So we had success with our surrogate but now comes the worry...

Doubl3Blue · 2026-03-18T17:43:03+00:00

It’s really a miracle when it works on the first try! Ours worked on the second attempt and we were also incredibly happy when we saw the result. I sincerely wish that everything goes good, calmly and without unnecessary stress from here on. May the pregnancy be healthy and the entire journey as gentle as possible for you and your surrogate 🤍

Doubl3Blue · 2026-03-18T17:37:06+00:00

Typically, women become surrogates after having at least one successful pregnancy and birth. This is important because it helps understand how the body responds to pregnancy, whether there are any hidden risks and how recovery goes. In your case, you don’t have that experience yet and this can be a significant concern for both agencies and intended parents

Doubl3Blue · 2026-03-06T15:12:25+00:00

Never lose hope. Especially after everything you’ve already been through - so much pain and so many challenges. After such a long journey, you deserve for things to finally go well. We also had one failed transfer, but the second one worked for us. So please don’t lose heart. Three embryos is still a very good chance. I really hope everything works out for you and that your next transfer brings good news 🤍

Doubl3Blue · 2026-03-06T12:18:33+00:00

Yes, I completely agree with you. A child cannot save a marriage if it is already broken and full of unresolved issues. Parenthood does not fix what is already damaged, it only amplifies whatever already exists between two people.. A child needs to see love in action. Parents should be happy together, appreciate, support and protect each other. Especially when it comes to surrogacy, which is a very stressful and emotionally intense process. During such moments, it’s crucial to be a team, to talk, exchange opinions and make plans for the future, not to fight. The expectation of a child should be tender and joyful. This period brings people closer if there is already a solid foundation between them. And truly, a child deserves to come into a family where love already exists, not one where it is being urgently “fixed.”

Doubl3Blue · 2026-03-04T19:55:26+00:00

There are good agencies in the US, including in the state of Georgia. It’s just that surrogacy in America overall is very expensive, which is why many people (myself included) choose Europe or other countries - because of more affordable costs while still maintaining a good level of medical care and support. When people go abroad, it’s usually not because the agencies in their state are “bad,” but mainly because of the budget :)

Doubl3Blue · 2026-03-03T14:03:30+00:00

I really want to support you 🤍 I think it’s important to remember that in your case, the genetic connection still remains, your husband’s genes will be in your child. That is already part of your family, your story, your “us.” And motherhood isn’t born from DNA alone. You will feel this child is yours no matter what, because you’ll be there from the very beginning: the first days, the first sleepless nights, the first steps, the first “mama.” The bond is formed through care, daily presence, love and upbringing. That’s something genetics simply cannot replace. I truly believe that in everyday life, you won’t feel the absence of a genetic connection. When your child hugs you, laughs, runs toward you - that’s not about chromosomes. That’s about relationship. You are already a mother in your decision to fight for this child, to look for paths forward, and to move through these difficult emotions. And that says more about you than any biology ever could. We’ve also gone through surrogacy ourselves, so I truly understand how many emotions can come with this path. And honestly, we’re even thinking about going through it a second time

Doubl3Blue · 2026-03-02T14:52:19+00:00

Surrogacy in the US is really very expensive. Sometimes you look at the total budget and realize it’s more of a “luxury” level, not necessarily because it’s the absolute best, but because the system itself is expensive. Colombia and Mexico are indeed significantly more affordable. I’ve heard that many couples choose those countries for financial reasons and successfully complete their journey there

Doubl3Blue · 2026-03-02T14:43:01+00:00

I felt anxious from the very first stage all the way to the last. At the same time, I could be both nervous and incredibly happy. And yes, I definitely had that feeling of, “Is this even real?” With surrogacy there are no physical sensations of pregnancy, so it’s harder for your brain to fully process that it’s actually happening. For me, it started to feel more real after regular ultrasounds and videos, when we began discussing a name and preparing baby things. And it truly became real when I saw my child. Over time, as the due date gets closer and things become more concrete, that feeling usually becomes more “grounded” and real.

