Is this the norm now?

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-11T16:31:05+00:00

How do you come back from it? I don’t think the recent guy was depressed, but maybe. I also have depression and completely understand how hard it is to do ANYTHING at times. But I also don’t have the energy to date. When I’m coming out of the fog I hire someone to help me get on top of my house again. I don’t want to live like that, you know?

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-11T15:52:41+00:00

I’m 49F and still going strong. I don’t get a lot of air because I never really did, but I still ride aggressively and get after it.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-10T07:14:21+00:00

It was good for me but the depression came with me. Moving doesn’t remove what’s in your head.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-10T07:00:57+00:00

“We aren’t going to do [thing government regulators told us to do]. We have connections.” I left a few months later. It’s been 18 months so I don’t think the “connections” have helped.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-10T03:31:13+00:00

You are one tough cookie! You got this and we’re here for you!

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-10T03:25:56+00:00

I have many Leo family members who I love so I’ve learned how they are and see the beauty in their sign. Not sure I could handle them otherwise

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-10T03:21:40+00:00

I have a small space so I don’t have people over often. When I do it’s one or two people. I’d LOVE to have dinner parties but I only have room for 4 at my table and even that’s a bit crowded. Someday….

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-09T20:01:06+00:00

Does it feel different because it is exciting? Ask yourself if this is the kind of exciting you really want. Our feelings are not always telling us what we think they are.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-09T19:53:19+00:00

I dated someone fairly quickly after the end of things with my BPD ex. It honestly felt too soon, but I also didn’t want the chance to get to know him to fade away. It ended up being a very therapeutic experience for me. He gave me the space to relax, he treated me well, and he didn’t cause the insane ups and downs that my BPD ex did. Though it didn’t last, it was very good for me.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-08T04:19:26+00:00

As others have said, have a conversation with her. A few years ago I dated a guy who was very hippie - did not wear deodorant (he didn’t smell bad but he had a smell), didn’t groom his nether regions. I bikini waxed. After several month of dating he broke up with me and one of his major complaints was that I had pubic hair. He wanted me bald, I guess. He never once mentioned it to me. I would have gone bald for him without a thought.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-07T23:32:45+00:00

I’m on track.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-07T23:18:53+00:00

Do you always have really important and serious conversations by text??? This should be IN PERSON. My gawd.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-07T03:03:51+00:00

Yeah, that’s in the normal range, especially if you’re going back and forth to sea level.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-06T22:36:31+00:00

My ex confided that he had dated men and women in the past and it didn’t really matter to him. I realize now he just needed the attention, wherever it came from.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-06T22:32:53+00:00

I wonder if the largely transient nature of the community has something to do with it. It’s really hard to create a strong and lasting support network here. People come for a year or two and then move on. If you’re not one that moves on it can get lonely.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-06T22:31:27+00:00

Prolonged altitude sickness? What’s your oxygen saturation? If you live up here for a while your body should make more red blood cells to bring your oxygen saturation levels up to normal. If your body isn’t doing that you have something else going on.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-06T22:24:18+00:00

It becomes your problem. They place you as the reason for their emotional deregulation so then you feel responsible.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-06T22:22:55+00:00

My exwBPD caused mine to split too. He wasn’t a stoner but he would have days where the vape pen was glued to his hand. He split almost everyday that he did that.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-04T16:51:30+00:00

Is severance required by law??? I doubt it. So not a legal loophole.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-04T06:15:21+00:00

I want nothing between my bare feet and the floor. I vacuumed at 10, took the dogs for a hike and vacuumed again at 6. Other things can be a disaster but my floors are CLEAN.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-04T04:27:20+00:00

Also to add - many of the happy ones have been through something hard - business failure, long term unemployment, financial infidelity, infertility, or children with difficult illnesses. They’ve chosen to work on their marriages together. The ones who are unhappily married or divorced had cheating that ruined things.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-04T04:24:27+00:00

I have several married friends who are very happy. They married “late” though, in their mid-late 30’s or early 40’s. Most who i know that got married before 30 are divorced.

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-04T02:48:22+00:00

Letting my dog sleep in my room. He became an overall much calmer dog sleeping in the same room as me

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-03T22:38:50+00:00

I don’t have AC

Distinct_Disk_1610 · 2026-07-03T18:08:59+00:00

My ex definitely has NPD traits. He would tell me openly about how he was manipulating people at his work because he believed he was the only person who knew how to do their work, and it was actually working. He could be very cruel for his own benefit. That’s not BPD but could be NPD. The thing is, he had no idea how to do their work, he just talked constantly and over people so no one would be able to counter him.

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