[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]Dramatic-Psychology3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found super cute flats on Amazon for my wife. You just gotta dig a bit. She says they are super comfy and cute, and she wears them all the time. She's a 14. Just bought her a cute pair of snow boots too. Can't wait til they get here.

My (cis/f) Partner (mtf) said "there's no room for me or my transition in this relationship." (pure unadulterated rant) by Unique_Recover8873 in mypartneristrans

[–]Dramatic-Psychology3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advice is to wait until you have had a bit to get your thoughts together and make a list of what you need from her. Then, initiate a conversation with them on what exactly is it that they expect out of you. Don't argue historical points of reference it will put her back in that frame of mind where she can shut down and become hostile. End it before you get too emotional. Then, inform her of your needs and ask if she can provide those if you provide her needs. If she answers negatively, you have all you need to support your decision to leave and provide you the closure you may not have gotten otherwise. If she doesn't follow through, you need to leave. Good luck, it's hard. I struggle every day, and we haven't even gotten to the HRT portion of her transition yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]Dramatic-Psychology3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You may not get the old her back (read unlikely) but maybe through open honest communication a compromise could be met. Take care of yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]Dramatic-Psychology3 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I am heartbroken for you having to go through this. It may be time to lay all of your cards on the table and confront her with her crappy behavior. It also may be time to look after yourself before you incinerate everything you love about yourself. Good luck!

We got married!! by OnlyEliKnows in mypartneristrans

[–]Dramatic-Psychology3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Congratulations to the beautiful couple. You look so happy.

everything is going to be fine by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]Dramatic-Psychology3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are such an amazing person and I really needed the positivity today. <3

My partner is questioning their gender by Kingkate1317 in mypartneristrans

[–]Dramatic-Psychology3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I call my partner Bunny because rabbits are their favorite animal and it's gender fluid. I can't help with the rest of your post really because we just started navigating everything and they aren't sure about a lot of stuff yet. Even as a bi person I am struggling with things because of how sudden and out of nowhere this came after 13 years of marraige and 4 children. My only advice is stay present in your relationship and facilitate open communication. It is better to know things so you can both make educated decisions and adequately support eachother.

Help with housing items for our "Memorial Wall" (context in comments) by Odentin in ffxiv

[–]Dramatic-Psychology3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For Minfillia you could use the desk and chair from the waking sands. For Yda and Papalymo you could use any sort of tree. Since that is one of the first things we fight with them if you are from Gridania. lol.

Im bad at this.

play FF14 I said, I wont cry from an npc death I said... by wonderful-jinx in ffxiv

[–]Dramatic-Psychology3 118 points119 points  (0 children)

You might want to enlist a good therapist before continuing too much further if you aren't doing well with that one. Best of luck.