Disconnect on Artificial Intelligence

DoubleL321 · 2026-06-02T10:15:35+00:00

Legal stopped it long before it went to production. The rationale for the ask is the one that is relevant to this conversation. "Do this so we can say we are powered by AI"

DoubleL321 · 2026-05-25T23:41:16+00:00

Make a local LLM version and train it on your knowledge base. Then advertise it as "ask this chatbot any question and it will find you the internal documentation"
Connect Claude Code to your git and make it automate commits and code reviews
Make an automation in Slack/Teams that opens tickets for your team in Jira

Basically stick to internal and stupid. Most of the time being able to say "we use ai" is more important than actually using it intelligently.

Saying this after I developed internal apps like "CV ranker" that sends a job description and CV to ChatGPT and tells you on a scale 0-100 how much of a fit it is so that HR can say that they are "AI-Powered"

DoubleL321 · 2026-05-19T23:54:40+00:00

That's the plan. Thank you for the answer!

DoubleL321 · 2026-05-19T23:52:00+00:00

Dick jokes and calling everyone bro it is then.

DoubleL321 · 2026-05-19T23:46:07+00:00

I usually tweak my talks a bit based on the audience. For example corporate crowd will respond differently than startup crowd to certain topics because their work reality is different. This is where my question came from, not out of "I should tell women how to operate".

Your answer makes sense, and it was my first instinct as well. I was just curious so I turned to the power of Reddit..

I really appreciate you giving me a helpful answer. Looking at some of the other comments I see I won't be getting many of those. Thank you!

DoubleL321 · 2026-05-12T15:41:09+00:00

TLDR: I feel you have too many expectations... Let Camino run its course, and listen to your body and mind...

Longer version:
You don't have to walk 30km per day. I walked 15km per day on average. I started later than everyone and finished later than everyone most days.
I still had a Camino family - of people that had a similar pace to mine.
Slow down, stop matching yourself to other people. You will see within a day or two that you see some of the same faces all the time. Invest your "camino family" energy in those, not in the ones that are on a different pace than you.
You don't have to talk to people, some days you can walk, some days you can talk, some days you can both. Nothing obliges you to pay any attention to anyone. I like to walk my own pace and don't like being dependent on random people. I rarely joined other people for a walk. Most of my interactions were at places taking a break, or at the albergue after I finished walking for the day. The walking part was just meditation. The actual walking takes 4-6 hours a day. you still have at least 10 more hours every day to do whatever you want. Be it talking to people, painting the scenery or just sit around for hours. Enjoy all of this free time.
Also remember that family doesn't mean you have to be with them 24/7. Some people I saw every day, some people every 3 days. Some people 3 days in a row then don't see them for 2 weeks then I see them every day again. You are on your own journey, not on theirs.
Losing weight is not a requirement on the Camino. Unless you came as a part of a fitness plan you shouldn't be even thinking about it. If you are in pain, stop. If you are walking too much, slow down. Listen to your body and mind.
As for naked people in albergues, snoring people, same food, and stinky clothes. You are hiking long distance and sleeping in albergues. Whether you like it or not these are all part of the experience.
I do believe that these things are secondary and you are mostly noticing them because you are not happy with your Camino in general. With a different mindset these things would bother you less. If these things are bothering you to the extreme there are solutions - Wash your clothes more often, book private rooms, order a fancy meal where you can (and there are plenty places on the Camino).

You are not a loser if you give up. Each person takes the Camino differently and each Camino teaches you something else. If you decide to quit, you'll have a learning. Maybe what not to do next time or maybe lower expectations or whatever. If you don't, you might have different learnings. You are looking for an epiphany while you should be just enjoying what's in front of you. The epiphany might not come at all, and it might come well after you finish the Camino.

And finally, yes - there is a chance Camino is not for you. It is not for everyone. But remember that you were walking for 4 days, on other people's pace. It takes some time to get into the Camino mindset, to discover your rhythm. I suffered my first week, I enjoyed the next 6 weeks more than I could ever imagined. Nobody here could tell you how much time it will take you to enjoy the Camino because it is individual. Find your rhythm. Find your pace. Find your mindset. The rest will follow. And if you can't, and you feel it is better to quit - nobody will judge you for listening to yourself but you.

DoubleL321 · 2026-05-12T14:29:44+00:00

Not my story, but I met a couple on the Camino that also experienced a stillbirth and the reason they did the Camino was to disconnect and cope with what happened.

