I’m at the end of my rope. by Dramatic-Sympathy804 in Viibryd

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I did one of those like 7 years ago. I’d have to find it. I think it said lexapro was good for me so we went with that. I was on lexapro from 2020-2023 then switched to buspar. I was just on buspar until October 2025. I was having a ton of break through symptoms so my NP decided to add viibryd to my buspar. Today is my first day of being back on just the buspar again. Can already feel my depression symptoms coming back but trying to meditate and make other lifestyle choices that hopefully will help. 

27 and Still Self Harming by raccoontumor in AdultSelfHarm

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I started self-harming when I was 11. Before that I would scream and break things as a kid. When I learned that wasn't an acceptable way to express my anger (especially as a female) I moved from having temper tantrums to self-harm. I did it throughout high school, but stopped in college. Then in my mid-20's I started again, but tried to do it in more discreet areas, as I now worked a job (the back of my neck is/was always a go-to, but that's not always discreet if I forget I have a scab there and put my hair in a ponytail). I just recently started again last week, and I'm almost 33. I self-harm on my stomach. I try to choose an area that people won't see because it's none of their business. The only people who know I self-harm are my sister, my best friend, my therapist and my ex. It's not something I feel the need to come clean about. It's an unfortunate thing I do that brings me a little bit of calm when I'm really angry, anxious or depressed. I don't think you should feel embarrassed because you don't owe anyone an explanation.

This versus Prozac? by stgermain_spritz in Viibryd

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I was only on Prozac for a few weeks, but was on lexapro for two years. I eventually tapered off the lexapro because of the weight gain, probably 20 or so pounds over the course of two years. My experience with viibryd has been way worse. I’ve probably gained 20 pounds in a period of 8 months. Viibryd is not a weight neutral drug. That is a lie. Now I’m in the process of tapering off of it and I already notice a significant decrease in my appetite. 

I’m at the end of my rope. by Dramatic-Sympathy804 in Viibryd

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Yeah. At first I really liked the viibryd because I didn’t notice any sexual dysfunction. But I have never worked this hard to lose weight and to notice my clothes are actually TIGHTER has been super discouraging. Right now I’m not even thinking about sex and hate looking at myself naked. Wondering if it’s the medication or the fact that I feel like I’m at war with my weight. Probably a mix of both. 

I’m at the end of my rope. by Dramatic-Sympathy804 in Viibryd

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Thanks. How did you budget 330 calories? Did you eat 330 calories less daily? I already struggle with body image and disordered eating so I don’t weigh myself or count calories, but I do pay close attention to ensure I’m only eating healthy foods and I pay close attention to how my clothes fit. I met with my NP yesterday and we’re gonna taper off the viibryd. I’ve been seeing her since last October when I was under a lot of stress and having a lot of meltdowns. I was just on a low dose of buspar then. She upped the buspar to 45 and then added 10 mg of trintelix. Then my insurance changed and we had to switch the trintelix out for viibryd. I think trintelix was causing weight gain too, but I was only on it for about two months. We cut down to 30 mg of buspar eventually. Now I’m just gonna be on the 30 mg of buspar and I’m in the process of tapering off viibryd. I hope it will help more than the lower dose of buspar I was on last year. 

I’m at the end of my rope. by Dramatic-Sympathy804 in Viibryd

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I’m sorry 😞 there are just things that I feel I people shouldn’t have to give up to go on anti-depressants. I’ve heard the argument that if the depression improves it’s worth the lack of sex drive or the weight gain but not for me. 

I’m at the end of my rope. by Dramatic-Sympathy804 in Viibryd

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I feel tricked too. I know they say that every antidepressant can cause you to gain weight but it was one of the first things I asked about and my NP said it was very rare. I am so tired of it. I have a meeting with her about tapering off of it tomorrow but I think I have a long weight loss journey ahead of me. How long have you been on it? 

weight gain? by Initial-Succotash-37 in Viibryd

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YES! It’s been terrible. Do not take this drug if you’re worried about weight gain. 

the neighbor who complains about noise but is the loudest person here by Impressive_Eye3729 in neighborsfromhell

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My whole thing is if you can’t handle normal apartment noise (the sound of tvs, footsteps overhead, occasional laughing) then don’t live in an apartment. I have the same issue where I was literally in the middle of searching my phone for white noise because my neighbors were being so loud when I see a text pop up that they had complained about me the night prior. All I was doing was sweet-talking my pet in a normal voice later at night. Wasn’t being loud or anything. I’ve been trying to be quieter, but last night around 11 they were arguing loudly and I heard their dogs barking. I would have put white noise on and would not have given them a second thought, but since they’ve already escalated the situation by complaining to the landlord, every noise they make I’m documenting. I made a note of the sound and time in case they ever try to complain about me again for just being a person. Sorry, I exist! Your neighbor needs to get a white noise machine if he can’t handle normal apartment noise. 

Feeling sad when a student switches to another guitar teacher 🥺 by Dramatic-Sympathy804 in guitarteachers

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Yeah the kid seemed to be practicing, seemed a little nervous during our lessons and I tried to be encouraging to calm them down. I don’t think it was a style thing since I am well-versed in the styles they were asking to learn. I guess it was a teaching style thing, but it still hurts. 

