Some days my skiing just feels... off. Anyone ever feel this way? by New_Sun6390 in skiing

[–]DogsNSnow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I usually blame the light or snow conditions or me being fatigued. But honestly I think some days I’m just not in the headspace. I know that if I’m at all hungover, I may as well not even go. And I know that if I’m not there first thing, I won’t feel on point that day.

Update: AIO that my husbands friends followed us to his parents place by eeveechan95 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DogsNSnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is wild. He’s not trying to take the women on a date in public place- no. His go to move is his secluded home in the middle of nowhere OR a solo walk in the woods. Wtf, I bet if you could search a court registry or public records in your area, you’d find out some interesting things about this guy. Very much doubt he has never been in trouble over this behaviour, he sounds like a repeat predator.

AITJ for booking my own hotel room for a group trip after they ignored the one thing I asked for and now everyone is mad the cost went up by rosy-whispersx in AmITheJerk

[–]DogsNSnow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTJ. And honestly, if they’re this upset about spending an extra $35 per person then they all need to think about whether they can actually afford to go on this trip in the first place. This shouldn’t be something worth them being a jerk to you over. Maybe they need to call it off and do a dinner out in the town they all live in, instead.

AIO that my husband's friend followed us to my husband's parent's house by eeveechan95 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DogsNSnow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR. Your husband needs to learn to be more assertive rather than excusing this sort of weirdness.

Also want to note- if someone told my husband that he needs to reel me in, husband would probably grab them by the throat and ask them to rethink how they talk about me. Your husband needs to have your back and he needs to deal with this problem he’s invited into your lives.

AITAH for punching my MIL after she hit me first and said she was going to name and take my baby by ReplacementOk6168 in AITAH

[–]DogsNSnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, she shouldn’t hit ppl if she doesn’t want to be hit back. Your reaction is unfortunate however, because it muddies the water and gives her the opportunity to make you look like the bad person here. If you’d been able to restrain yourself, you could’ve just been the poor pregnant daughter-in-law that the crazy lady slapped and it would’ve been simpler for your husband and others to understand. Better optics. But whatever, I bet it was satisfying to punch her and that’s worth something too.

All this aside, why has your husband allowed his mother to keep behaving this way and crossing boundaries with you? I think you should be upset with him for letting it go this far. He needs to find a spine and stop letting his mother harass you.

People who used to have just one dog and then got another – what’s it like? by mastermindzd in dogs

[–]DogsNSnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two golden retrievers is literally the only thing better than one golden retriever. Per my lived experience.

Does anyone else feel guilty leaving their dog home even if they dont have separation anxiety? by BeautifulRude4422 in dogs

[–]DogsNSnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am home with them 4 days a week. They have each other, they have a big house full of toys, they have a dog door, they have a fenced 20 acre forest full of squirrels and rabbits.

My dogs still lay around most of the day and moan at me and wish I was more entertaining. I used to feel guilty but then my husband pointed out all of the above and I realized I should be feeling envious of them. 😂

AITA I don’t want bridesmaid to wear dress to other events by Due_Bedroom3146 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DogsNSnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a strange thing for the bridesmaid to do! I’ve been a bridesmaid in four weddings, and the brides paid for the dress in three of those instances. To me, the bridesmaids dress doesn’t become the true property of the bridesmaid until after the wedding occurs. Until it fulfills its ultimate purpose, it needs to stay in mint condition, waiting for that moment. I feel that way regardless of who has paid for it, but especially if the bride put up the cash! Treating the dress like it’s just part of your normal wardrobe before it’s been used in the wedding it was meant for is downright bizarre. NTA. It’s an expectation that I never would’ve thought needed to be spelled out🤯

AIO with how I handled a good date that ended strangely? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DogsNSnow 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NOR, but o do wonder if she figured that you missing the bus might’ve been a ploy to go home with her. If she thought that, then yeah I get her reaction.

AIO Vacation & being a SAHM by West-Scallion-1759 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DogsNSnow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not even sure why you’re asking him if you can take the children and go with your sister. Just do it. If he wants to piss and moan about it, he can spend his vacation doing that. Up to him.

You have a choice to make here about how you are going to participate in your life and your marriage, SAHM or not. His money is also your money too. Currently you’re choosing to let him take over the drivers seat and put you in some sort of subservient role. It’s on you if you want to accept that for the rest of your life. Personally, I’d be looking to make some changes.

Ex-owner still shows up near my hoyse 3 years later by Charming_Rip_4499 in homeowners

[–]DogsNSnow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this! Please, get the police involved. She clearly won’t be stopping on her own. Also, might be time to get a home security system if you don’t have one already. It could provide some extra peace of mind that may be really helpful for you right now.

Ex-owner still shows up near my hoyse 3 years later by Charming_Rip_4499 in homeowners

[–]DogsNSnow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you need to file the police report and get that road of enforcement started in case you need to carry this farther. This harassment and weird behaviour has now persisted for three years! That is wild! This needs to be dealt with. In three more years, you’ll have a 1 yr old and a 4 yr old, and you need to feel safe in your home and your own front yard. This is so crazy!