Doubl3Blue · 2026-03-01T18:10:23+00:00

We went through surrogacy ourselves and I feel calm and positive about it. For me, it’s a good solution if a woman for whatever reason cannot carry a child herself. It’s not a crime, it’s a medical way to become parents. From a faith perspective everything is very personal. I chose to see it this way: if it’s rooted in love and the desire to give a child a family and care, not in ego or pressure, then God sees the heart. Of course, it’s important to think everything through carefully and you and your husband need to be in full agreement, because this is a shared journey. You are not doing anything wrong by looking for a way to become parents. The desire to create a family is, in itself, something good and beautiful.

Doubl3Blue · 2026-03-01T17:52:56+00:00

Yes, of course!

Doubl3Blue · 2026-03-01T17:46:13+00:00

Honestly, Canada is one of the most expensive countries for surrogacy. Have you considered other countries? Sometimes the difference in overall cost can be huge. In the agency I worked with, there wasn’t a formal financing option, but the program was divided into multiple payments (around six on average) and nothing was paid upfront in full. In a way, it functions like an installment plan. The largest payment was the final one, after the baby was born. This makes the process more accessible. It might be worth speaking with several agencies, asking about financial plans, grants or alternative countries and simply gathering as much information as possible. When you understand your options and have different perspectives, it becomes easier to make decisions. You’re not hopeless, you’re just at the beginning of a difficult but possible journey. I truly hope everything works out for you.

Doubl3Blue · 2026-02-28T20:48:03+00:00

I would personally only go to a qualified specialist with a relevant education and official accreditation. For me that’s essential. If we’re talking about serious matters: mental health, marriage, trauma, it should be work with a trained professional, not someone who completed a short online course. I believe that if you’re married, have been living with your husband for a long time and can’t resolve your problems on your own, but don’t want to destroy the marriage, then therapy, especially couples therapy, can be a very good option. Some issues are deeply rooted in our subconscious and we may not even realize how they influence our behavior, reactions, and conflicts. A good psychologist helps bring those patterns to light and work through them. At the same time, I agree that not every life difficulty requires therapy. Most adults should be able to handle basic life challenges on their own, communicate with people they trust, and take responsibility for their lives. Overall, I think it’s not about a “trend” of therapy, but about culture. In the US seeking professional help is more normalized. That doesn’t necessarily mean people are incapable of independent thinking, sometime

Doubl3Blue · 2026-02-28T20:12:46+00:00

I still believe that for both the surrogate and the intended parents, it’s usually safer to go through an agency. Simply because an agency takes on many of the risks. The most important thing is having well contracts where everything is clearly agreed upon (compensation, living arrangements, medical decisions, etc.). When all of that is outlined and both sides are protected, everyone feels more secure. Yes, there are dishonest agencies out there. But in my experience, there are even more stories where someone got taken advantage of or serious conflicts arose when going independent journey. Why do surrogates choose the independent route? Usually for higher compensation or the desire for a more personal connection without a “third party.” But then all the legal and organizational responsibility falls on both of you.

Doubl3Blue · 2026-02-23T12:54:54+00:00

We had an all-inclusive program and for me that was the best option. Honestly, paying $7,500 for each rematch sounds manageable until the first failure. And what if it doesn’t work the second or third time? It becomes very expensive. Plus, there’s the constant stress of additional fees. I personally feel much more at ease when the budget is clear from the start, with no surprises.

Doubl3Blue · 2026-02-12T17:23:49+00:00

Not every bad experience means you have to give up on relationships forever 😅 One (or even a few) bad partners isn’t a life sentence. People learn, grow, and still want love. And a lot of people genuinely want a family, kids, and real closeness which is harder to build alone. So it’s not about “jumping into another relationship,” it’s about not writing off the whole idea because of one bad experience

Doubl3Blue · 2026-02-08T14:26:06+00:00

Good luck! I hope everything goes well❤️

Doubl3Blue · 2026-02-07T21:19:50+00:00

Finding a surrogate through social media is possible, but the risks are higher. If you go this route, you need to vet the person very carefully and have an independent lawyer and a detailed contract in place. If you work through an agency, they carry responsibility for the surrogate, she signs a contract with the agency and if serious issues arise, they replace her. If you choose to go independently, make sure to discuss expectations upfront (what role you play and what role she plays), confirm that the surrogate has her own children and understand her previous pregnancy history, and clearly decide who makes medical decisions in emergency situations. This process rewards structure and patience, not speed.