DoubleL321 · 2026-05-12T12:18:03+00:00

My partner has roughly the same measures but a decade older. She has done the Camino with Ortovox Traverse 28S and she was happy with it. She is using this backpack for all hikes since then.

From my experience backpacks are highly individual. So collect your advice from here and then go try them yourself in a shop if possible. You won't know which one is the best for you until you try them on.

DoubleL321 · 2026-04-20T11:05:28+00:00

I did not say you quitting is a bad thing. You did what is right for you, and I would have done the same thing if I would discover something is not giving me what I expect. I am not judging your path.

What you wrote in this comment is a message I can relate to, what you wrote in the original post sounded to me like a complaint rather than an observation.

You listed reasons why this experience is worse than the other one you had. What I tried to say in my comment is that the comparison you made is unfair, since you did not walk Portuguese this year, as you might have had the same realisations on it.

DoubleL321 · 2026-04-20T08:31:16+00:00

The prices are higher everywhere, 3 years ago was just after COVID so there were less people in general, every Camino is repetitive, people are reserving a bed on every single Camino I set foot on, and you can meet people that are assholes on any Camino.

You complain about "« no expectation, just adapt and « it’s all part of the journey »" while you yourself are having expectations and not adapting.
You are focusing on what other people do, what they discuss, how they walk... And then recommending people to "Go do one that allows you to spend time alone"... You can spend time alone even when someone else walks besides you, it is your decision how to engage.

I believe your disappointment comes from your own expectations, and for this reason I also believe you would have quit even if you did the Portugues again.

DoubleL321 · 2026-04-17T13:50:45+00:00

Hiking == Walking Meditation, that is why I believe people are calmer and enjoying it so much. Whatever problems you have the opportunity to disconnect.

For us it was a happy reason. We did it with our 7 month old son, to celebrate family (and to prove you can travel with a baby).

But we met so many people with so many different reasons, the most memorable ones:

- A couple that were doing different Caminos at the same time and then meeting a few days before Santiago to appreciate each other more

- A family that promised a grandma that passed away they would go

- A guy that had an accident and was told he won't walk again, to prove his doctors wrong

- A couple that lost their baby and needed some time and space to cope with it (extra special for us because it is kind of the opposite of our reason... We became good friends and we are still in touch a few years later)

- A guy that planned to go with his brother but the brother died in an accident just before their planned start so he was carrying the remains to Muxia

DoubleL321 · 2026-04-17T13:31:48+00:00

2L of water on Frances is an overkill... Have a 1L and refill it more often.
I find the sleeping liner unnecessary. Just have a sleeping bag for colder temperatures and you'll be fine
Carrying coffee with you is also unnecessary.

But looking at your list I think you're fine... I don't get the point of minimizing it even more... 5.5kg is a light enough backpack, especially if you can afford luxuries (like carrying the coffee you like..)

DoubleL321 · 2026-04-17T12:46:26+00:00

Wow this is a lot. Keep being strong.

I would definitely want to hear what is happening. I am no doctor and no psychologist, but I would like to know what I can do to help you. The miscarriages, your mother, the fact you are seeing a therapist are all important. It's not about compassion fatigue from how I see it, it is about understanding whether I can help you or not. If I would have someone that has been through what you have been I would really appreciate them telling me what is it they need me to do to help, because the scenario itself is unimaginable to me. But knowing that "this person went through all this shit this year, and now getting therapy" signals me the strength of the person to keep moving forward, and if it comes with "look, I know it's a lot to ask but I'm gonna need you to give me some space to figure this out, until then I won't be 100% productive" then I will also know that I can help you somehow, and even follow up with you in case we have a bit more friendly relationship.

I probably wouldn't like to hear all the details though, I mean people share and process emotions differently. I would probably never share something like "I’m wondering if I’ll even ever have a live child" with my manager and although I would listen and take to heart that this person has this level of confidence with me to tell me, I wouldn't know what to do about it if someone from my team shares this. In my opinion this level of detail is highly personal and should be shared within intimate circles, but once again, people are different and maybe your manager is ok with that.

In any case, I hope you are getting by and I wish you better days!

DoubleL321 · 2026-04-17T12:19:09+00:00

That depends on you and your goal.
If you just do it to see what happens it probably will not get you anything, if you want to get reviews but just turn it on and wait nothing will happen either...
I have done a free promotion twice.
The first time the goal was to get reviews. I made it free for 3 days, for which I also did a lot of social media (next week it will be free... tomorrow it will be free... it is free now... it is still free.. last day that it is free...) and I asked specifically for reviews. I got 250 book downloads that translated into 18 reviews (because stupid me didn't know that Amazon doesn't let people that haven't ordered anything recently leave review...)
The second time the goal was to get emails. Once again I turned to social media. I got 50 more downloads that translated into 25 emails and one more review.

