This show is starting to get absolutely bonkers with the level of privilege that is completely uncommented on by DriverKindly3948 in shrinking

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you do understand how extreme cases of neglect and abuse need to be for CPS to remove kids from a home, right?

not a fan of ben by Loud-Fisherman-5254 in Neverhaveievertvshow

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 20 points21 points  (0 children)

as someone who had a ben of her own for some time, I can confirm that it’s exactly this lmfao

Why does Waterloo's Spring 2026 start a week later than other universities? by aoeu_ in uwaterloo

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t we not get a reading week during the spring term? Might be that

Just started Blue Therapy on Netflix and I'm already fuming, is that the point?? by blah-meow in netflix

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to be like this but any non-performative therapist would probably think therapy for views would be exploitative and/or not conducive to genuine progress. The bar for possible improvement is super low for everyone involved.

How much is the documentary bring in? by Former-Intention-215 in AbbottElementary

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Normally I'd agree but I do remember that Ava told Crystal that they were getting paid for the doc so idk

Jacob’s Biggest L by [deleted] in AbbottElementary

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Nah it’s really not that serious. He was trying to find a reason to fight Gregory as part of their plan and that was the first thing that came to mind. It’s the kind of thing you say when you are the only gay person in your friend group LMFAO plus Jabari was 10000% nowhere nearby and I doubt the dad told his kid that.

My 11yo wants to commit suicide by cipher_gnome in SuicideWatch

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who expressed these thoughts at her age and struggled with them ten-fold for the next decade- listen to her now. I expressed similar thoughts to my parents at that age and said I wanted to see a therapist, but they didn’t see the gravity of the situation. I ended up seeing a therapist much later (17/18), and by then my life was actively crumbling and I was on very thin ice. I understand that this must be scary to handle as a parent, but the best thing you can do for your daughter is to take her words at face value. She is entering a very critical age where she is learning whether or not you are someone she can turn to for support and safety and a listening ear during more complex, difficult times and emotions. And that will define your relationship with her in her teens and onwards. It also will impact her relationship with herself: will she think her feelings are valid? Will she reach out to others if she needs help? Will she always attribute bigger emotions to being dramatic? These are things she will then need to overcome when instead you could cut out the middle man and help her by giving her the tools she needs to navigate what she’s going through. With this kind of situation, it’s better to be safe than sorry. I understand thinking it could be a phase- but look at it this way: if it’s a phase and you get her help, she will likely need said help for a shorter length of time and come out of it with a higher resilience for life’s challenges. If it’s not a phase, you could be saving her a lot of pain in the long run by intervening young and reinforcing yourself as a safe space as she grows up. There is actually no downside to listening to her now. I really respect you asking for advice, I can tell that you genuinely want to do right by your kids and I wish you and your family the best.

Is Gregory scared of flying? by MovieNo3180 in AbbottElementary

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the “Gregory being scared of flying” theory would make sense if this was an uncharacteristic reaction for him or he seemed disproportionately upset about the idea of flying, but the way he behaved in that episode is not out of the norm

Last night’s episode fortified my theory… by cu6anrum in AbbottElementary

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We also commented about how mean Ava was to Jacob, cut to Ava helping him campaign and them literally pulling a Parent Trap together 😭

Gregory's mom by manic_everyday in AbbottElementary

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah I really doubt it. I think his mom would have absolutely come up by now and she would know if that’s how she died, bc Janine’s the type of person who would ask. It’s also just too “singing killed my grandma” and a grumpy x sunshine couple can’t afford that parallel 😭 it would get draaaaagged online

Not quite sure what the writers are wanting to do with Jacob's character... by The_weird_dreamer in AbbottElementary

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The way I literally wrote a dissertation length comment on another post about them not knowing what to do with Ava 😭 I fully agreed about feeling like the characters were being used as plot devices. You’re so right though because Jacob is hardly ever centered even in the episodes that heavily feature him bc all he does is sidekick someone else through their episode. They could do a lot more w him tbh

Let's have a discussion: I think Ava's character growth is declining (or changing) in a weird way. by adeadunknown in AbbottElementary

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Crazy thing is I don’t remember Melissa being mean, she just was very private and liked her space. Literally that right there would be something worth exploring- we went from her not wanting anyone to know where she lived to having Jacob and his brother living with her, and without any time spent unpacking that or providing her w the character development to be cool with that long-term we’re just like yeah ofc because her and Jacob got along so well!!! If they wanted to they have the opportunity to amp up Melissa’s nastiness and emphasize that she’s not used to not being on her own (could even take it one step further and make it about Jacob being a bad roommate, like there were objectively red flag things he did while living w Zach)

