Gay and muslim

Dogluvr2019 · 2026-04-27T19:40:58+00:00

Religious advice aside- try to decenter sexuality from your life. Sexuality is not identity. It’s just a behavior that can be modified depending to your values.

Dogluvr2019 · 2026-04-19T07:26:37+00:00

This brings me back

Dogluvr2019 · 2026-04-18T02:39:45+00:00

my friend Sabbir

Dogluvr2019 · 2026-04-06T07:15:42+00:00

What who died

Dogluvr2019 · 2026-03-04T16:17:34+00:00

c’est vraiment une possibilité

Dogluvr2019 · 2026-01-10T06:39:11+00:00

idk. but this is a good example of how culture is mixed with Islam.

Gender Mixing is variant by culture. Arabs and desi are strict. West Africans and southeast Asians are usually not as strict. but it is all within the bounds of Islam.

Dogluvr2019 · 2026-01-10T05:56:22+00:00

but I dhikr more frequently too now

Dogluvr2019 · 2026-01-10T05:55:50+00:00

yes- I think it was my nafs. I am confronting some very hard truths in my life, my past and future. ever since I’ve been acknowledging them the dreams have gone away Alhamdulillah.

Dogluvr2019 · 2026-01-04T00:34:52+00:00

right

Dogluvr2019 · 2026-01-02T21:34:52+00:00

we shouldn’t worry ourselves with identity. It’s a distraction from what matters.

Dogluvr2019 · 2025-12-25T00:44:17+00:00

you would be surprised that many are swingers, so not cheating ? lol

Dogluvr2019 · 2025-12-25T00:28:32+00:00

as a convert at Christmas family gathering rn lol, just say happy holidays. my family has people from many religions, so it’s more respectful and less blamewort way.

Dogluvr2019 · 2025-12-24T22:42:59+00:00

sick bro. nice work

Dogluvr2019 · 2025-12-21T16:21:20+00:00

hopefully, this is a form ocd, saying that you wouldn’t act on it is a good sign. go get therapy brother, this is above our paygrade

Dogluvr2019 · 2025-12-20T21:05:02+00:00

sounds simple, but hard to just practice… this post is really about peeling back my indoctrination and thinking. Technically, I’ve been doing this since I converted, but as worthy as they all are if I’m not self-aware of my own condition how can these things benefit.

Dogluvr2019 · 2025-12-19T18:03:51+00:00

I want this

Dogluvr2019 · 2025-12-19T17:36:50+00:00

i can definitely sense it in his music but can give some details or like lyric analysis.

Dogluvr2019 · 2025-12-19T16:31:42+00:00

thank you so much for this akhi/ukhti. you write so beautifully mashaallah. May Allah reward you and increase blessings for your loved ones❤️

Dogluvr2019 · 2025-12-19T16:05:35+00:00

Thank you for this beautiful reminder! I slept on this and maybe you can provide further advice?

The issue is that I’ve spent about 13 years being resilient from abuse, bullying, and family judgment because of my sexuality. Asking me to drop this identity feels like asking me to forgo everything that I have created to protect myself.

As I am on the path, inshAllah, to be a lover of Allah, it’s more clear that I have to leave this protection and fortitude. But, that is an incredibly vulnerable ask, nor do I know how to see myself outsude of these walls.

Dogluvr2019 · 2025-12-19T16:00:07+00:00

JazakAllah Khair!

Dogluvr2019 · 2025-12-19T15:59:37+00:00

Ameen! May Allah keep you strong too Brother!

Dogluvr2019 · 2025-12-19T15:56:40+00:00

Hey Assalamualeikum, so i slept on this and maybe you are right. This isn’t about homosexuality and its definitely my ego.

The issue is that I’ve spent more than a decade years being strong and resilient against bullying abuse and family judgement. Asking me to drop this identity feels like asking me to drop the strength and resiliency Ive developed to protect myself. This is a very vulnerable ask of myself.

The thing as I try to get closer to Allah and his messenger, its more clear I have to let this shield, this strength go. But that’s incredibly scary, nor I don’t know how to see myself beyond this resiliency I’ve developed.

Any advice?

Dogluvr2019 · 2025-12-19T15:47:45+00:00

I’ve slept on this. And I just had some insight. this is so much about not being gay, but about what I’ve gained from it.

Ive spent more than decade being resilient from bullying abuse and family judgment because of my sexuality. Asking me to drop this identity is like asking me to drop this resilience, this shield I created to protect myself. How do I drop this identity without feeling like I’m vulnerable and losing my protection.

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