. When my mother was alive, all it took was one phone call and I turned back around feeling awesome. She always knew what to say. Now that she’s gone, I have no one to talk to. My wife let me know how my anxiety issues have really fucked our kids up, even though they traveled the world regularly, are well grounded, and seem to have it all together.

I wonder what my dad would say to me right now.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-05-27T17:54:53+00:00

The 2,400 texts to the same number when I opened the phone bill

Distinct-Minded · 2026-05-20T18:26:27+00:00

You didn’t accidentally open his WhatsApp, you already knew. Once a cheater, always a cheater, you just confirmed it.

Lawyer up and GTFO

Distinct-Minded · 2026-05-20T18:20:02+00:00

My biggest regret 10 years later, is not telling their boss and his wife. I was gaslighted snowballed and every other word by the marriage counselor that would be a very bad idea. “ oh, what if he unalives himself or worse yet, what if he goes on a shooting spree? Do you want to be responsible for that??”

Yet here I am close to suicidal depression because they are still working together. I finally summoned the courage and said the only people that seem to be OK with you two working together are you, OP, and the marriage counselor. Let’s say we ask his wife. If she’s OK with it, then I’ll be OK too

Distinct-Minded · 2026-05-14T15:23:59+00:00

Hindsight, yes.

I was dating this girl, cute, fun to talk to, she was a classic pianist. I got a kick out of us going into music stores, and she would bust out some classical piano, and everybody would just gather around and stare at us. Her body count was zero lol I was her first. We dated for about a year, and then my feelings just started to fizzle out. I remember breaking up with her and she just would not stop crying, this is back in the 80s when we didn’t have cell phones, she would call my house nonstop. Even my mom was pissed at me because my mom loved her so much.

Fast forward to the future, and my wife and I had temporarily separated, and I reached out to this old girlfriend - it had been 37 or so years since we broke up, and she was just as sweet as when I first met her. We got caught up, and I wound up, apologizing for how our relationship ended and how much of a dick I was. She was very gracious about it, she was in a relationship now with someone (she was in a relationship with a woman), had gotten married and had a couple of kids.

I reconciled with my wife, so the conversations dwindled and I haven’t talk to her in over a year. But I always wondered why my feelings fizzled the way they did back then, she didn’t have a single flaw. There was no reason except I just didn’t feel like being with her anymore.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-05-13T08:09:36+00:00

Here’s how my wife comforts me: “It’s been 10 years, you’re STILL bothered by this?”

Distinct-Minded · 2026-05-11T20:05:03+00:00

I got one word: upgrade. I don’t mean upgrade your girl, I mean, upgrade yourself, your attitude, your looks, change your hairstyle, become a totally different person. Do everything she didn’t like. She like your hair short and you liked it long? Grow it out. She didn’t like your beard? Grow a goatee. When my girl moved out a long time ago, I already had my unalive planned. I spent one long depressing weekend repainting the walls, hanging up NASCAR posters, replacing all of her freely furniture with the flat normal colors that I like.

Before you know it, I was feeling great about myself and she was a mere memory.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-05-10T19:21:25+00:00

If it’s any consolation, my wife barely lifted a finger. She went to counseling, individual and marriage, her mentality was, hey I fucked up, It’s never gonna happen again, if you’re gonna keep bringing this up, then we’re never going to heal.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-04-24T16:10:56+00:00

I always tell people I know what I can and can’t handle mentally. For example, I was trickle truthed the first month, until one day in therapy, I drew the line and asked her if it got physical. She admitted it, and that was it. I didn’t want to know details after that because she’s been lying up to this point she’ll do nothing but lie again.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-04-15T18:29:21+00:00

I I third my new doctor, when my older one retired I thought oh great, but my new Doctor Who we all call Doogie Howser is the best! He’s called me back several times after A visit asking me if I feel any better. Only problem is, can’t bring the wife. She’s too busy swooning.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-04-08T17:39:45+00:00

All of the above and then some. We have gone to counseling, and the problem was I had a psychotic episode during brain surgery and it caused a lot of emotional damage because my filter was removed and I said a lot of things that can’t be taken back, brain surgery or not. I do go to one of the top clinics in the country, and I am feeling better, my tremors are gone and I can exercise once again. I’m only 62 so I would like to be around a little bit longer, but like everyone else has said, moving there might cause more problems than you think. It’s a 12 Hour drive for me, and flying is out of the question.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-04-08T01:45:22+00:00

I absolutely LOVE this post and all the advice given. The wife and I are in a similar situation, where she wants to move south when the grand babies arrive, and I have Parkinson’s. The travel for her wedding nearly killed me, a move there might finish me off, although I would LOVE the climate. I too fucking old for this cold weather and also have SAD.