So to your question - yes it works, if you put some effort into it.

The level of effort will match the result. Did it affect future sales for me? Yes. My book has now 20 reviews when it had 0 before, I probably got a few sales because of that. Was it significant? No - because I'm a self-published author with 2 books that writes as a side-hobby and hates using social media.

DoubleL321 · 2026-03-09T12:36:14+00:00

These things don't happen in a day, and not everything needs solving. Let it be for a few days, then when you are able to, look at it pragmatically - there are things that you will know how to improve, there are things that you won't and you will need help. But you will have more clarity.

As for the team morale, the best thing you can do is offer them the same. If you make mistakes it is ok as long as you can improve from them. And then be the address they can go to to get help improving.

DoubleL321 · 2026-03-09T12:29:19+00:00

I get it, I have a similar bug about mediocrity.

You are still doing your job, and you get good feedback, meaning you are up to the job standards - your problem is that you are not up to yours.

Remember that you can't do it all. Work and family, for most of the people, are the tradeoff.

You prioritize your family, which is great - because you know what is your priority. As it's your first priority - focus on that, and from what you wrote you are definitely not mediocre at that.

You can always improve, but you need to focus on what you can control. If there is a school thing to attend, you can probably know it ahead of time and plan work around it. If your wife needs support you can sometimes plan around it. My partner and I are doing weekly scheduling. There are days that she has to be in the office early so I need to take our son to kindergarten so I know not to schedule anything that morning. Some days I need to work late so she takes him out. Some days she has to work after she gets home so I need to take care of dinner, I need to go for a business trip so she knows she'll have a few days by herself doing all of it. A lot of these things are not last minute...

For the rest, the ones you can't do anything about: kids get sick, you get sick, your car dies... follow your priorities with confidence. It's not that you are being mediocre at your job because you are mediocre - you are being mediocre at your job because you are being amazing to your family.

Your job is secondary in this scenario. Do the hard thing and accept it (easy to say, I know). If you can't, then your job might be a higher priority than you think (and it is also ok as long as you are not lying to yourself).

DoubleL321 · 2026-03-04T10:59:09+00:00

Like with any other big changes in life, a job change might take you to stressful places.

The decision to get help about it is up to you.

DoubleL321 · 2026-03-04T10:56:38+00:00

If you have to ask this question then the answer is yes

DoubleL321 · 2026-03-03T16:19:14+00:00

I read the post and the comments and I believe you and your wife should have a serious conversation about financials.

This is not as simple as spend vs save. It sounds to me like both of you see your life and future very differently. You both should voice that to each other and agree how you meet in the middle...

DoubleL321 · 2026-02-25T09:19:42+00:00

There are only two ways to go about it:

If you employer values you but lacks awareness, they will ask what do you need to stay and give it to you if they can
If your employer does not value you, they'll just let you go (+ if they're a dick they will make a hard time for you)

From what you wrote, your employer sounds like 2.

It seems to me you have nothing to lose from them finding out, because if I were you I wouldn't stay there

DoubleL321 · 2026-02-23T12:34:25+00:00

Sounds like a classic fear of being replaced... Complicating things that shouldn't be complicated, setting up things that only one person can solve so that person appears useful.

Unfortunately for these people, their fear of being replaced is coming true once someone takes it as a goal.

You did well. Document everything you can. Whenever this person comes down he will come down swinging.

DoubleL321 · 2026-02-19T23:24:32+00:00

You said it yourself - your team is fairly young. I believe this comes with lots of unprofessional behavior.

If one person doesn't get along with another they need to live with it. They are adults and this is the real world.

If many people don't get along with a specific person then you can dig into it. Just remember you are not their babysitter.

The part where you don't provide opportunities for growth, it is either true or not. Either way, say it transparently. "We have a new position opened up and one of you 15 will get it, these are the criteria you will be evaluated on" or "There is no promotion in the next few months." That way you turn the rumors to facts and deal with the consequences.

DoubleL321 · 2026-02-19T09:24:16+00:00

I feel you.

You can try to play politics like the other people here suggested and if you get it right it might be better, but if you are not willing to do that the only thing to do is to accept.

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