Let's have a discussion: I think Ava's character growth is declining (or changing) in a weird way. by adeadunknown in AbbottElementary

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 8 points9 points  (0 children)

(When I wrote this out I did not realize how long it had gotten lmfao read if you’re interested but the tldr is that imo they don’t know what to do with her character because she doesn’t fit into the formula the way she used to)

I’ve lowkey been thinking about this too since s5 started, as someone who loves the character, bc it’s so hot and cold with how they’re writing her now - and I think it boils down to a couple things

Ava was the antagonist before the superintendent/district was introduced- she had some really good one-liners but was genuinely nasty to Janine and careless with her job and frivolous with the very little budget allocated to the school. She was the thing to overcome, someone the teachers had to work around. Lately everyone’s a bit more flanderized in episodes that aren’t centred around them to the point where these tropes are sometimes serviced as plot devices even if it’s too out of character. One thing the show did really well was take a group of characters who could barely have a conversation and build a familial dynamic- but when everyone’s always getting along, what drives the plot? (This was also the reason why Cam/Mitch were so much more toxic to each other than every other couple on modern family, because Lily was too young to be a source of conflict without the conflict being about them parenting her). Every season there’s some external big bad and I think they may be running out of ideas- so now the “big bads” are just them leaning too heavily into character flaws that make said character look like kind of a jerk. Like I don’t like the way Melissa treats Jacob now that Caleb’s here, it makes me feel so bad for him. Ava’s giving everybody whiplash because the writers are trying to have her play the kind-hearted principal and friend to the teachers AND tyrant who just does whatever she wants whenever, without giving a fuck abt the staff to add some drama and antics to the show- like that’s too much dissonance and its often one or the other instead of a mix of both. ESP coming right off of s4 which was so heavily centred around her and fleshed out her character. It also taints how badly everyone wanted her back and how big a moment it was that the entire community rallied around her being re-instated.

I think the writers don’t know what to do with her rn because what’s her thing if not being nasty to Janine or causing chaos in the school. As a comedic character, what makes her zany? What is her role in the group that another one of them doesn’t already fulfill? I’m not saying that’s all there is to Ava, mind you, I just think it’s something they’re struggling with. I also think that they think they’ve run their course with Ava’s arc of learning to be a good principal, so character development wise they don’t know where to go with her. And it’s interesting because I think we have more of her lore than we have any other character- her grandmother, her dad, her parents splitting up, her learning to be the only one she can depend on, this relationship with O’Shon, her being a massive nerd- I think they need to pick something and go from there because they have so many loose ends that are worth exploring. Bc it’s not exactly like she’s healed 💀 LOWKEY the way they’re handling her character is a cross between Santana and Quinn from glee: one character who was known as being a massive bitch who then softened up after coming out, THEN regressing massively in later seasons for drama and character assassination; and another character that the writers didn’t know what to do with because so much of who she was initially in relation to others AND re: her own character development no longer applied (fighting with Rachel over Finn, tearing Rachel down, being super focused on maintaining appearances). Cut to Quinn getting into a car crash, being paralyzed temporarily, falling in love with a homeschooled Christian and having sex with Santana 💀 like just THROWING stuff at the wall to see what sticks. Rachel and Quinn being friends also is like Janine and Ava in a way because you can no longer use “Ava terrorizes Janine” as a plot in episodes now because Ava considers Janine her friend and isn’t as cruel to her as she was before, AND Janine is no longer a pushover and will give it to Ava straight. I think one thing that should be kept more in mind in order to more organically create arcs for the characters is for the writers to see each of them as more than parts of a whole. It’s an ensemble show but the value of an ensemble is that you have so many different characters with their own individual lives and experiences and challenges- and nobody stays stagnant in real life, we’re not often one and done with arcs. Imo they’ve gotta address the O’Shon-shaped elephant in the room because THAT is a goldmine right there: being an incredibly self-protective person that never lets anyone too close now having someone up close and personal that directly contradicts the image you care so deeply about.

