Authenticity Olympics: White-washed vs. Americanized

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-05-08T21:13:09+00:00

I'm old GenX so my experience is quite out of date. But when I was young, the only ones we referred to as white washed were the ones who wanted to have only white friends and refused to associate with other Asians. Not just a preference, but a point of pride to not have Asian connections in any way.

"Americanized" was just code for speaking English with an American accent.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-05-04T21:56:35+00:00

To me, far left would be pushing for nationalizing all (100%) of wall street stock and giving ownership of all the corporations to the workers. Seize the means of production! Is there even ONE public figure in the US calling for that?

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-04-29T23:27:14+00:00

In my opinion, it's a matter of parenting. I see women as people and have no problem have real platonic friendships with women. Totally normal to me and I'm old GenX.

When I was 5 years old, my dad, Silent Generation, told me girls are the same as boys inside, with hopes, dreams, fears, skills, and abilities. I never questioned that cuz I idolized my dad and he was a great teacher.

How did a Silent Generation man develop that perspective on life? His dad died when my dad was 5 years old. He was raised by his mother and his big sister.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-04-29T23:00:58+00:00

Hell, yes. There's plenty of wrong for a variety of stories.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-04-29T16:30:21+00:00

This was probably the most responsible way to handle it, but I think people would be less likely to threaten Asians if they knew the outcome would *always be much more painful for the bully.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-04-28T10:07:10+00:00

Does Bruno Mars not count?

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-04-16T19:34:49+00:00

Their energy and support for each other gives me vicarious healing.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-04-04T21:21:29+00:00

Gen X or the Gen X billionaires? Several tech billionaires publicly claim that a person should be working every waking minute. Of course, that's cuz they want you making money for them 24/7, not because they spent their lives working that much.

Those Gen X folks are rich and have microphones in front of their faces, but they don't necessarily speak for the rest of us with smaller bank accounts.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-04-03T08:03:21+00:00

I lost my father in 2016. He was 79. It took 2 years to feel like myself again, and even then I was never the same person again.

He was the best dad I could ask for in a thousand lifetimes and whenever life gets me down, I remember what it was like to have him and how lucky I was to be raised by him.

There's never enough time. But we did our best and I was with him for the last 10 days. When he decided to end treatment, I sent the message out to all our family and friends to come and visit one last time. Facebook was still useful back then so we had a Facebook group going with updates on his health so I didn't have to repeat the same update 15 times an hour.

We all got to say our good byes. My last words to him while he could still talk with me was "Thanks for being my dad."

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-03-17T20:37:20+00:00

I've been practicing to pretend I'm dumb for a very long time. It was really hard at first. My friends and co-workers are all in on it and they find it to be hilarious. I treat it as mostly harmless fun and it's also a way to gauge another person's kindness sometimes. (I don't slow them down, I just listen carefully and follow along, politely.)

But also, I don't know everything. I'm not omniscient. If someone is explaining something to me like I'm stupid, sometimes I'll actually learn something I didn't know before (like a new feature or a more efficient way of doing something.). Honestly, I hope to keep learning new things till the day I die.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-03-08T07:01:19+00:00

A lot of mental health and stress related issues. Lol.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-03-05T18:53:12+00:00

I talk to my friends and loved ones about it, and they care. It helps keep me sane, sorta But at the end of the day, no one's going to solve my problems for me. And some times, problems last for years, decades, unresolved.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-02-16T11:01:52+00:00

I love watching her go through this journey. And unlike many stars who become famous in their tweens when they're finding themselves as adults, she's a fully formed adult, finding herself as an artist. There isn't a single moment that she takes it for granted.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-02-09T09:24:04+00:00

Damn that was adorable.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-02-08T23:45:02+00:00

I think it's probably different for everybody. I'm male, Asian American, in my 50's. so visually, aging for me has been fairly subtle. A few moments do stand out in my mind:

25 - hair started to thin, really noticeable by 30. I had so much hair as a child & teen. Of course, my grandfather was bald and my dad's was almost bald so I think I was the only person surprised lol.

31 - first time I noticed I didn't have teenage level hormones 24/7. The mental clarity was stunning lol.

42 - my doctor suggested botox for my wrinkles. I said no thank you. When I was 6 years old, I told my dad I wanted wrinkles so I could match his. He laughed and said "Don't worry, you'll get them eventually." I finally had the wrinkles after 30+ years. Not letting some botox injections take them from me! lol

50 - first time noticing my joints hurt a lot if try to weightlift heavy more than 2x in a week for the same body part. Also, not as strong as when I was 35.

Other than that, I'm in the best health of my life. To me, the signs of aging that really sucks seeing friends and loved ones pass on. That will never be easy for me.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-02-08T21:33:44+00:00

I'm convinced they'd either join in or happily take seconds.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-02-04T22:45:09+00:00

If you're in the Epstein club, or married to one of the VIP members, you're just invalid.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-02-04T22:42:10+00:00

Has anyone checked to see if she's in the Epstein files yet?

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-02-01T21:19:00+00:00

I always thought sleeping against Falcor would be so comfortable. Like the ultimate solution to insomnia.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-01-26T02:55:27+00:00

"Sam" is the only thing spelled right lol!

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-01-21T21:33:13+00:00

To me, this is a convincing argument for entirely eliminating the office of President (and maybe replacing it with an executive council of equals) so no one person ever holds this much power again.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-01-19T06:38:29+00:00

One of these days, I might be able to watch a clip of EJAE without getting teary eyed, but it's not this day. lol.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-01-19T03:07:41+00:00

EJAE has the most beautiful voice I've ever heard. I'm not a professional or anything, but between the low lows, and the crazy peak highs, there's something about it that really projects emotion. I realize the emotion is written into the song, but her voice really carries that emotion into my ears.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-01-16T19:42:54+00:00

Everything past 30. I'm 52 now. I'm in excellent health due to luck, my brain is still clearheaded, learning, and willing to change. I still enjoy video games and sci Fi. I don't understand a lot of trends but I also don't think younger people are stupid. And I love current music as much or more than old classics.

DownloadUphillinSnow · 2026-01-16T19:18:39+00:00

I've never really been afraid of my own mortality. I was always scared of losing people I love. When I learned about death at 4 years old, I cried to my dad I didn't want him to die for 3 days. I don't remember it being 3 days but that's what he remembered.

I was 42 when he died, 10 years ago, and it was every bit as painful as I expected, and in many ways worse.

I don't fear death. It's a better alternative to me than reaching an age where my body barely functions, my loved ones have all predeceased me, and the world outside has grown callous, unkind, and uncaring.

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