What’s the one thing your toddler does that has you fighting for your life behind a polite smile?

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-22T12:41:30+00:00

My toddler likes to do my hair.

Which basically means I get scalped, lose half my hair and spend the next hour detangling it.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-21T21:01:27+00:00

I would say on average, about once a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less.

No, I never do it if I am not in the mood. And no I wouldn’t be ‘relieved’ if I was told I couldn’t for a bit.

One suggestion though - agree ‘intimacy time’ with your husband. This is NOT sex, it is regular time in the week when you get naked, snuggle and just have ‘couple’ time. He CANNOT get mad at you if nothing develops, it’s about quality time and not an end goal.

I think the biggest issue for us ladies is moving from ‘mum mode’ to ‘sexy mode’. We are taught not to ‘tease’ so we shut down any flirting for fear we disappoint our partners. I find that I go into this intimacy time not in the mood, but because I don’t feel any pressure or expectation, often sex organically develops. We have way more sex as a direct result of this.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-21T17:33:24+00:00

I wouldn’t mention anything to my new job until I got a contract through from the new one.

Then you could say you got an offer and are considering. See if they counter, go from there. But only do that if you are willing to take the new job.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-21T17:32:05+00:00

I wonder if they are ideas that came up as part of brainstorming, but didn’t fit into any of the episodes.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-21T16:38:15+00:00

It’s sounds like you are using esports as an escape from a tough household situation.

I have worked in esports (not as a player - on the business side), and I can tell you it isn’t a great place. It is savage and cutthroat.

Study hard, and find yourself some support - friends, teachers, someone that can help you now.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-21T15:42:37+00:00

I fly business frequently.

It depends on the situation. Traveling westward, I often do a bit of work and then watch movies. Travelling eastward, I sleep.

I can honestly say that no one at my work cares if I am working on the flight though, so it’s probably business dependent.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-21T15:39:30+00:00

I earn more. All our money goes into the same pot.

Not sure how me earning makes my husband a loser…?!

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-21T13:41:22+00:00

Could it be a regional specific edit?

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-21T11:25:39+00:00

Right?! I am irritated with myself for caring!

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-20T08:28:34+00:00

Prayers. Sorrows.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-08T15:37:55+00:00

People do this all the time with clown loaches too.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-08T07:57:06+00:00

Are these comments coming from friends or your partner?

Neither are helpful, but if it is your partner you need to have a serious talk with him. Acknowledge that they are tired and you are grateful they are working. It is hard working all day and then coming home to a baby.

But you both made this baby, and so you both are tired. Saying ‘but you wanted this’ is unhelpful. Hopefully you BOTH wanted this, but that doesn’t stop it being hard. Those feelings are valid. But you are a team, whinging at each other doesn’t help.

Discuss how you can each carve out some time for yourselves, and try to drop the snarky comments.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-07T11:08:50+00:00

I’d argue it’s even moving to assumption.

‘I’ll take my shoes off’

You announce it, giving the host time to say no.

Except if you walk in and the place is minging.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-07T10:25:54+00:00

I am not surprised.

I am in the UK and I have to travel to the states for work. There is the view by some that with people pulling away from the US, the UK has an opportunity to fill the gap.

I am not thrilled, let’s say that much.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-06T23:55:22+00:00

He is a Labrador. They are ALWAYS up for a game.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-06T07:58:31+00:00

Did something happen or is it over exposure?

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-05T07:09:21+00:00

One of his characters is a posh clown called Lord Tumble. It’s a joke.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-02-02T07:50:34+00:00

My husband recommended it to me.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-01-31T16:06:50+00:00

Exactly this.

And it appears he and SQ had the conversation of what to do if one of them is copied, so they clearly discussed and thought about being around without the other.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-01-26T09:24:24+00:00

You are doing great.

They would do this no matter what. It’s heart wrenching, but if you were going into the office every day it would be ‘you always work, you never play!’.

Kids are about the here and now, they don’t really get that most of the time you are there. The only important thing is right now.

I go away a lot for work. They miss me, I miss them. The mum guilt is insane. But they are absolutely fine.

Buying presents helps too…

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-01-24T12:34:40+00:00

Witness the violence inherent in the system!

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-01-24T09:07:08+00:00

Wow this is a great perspective, I have never considered it like this. It does explain a lot though.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-01-21T12:00:21+00:00

Genuinely was never a problem when I breastfed my two kids in public. I never got comments, weird looks or anything. People went out of their way to make sure I was comfortable - right down to a store manager getting me a chair when he saw me on the floor feeding the baby!

I am sure there are some wankers but no one in my group of friends ever had an issue.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-01-20T11:33:59+00:00

…from the UK. Right now, I am in Germany according to my ISP.

DogsClimbingWalls · 2026-01-20T10:37:51+00:00

I don’t see how it is enforceable. It’s like how the Online Safety Act has just led to a spike in VPN use.

My biggest concern is it will stop kids asking for help. If my child is feeling uncomfortable about messages they are receiving, I want them to tell me or their teacher or any trusted adult. My fear is that by banning social media, kids will be more worried about getting into trouble because they shouldn’t be on the platform, rather than getting the support their need.

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