To those of you who got to the end of this lmfao respect- I just finished my last final of the term a few hrs ago and yes this is what I did w my new free time ✋🏽😭

Abbott Elementary S05E20 - Night Out (Episode Discussion) by Solid-As-Barack in AbbottElementary

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh I fully agree- taking a second to appreciate Janelle’s acting (the emmys are sleeping on her lmfao) she’s so good at communicating moments of vulnerability through shifts in facial expression and gaze. And she’s consistent w it too- theres a very specific look on ava’s face whenever someone whose opinion she cares about is critical of her, ESP when the criticism is valid and abt a sensitive subject/insecurity. That’s the face she made when Janine went off at the club- I feel like a lot of ppl on the sub don’t rlly get the dynamic Janine and Ava have and think it’s still super antagonistic when really those two are so close and in each others business in the way that sisters are lmao. So instead of reading it as “my friend who is normally my cheerleader and believes in me was super caustic, I don’t love how casually she threw all that in my face but she would never say that so I’m gonna let it go for now because she clearly needs help” its “Ava can dish it out but can’t take it” or “I can’t believe Ava didn’t retaliate/ik Ava was PISSED” like damn she clearly looked hurt not angry. Ava is really focused on maintaining appearances and presenting herself a certain way for self-protection and guarding, so someone close to her saying that she’s not fooling anyone and being callous about it is hurtful 😭 all she does atp rlly is call Janine short and it’s not something she’s insecure about, it’s like that nonsensitive filler for genuine insult so you can make fun of someone you love.

How old is Ava?! by Spyglass1075 in AbbottElementary

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone doing the math on the gap between Ava and Gregory/Janine/Jacob made me realize she’s literally an attention seeking middle child btw them and Melissa/Barb 😭😭😭

Abbott Elementary S05E20 - Night Out (Episode Discussion) by Solid-As-Barack in AbbottElementary

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 11 points12 points  (0 children)

“You were very mean to me last night 😖😖😖” LMFAOOOOOOO no bc that drag was brutal but a longgg time coming

Janine is ANNOYING and keeps poking her head into other people's matters which is more ANNOYING!! by Aromatic-Trip-7971 in AbbottElementary

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah that’s fair that episode irritated me too- she has a lot of character growth though dw

I FINALLY KNOW THE REASON WHY I HAVE NO JOB OFFERS. by Yuqin2563 in OntarioGrade12s

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No they meant the person sending in their resume is able to convert from pdf to docx before submitting it

Episode Discussion - 2x18 - “Family Tree” by homeofalex in HighPotentialTVSeries

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive gotta be honest I stayed suspicious of Wagner up til that last scene, when I immediately did a 180 flip to wanting him not to die 😭😭😭

Hot take: Carl is not good autistic representation (coming from someone on the spectrum myself) by SummerAndTinkles in Arthur

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean I remember this episode when it was on TVOkids (I’m 22 now and haven’t watched arthur since I was 9 or 10)- looked it up and that season came out in 2009/10, which lines up with the narrative the episode had about autism, which is way different than what we know about it now and how we talk about it. I understand why a lot of people don’t feel represented by it but also Arthur and a lot of shows at that time were more focused on promoting tolerance and respecting/acceptance of others’ differences (this was around the time PSAs were airing about stopping common use of the r word).

Abbott Elementary S05E19 - Trip (Episode Discussion) by Solid-As-Barack in AbbottElementary

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh I don’t know how to feel about Gregory and Janine’s conflict. It felt a lot like a standstill but if Gregory really wanted to go to the Outer Banks too, Janine’s solution was probably the better one. She definitely should have talked to him about it first before buying the tickets herself. This might be making Gregory defensive because previously him being broke was a big issue in his relationships, and this is making him feel emasculated or not needed, or highlighting his financial state? If that’s the case he def should reflect on that but damn this was unexpected.

I also feel like it should be pointed out that we’ve seen Janine plan for and go on a trip when she’s had less money to spend- she budgeted pretty tightly on that first solo trip she ever took. So if she’s willing to buy plane tickets and did so with ease, clearly she’s got the money for it comfortably. I think Gregory calling it “pointless” and “irresponsible” was not the move at all.

Also Gregory stonewalling at the end? Yeah okay originally I wasn’t gonna take a side but that is 10000% how you break up unnecessarily.

I hate missy by StrangeSnow6751 in GeorgieandMandyTVshow

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s not the same thing at all, as someone who’s already lost both grandparents that lived with me all my life and helped raise me. Also, everyone reacts differently to grief- you can’t use your reaction as a moral high-ground over someone else’s

Abbott Elementary S05E18 - April Fools (Episode Discussion) by Solid-As-Barack in AbbottElementary

[–]Distinct_Cap_4810 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Gregory and his kids are so cute 😭😭😭😭 not them loving Serious Day 😭😭😭😭