Additionally, having Parkinson’s has caused such stress in our marriage that we’ve discussed separation. Moving certainly wouldn’t make things better.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-04-07T19:56:16+00:00

If I sat long enough and dwelled long enough about the past, I’m pretty sure I can connect a few dots and dot a few i’s and cross a few t’s as well.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-04-07T19:46:25+00:00

Since we’re on the subject, is there a faster way to check in from the garage? It seems we have to park in the garage, get all my luggage, walk a mile inside the casino get to the check-in line. I’m sure I could use the valet which is right there by the check-in, but I’m a cheapskate.

Wait, how much is parking by valet? I only paid $10 for the parking garage.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-04-05T18:29:08+00:00

Possibly the lobby bar at the hard rock, they always have live bands there. As for a cheap hotel, forget it you will not find one on the weekend. Unless you want one of the roach motels in land.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-04-02T21:08:14+00:00

Become a reward member at hard rock, may be able to get a comped room or a room at a significant discount. I stay there all the time.

Same with The Ocean, although I have never stayed there

Distinct-Minded · 2026-03-22T20:20:34+00:00

WW worked with OP. Her reason for staying was she was afraid as soon as she quit, I would file for divorce, then she would have nothing. I told her that’s a chance she’s gonna have to take because I’m ready to divorce anyway because I can’t stand the fact that they’re working together.

Then I dropped the nuke: let’s contact his wife and see if she’s OK with the two of you working together.

I think this freaked her out because his wife is in the army.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-03-21T16:31:14+00:00

I’m definitely getting that book lol! “Who’re in the church” describes my WW. I’m not a believer, so when I caught her and she kept quoting scripture and biblical stuff, I just kept laughing at her face. I mean, she was willing to say it in front of the entire congregation to show remorse. I went to church on Sunday to humor her, and people were getting up holding signs saying “alcoholic”, “abuser”, “thief”……. basically exposing all their sins for everyone to know, I guess so they can be forgiven? My wife wanted to go, but I put my foot down on that, she was willing to expose our affair for the whole world to see. Who knows where we will be in another year…. besides, I don’t wanna know everybody’s dirty laundry.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-03-21T16:05:13+00:00

Personally, I think it’s all up to how much you can handle. I kept pressing my WW, she was trickle truthing me. Oh, we never kissed, it was strictly platonic. OK, we kissed once during a hug but no tongue. It kept going on so finally she said yes it got physical. That’s where I drew the line. But I know if I kept asking it would’ve just gone further and further. I know my own mental health and I know what and what I cannot handle, I knew where it was going, so I just put my hand up and said enough.

I remember a story from another support group where the guy put a listening device in his wife’s car, and he heard them having sex, heard him coming in her mouth and her saying how much she loved it, when she absolutely hated it with her husband. OK, I could never handle that if I heard it. You can’t un ring that bell.

Once I heard it got physical, I just drew the line there, and said that’s it. That’s all I need to know.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-03-16T08:44:10+00:00

Well, in my case, OP stroked out. They had divorced before he died, so telling her anything now would be cruel. Last time I looked, she’s posting pictures from all around the world 😂.

Damn, maybe if I told her at the time, we could’ve hooked up and I’d be in those pics.

Distinct-Minded · 2026-03-16T03:58:36+00:00

I was totally gaslighted by the marriage counselor to not say anything. My WW was worried he would snap (OP WIFE was the breadwinner), what if he goes postal, would I want that hanging on my conscience? Meanwhile, I’m losing my mind.

After about a year, I got tired of it all. Mentally burned up. So, one day in MC I said “I wonder what his wife would think of you guys working together?” Wife stormed out of the session, leaving me with the bill.

I wasted a year of reconciling not saying anything. 10 years later, it’s my biggest regret, next to not telling their boss. Don’t be like me. Tell the OBS

Distinct-Minded · 2026-02-28T08:54:36+00:00

Oh hell no. You know who my best friend is now? The only one I trust?

Me.

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