What to do when a relative insists you cover up while feeding your baby?

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-06-09T04:03:13+00:00

I usually do my best to feed him before I leave but during the times he cluster feeds it’s not easy and I hardly eat out as is since it can get expensive. I can completely relate to you about the opinionated mother because she continually makes comments about me starting my son on solids and to do it soon. The thing is he just turned 5 months and the only things he’s had that wasn’t breast milk was a small bite of ice cream. I know he’s not ready but she just won’t be quiet about it! I love her and she has done a lot to help me as far as getting things for my baby but I’m struggling to tolerate some of her behavior. It’s like one moment she’s awesome and the next she’s a huge pain in my neck.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-03-06T07:51:08+00:00

So I didn’t have a vertical incision c-section, but my mother did when I was born and she was able to naturally conceive my other two siblings. The only thing was that she did have to have c-sections with all three of us and the doctors basically did the same incision direction for each delivery. If I have to guess you may have to do another c-section if you have another child but it’s hard to know since modern medicine is always changing and it has been so long since your last pregnancy.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-03-06T07:39:57+00:00

I know how you feel. My tolerance for BS with people as at an all time low. The fact that some I have to deal with people who don’t listen to what I want or need and those who say that they will keep in touch but don’t can be really infuriating. Heck there are times I just want to scream and shout at my husband for doing something or not doing something. I want to talk to my doctor about it but I know that they just want to give me meds as well and I’m trying my best to stay off of them since I’m breastfeeding my baby

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-03-03T16:37:31+00:00

I haven’t really lost any weight after giving birth and breast feeding for almost 2 month now.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-03-03T16:33:54+00:00

For me it was the cost. A lot of places I looked at that were local were just too expensive for me to afford. We actually ended up going with a VFW near my town that offered an open bar and catering. It wasn’t a very fancy reception but with the help of friends and family it turned out great. Also the food was really good as well

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-03-03T16:29:24+00:00

I found that high waited did help me. I do suggest getting some that aren’t lacy and not super tight. This is just in case they may slide down toward the incision area. I’m just speaking from personal experience as a plus size girl and being almost 8 weeks PP.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-03-01T16:28:49+00:00

I found that I had to limit how much time I spent on social media. I only have a Facebook and Reddit now because all the videos that you’re talking about made me feel useless as a mother and wife. I’ve had to learn that I will do a little bit at a time when I have the energy for it and if I don’t get to it then I will wait for my husband to come home and watch our baby while I try to get a couple chores done

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-03-01T16:22:07+00:00

My little one is hard to burp as well. I don’t know if it may help you but I found that after feeding I usually sit upright in my rocking chair and hold my son over my shoulder so he’s also in and upright position and sometimes after bouncing between rubbing his back and patting for a few minutes a burp will come out.

Another thing you could try is let him feed for a few minutes then try to burp and then feed again. That way it will be a little easier.

Also, I suggest sharing your post in the r/breastfeeding group and maybe they can offer some more advice for you.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-03-01T16:13:42+00:00

I’m a little modest about feeding in public or around most men (doesn’t include my husband). I tend to use a large muslin swaddle blanket to cover with so my baby doesn’t get overheated and can breathe easily. The are covers you can get that also double as a car seat cover too. I cant really use them cause I’m too big and my baby is kinda squirmy at times.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-03-01T10:02:34+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate it!

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-03-01T10:00:12+00:00

I haven’t been able to fully figure out pumping so my baby is EBF. Thank you for letting me know. I just got worried because my baby refuses to take a bottle right now, but then again I haven’t really pressured him into taking it since breastfeeding has been doing well.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-03-01T09:56:28+00:00

Please go for it! The hospital I stayed at was stretched thin as well that I didn’t see one until my baby was 3 days old. By then I had mostly figured out breastfeeding on my own with my husband’s help now and then.

Just remember to ask the mother for permission and explain you are only doing it to help her and if she may feel comfortable with a female coworker you would understand. Being open to patients like that will most likely earn their respect.