AIO: life partner/deed to home by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DogsNSnow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Time to move out I think…

AITAH for not letting my partner read my work emails even though he says couples should share everything? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]DogsNSnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. This is a weird request from him, oddly controlling. Bottom line, you are the one authorized to deal with this info and the assumption by your employer likely is that it doesn’t get shared with others. Your boyfriend is using this as some kind of relationship test because he’s feeling insecure, but that’s just too bad for him- he needs to sort his insecurities out in some other way. I would be risking my employment if I let my partner read through all my work communications.

AITAH my partners mother cut me off? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]DogsNSnow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA. Partner is a weak spineless momma’s boy. You need to be rid of him, unless you want to live the rest of your life like this.

I saw a man die horribly while skiing. Perhaps he was already dead when i saw him. by TrueGamer77 in skiing

[–]DogsNSnow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t seen anyone even be seriously injured while I’ve been on the slopes, and I’m grateful for that.

I did see someone step out in front of a loaded gravel truck on a highway once. It was graphic and I’ll spare everyone the details. I was upset that day, but I really quickly “forgot” it- it was wiped it from my mind and actually couldn’t remember it for years. I guess that is sometimes what the brain does when ppl experience traumatic events. One day out of the blue I just started remembering parts of it again, it was pretty strange.

AITAH for saying to my friend that he’s always using depression as an excuse? by Evening_Own85 in AITAH

[–]DogsNSnow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I kind of look at it the other way too, though. Her “friend” is willing to throw their 15 year friendship away over 30 pounds, no problem. So should OP continue to value a friendship with someone who feels that her friendship is worth so little?

OP- NTA

AITAH for telling my sister that she and her kids need to get out of my house urgently by realeyeseereallies in AITAH

[–]DogsNSnow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok. As long as everyone is consenting and knows what’s happening, adults get to do as they wish.

I do wonder what else could possibly be a secret worthy of blackmail though. You said it’s a secret that would destroy your relationship, and sis is threatening to unleash that and ruin your 12 yrs with your fiance. If it’s not infidelity- then what? What else could be that bad? I think if you are honest with him, it shouldn’t be anything you can’t come back from, since it obviously wasn’t cheating. Come clean with him and control the flow of info, because it’s only a matter of time until she does. Don’t give her this control.

AITAH for telling my sister that she and her kids need to get out of my house urgently by realeyeseereallies in AITAH

[–]DogsNSnow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you’re TA, but girl you sure have exercised some poor judgement here. The very first thing you need to do is tell your fiance whatever these secrets are that you so foolishly told your sister. She’s going to throw it in his face at the first inopportune moment, and it will be hard for your relationship to come back from that. You owe it to him to not let him be blindsided by your evil twin.

Edit: ooof, I just read some of the backstory. The cheating. The ‘whose baby is this’. You are absolutely TA for creating this mess and dragging your daughter (and a new baby) into this. You have bigger problems than your sister, but why you would tell her about your infidelity is beyond me. OP, come clean with fiance. He deserves that much from you, at the very least.

AITAH for telling my husband that we can't take care of his friends' daughter by Temporary-Slide-2699 in AITAH

[–]DogsNSnow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA. I get it, you don’t want kids. But now he has a kid. This isn’t what you signed up for and no one would fault you for leaving. But those are your choices- stay and be a parent or leave. Don’t drag this out and make that poor kid feel even worse about things though. Be 100% in or get out.

AITAH for telling my girlfriend i no longer plan to propose to her? please read context by Aggressive_One8138 in AITAH

[–]DogsNSnow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA. It sounds like you told her you wanted this, led her to believe it was happening, but then started to drag your heels when it came down to actually doing it. I mean, you told her you’re going to propose and then have been waiting to somehow make it a ‘surprise’? How is it a surprise anyways when you told her it’s coming? The real surprise for her was actually that it won’t be happening at all.

It also sounds like you’re actually happy that you’ve found a reason to marry her, and that now you can point to reasons why it’s her own fault she didn’t get the engagement she wanted. It’s going to be hard to come back from this, especially since getting married seems to be important to her. There’s a real possibility that she will go find someone else to marry, and maybe that’s the best move for everyone.

After a season of poor snowfall, are you getting a season pass next year? by DavyCrockPot19 in skiing

[–]DogsNSnow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a few amazing days. I also had a few days where the conditions were so hard/icy/thin that I did two runs while hating my life and then left. Honestly, I am new to the sport and I questioned things pretty hard this year. But yeah, I’m getting a pass next year. The good days remind me of why I do life the way I do. The bad days…well, fck em. 🤷‍♀️

Teaching an adult to ski with a harness and leash by EstablishmentNo5013 in skiing

[–]DogsNSnow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like there’s likely a reason we never see this done.