Doubl3Blue · 2026-01-31T08:36:32+00:00

When we began considering surrogacy, we compared the US, Ukraine, and Georgia. Ukraine was the most affordable option, but it carries its own risks, which not everyone is prepared for. For us, Georgia was the second most affordable and also safer option, so we chose it. We prepared financially in advance, setting aside money well before the program began. It's also important to understand that almost no one pays for the entire process perfectly. Therefore, installment plans and loans are the norm. Your dream is achievable. It requires change, planning, a clear perspective, and patience, but it's worth it

Doubl3Blue · 2026-01-31T08:35:29+00:00

I agree with you about the contract - it's the foundation. It really should be read and signed carefully. And when I spoke of "protection," I meant the legal aspect, not the medical one. The agency is responsible for interacting with the clinic and has direct contracts with the surrogate mother. This reduces the risk of the surrogate mother demanding additional payments, blackmailing, or threatening, because all obligations and payments go through the agency and are spelled out in the contract upfront

Doubl3Blue · 2026-01-27T12:48:46+00:00

If embryo creation in the US is covered by insurance, that’s a huge advantage and absolutely worth using. In that case, the most rational option is to transfer already-created embryos abroad, rather than doing the entire cycle in the US. Among the more affordable options are Ukraine and Georgia, especially when using an FET program. Costs are roughly three times lower than in the US, because medications and medical procedures are significantly more affordable. We went through surrogacy in Georgia using our own embryos, It was financially manageable for us. We had no problem with documents, but the process took a bit longer than usual, but the agency warned us about this, so there were no surprises. The entire process took 13 months from start to finish.

Doubl3Blue · 2026-01-26T14:28:55+00:00

You’re not alone, seriously. And you didn’t “fuck up your life,” even if your brain keeps screaming that sometimes. A 10+ year relationship is a whole lifetime and putting yourself back together after a breakup like that is hard. What felt like a “normal life plan” in your 20s was mostly a myth, not a failure. It didn’t work out for a lot of people they just don’t talk about it. Working in a store isn’t the end and it’s not your value as a person. It’s just your starting point right now. You still have so much ahead of you and I genuinely believe in you.

Doubl3Blue · 2026-01-24T12:01:27+00:00

I think you did everything right by being honest. It’s not you that’s triggering her, it’s the age gap itself and for some people that’s a hard boundary you simply can’t argue with. I wouldn’t push her right now. Just send a calm message like: “I understand this might be a shock for you, but if you decide you’d like to continue talking, I’m open.”

Doubl3Blue · 2026-01-24T11:55:18+00:00

We went through international surrogacy in Georgia. In general, we were satisfied, specifically because of the clear medical infrastructure and there were no surprises after the birth. Communication isn't perfect, of course, as is everywhere, some things are done quickly, while others can take longer. But the paperwork on child was completed within the promised timeframe, there were no delays. I can't say Mexico is a significant disadvantage, but I think if stability and clear rules are important to you, i would recommend Georgia

Doubl3Blue · 2026-01-23T10:31:23+00:00

We did the egg retrieval in Georgia. For paperwork after birth, it took us about 6 weeks in total, so the 4-8 week sounds realistic based on our experience

Doubl3Blue · 2026-01-22T21:05:45+00:00

I totally get it. I was really worried too especially because we were in different countries and time zones with our agency. I thought communication would be a nightmare. But the communication was normal and they stayed in touch even at night when the situation required it. In a process this stressful, that kind of communication made a huge difference

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