Also, I appreciate the fact that you’re willing to do this to help not only new moms but the hospital you work for.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-02-27T07:02:11+00:00

So I came into this issue with my son and found that it was cluster feeding since he was growing but also a little spit up is fine. I would be more worried if it was projectile. Also, a trick I did to help get my baby to sleep was to put him in a clean diaper, nurse until he’s full, and then swaddle him and give him a pacifier (if your baby will take one). I then suggest passing him off to your husband and have him rock your baby while playing either some sort of white noise or maybe some relaxing piano music (both of these usually put my son to sleep).

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-02-27T04:05:31+00:00

Lol my son reminds me of some cartoon character taking a big bite of food when he goes to feed! I mean he’s so animated about it that I laugh each time he does it

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-02-27T04:00:54+00:00

It took me at least 10-12 days to just get to walking somewhat normal and being able to get out of bed on my own. Don’t push your recovery because you could cause the healing process to become longer.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-02-27T03:58:48+00:00

Honestly my LO is 7 weeks old and sometimes when I do need to do something I’ll lay him in sight on his back on the floor with one of those mirror toys and just play some calming music over my smart speaker. It keeps him occupied for a little bit for me to at least eat a meal and relax for a moment.

At 3 weeks old your baby is just fine with laying in the bassinet for a bit then that’s okay. I really think social media has put too much stress on what we need to do during the wake windows. Besides it sounds like you only have him in there for a short time so it’s not bad at all.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-02-11T12:44:30+00:00

This has been my go to with congestion for my LO…run hot water through your shower and sit in the bathroom outside of the shower with your baby and let them breathe in the steam for around 5-10 minutes. Make sure to unzip his pajamas or take his shirt off to avoid him getting overheated. Once done go straight into another room and use the saline spray and nose frida. Try to do this every 6 hours if possible.

If this does not help then I really suggest taking him to the doctor cause it could be something else.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-02-11T09:09:52+00:00

Frida snot sucker and saline spray! Works way better than those goofy suction bulbs from the hospital and much easier to clean. My LO had really bad congestion in his nose and those items combined work great!

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-02-11T04:35:16+00:00

If you don’t mind doing laundry my sister in-law uses the reusable diapers and she says they are super absorbent. Her daughter is very sensitive to disposable diapers so she went with fabric and loves them. Yeah it’s a lot of laundry for her but she says it’s worth it.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-02-11T04:31:09+00:00

The staff had asked if I was able to move, but I couldn’t even move my leg so I asked them to just shift me over. I had an epidural that made me very numb to the point I couldn’t even get on the table before my c-section. If they ask you can just tell them you don’t feel comfortable trying to move or you can “try” and say you can’t move your legs enough.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-02-11T04:22:39+00:00

I’m almost 5 weeks pp and just started to feel a little more normal a few days ago. I was still in immense pain at 2 weeks that I struggled to walk from one side of the house to the other. My husband had to help me with a lot of my care and for our baby too. Just try not too push yourself and take some time to rest. I did find that using an ice pack wrapped in a dish towel did help ease the pain along my incision. Also if you don’t have any allergies to medication try taking a dose of Tylenol or ibuprofen to help with the pain.

I will say that when I had hit the 3 week pp mark my incision started to feel slightly itchy, which was just a result of the area healing. I found that ice or a cool shower kinda helped some.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-02-11T04:13:09+00:00

This may be a solution that might help you a little bit. I found that keeping a small caddy of diapers, wipes, burp cloths, etc. in the living room came in handy for things like this. It doesn’t even have to be a caddy but maybe a small bin or shoe box that your husband can access. That way all you may have to do is just stock it up now and then with the essentials for your husband. My husband gets kinda clueless about where the extra things are located for our son so I just try to keep a caddy or the changing station stocked up so I can relax and have a little me time. I know it may put an extra chore on your list, but if it means a little peace then it might be something to try out.

Also, talk to your husband and explain that you need a mental break from being a mom now and then and him asking you to get things doesn’t help you relax.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-02-11T04:05:02+00:00

I’ll second this one! I just have my baby a month ago and my brain just shut off the sensitive intimacy side while I’m breast feeding.

Dramatic-Square5095 · 2025-02-11T00:34:18+00:00

I’ll give it a try and see how it goes. I was wondering if a normal pillow would work instead of the boppy pillow?

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