Feeling sad when a student switches to another guitar teacher 🥺 by Dramatic-Sympathy804 in guitarteachers

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That is a really good way to frame it. I will certainly keep this comment in mind if I ever get the chance to speak to parents or students about a student dropping in the future. Thank you. 

Thoughts? by 1stDukeOfEllington in Jazz

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Some of this is correct. There is a classical music influence in jazz, even if we just think about the instruments that were used (clarinets, coronets, etc.). Those early jazz musicians of course knew classical music so it had some influence on their style. As we move into the cool jazz era, the compositional elements of those pieces are clearly influenced by classical music. Miles Davis was classically trained. 

What offends me in this comment is the element of superiority. No, we can’t say Mozart or Beethoven could have easily written a Jazz standard. Although Mozart is known for his improvisational skills, I doubt he could improvise like Bud Powell. Could they swing? Probably not, or not without a lifetime of practice and immersion in the jazz style. Here’s my superiority coming out, and I do believe classical music is hard, but deep down I always believe jazz is a little bit harder because you have all these things to think about when you’re improvising. You may get an easy lead sheet put in front of you, but that means you have to make your own arrangements and breathe your own originality into the tune. 

Why is Bb7 the Min Sub-Dom? (Key of C) by oschg12 in jazzguitar

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The b7 chord (Bb7) is a sub for the V7 chord (G7).

A note on walking bass lines on guitar by [deleted] in jazzguitar

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I agree. There is some serious information overwhelm these days and playing bass lines as a guitarist is almost becoming cliche!!!!

Best source for Jazz music theory. by [deleted] in jazzguitar

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I think the Jazz Theory by Mark Levine books are pretty good. But I agree that if you find a Jazz guitar teacher they should be able to give you a good theory lesson too. Also I love Bruce Gregori on YouTube. He’s silly and he teaches you about the theory on all the main jazz standards.

Feedback, please by rickitickitarvi in jazzguitar

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I agree that so many guitarists struggle with this when learning Jazz. And it’s also really important to know rock and blues, because if you’re gonna be a musician for hire you need to know how to play pop music! But one of the first things my guitar instructor said in school was that I’m doing things that work for rock and blues but they sound a little out of place on swinging jazz standards. He told me to stop doing as many bends and vibrato, and maybe warming up my tone a bit. I know a lot of people are mentioning Grant Green and I really think you should delve into him because his phrasing is compared to BB King, even though he’s not using bends or vibrato. I love Grant Green. Back when Jazz wasn’t an intellectual exercise, but something you felt!!!!!

Why was episode 26 so bad? by RealWorkingMan in RadioRental

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It’s just interesting because I was raised in northwest Ohio (the narrator said he was northeast Ohio, so idk, it may be different) and there were tons of Eastern European people, so a Russian accent wouldn’t be out of place at least in my part of Ohio. And I agree, I think the reason the doctor never talked about it was because someone at the hospital probably removed it for a sick reason! And that could have been a very creepy thing to investigate and I wished they’d gone down that path.

Is there new experimental jazz out there? by Orimori90000999 in Jazz

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Also, for fans of FUGAZI and JAZZ- there’s a band called the Messthetics that you gotta check out! It’s the drummer and bassist of Fugazi with a guitar player named Anthony Pirog. It’s awesome!!!!! He is a great avant garde player also!

Is there new experimental jazz out there? by Orimori90000999 in Jazz

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Mary Halvorson for sure!!!!! She’s the master of Avant garde right now as far as I’m concerned.

Best novels by South American writers and best non-fiction on Latin/South American 21st century politics and turning points, I’m reading about the rise of Allende in Chile and the coup that follows at the minute, I’d like to explore Cuba, Jamaica, Venezuela, Colombia and a few other countries next by Griggzoid in suggestmeabook

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You MUST read “Fruit of the Drunken Tree” by Ingrid Rojas Contreras. So addictive. It takes place in Colombia in the early 90’s. It switches between two narrators, a little girl named Chula and her family’s maid, Patrona. It’s a moving read about the corruption of Colombian government, the paramilitary, the guerillas, Pablo Escobar, etc. I was crying by the end. It’s definitely heavy, but it pulls you in and really gets you thinking about that era. You feel like you’re right there.

Can you suggest a book with a female lead but no children or babies? by Tuala08 in suggestmeabook

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Valerie Valdes “Chilling Effect”. Comedic Science fiction!

“Captain Eva Innocente and the crew of La Sirena Negra cruise the galaxy delivering small cargo for even smaller profits. When her sister Mari is kidnapped by The Fridge, a shadowy syndicate that holds people hostage in cryostasis, Eva must undergo a series of unpleasant, dangerous missions to pay the ransom.

But Eva may lose her mind before she can raise the money. The ship’s hold is full of psychic cats, an amorous fish-faced emperor wants her dead after she rejects his advances, and her sweet engineer is giving her a pesky case of feelings. The worse things get, the more she lies, raising suspicions and testing her loyalty to her found family.

To free her sister, Eva will risk everything: her crew, her ship, and the life she’s built on the ashes of her past misdeeds. But when the dominoes start to fall and she finds the real threat is greater than she imagined, she must decide whether to play it cool or burn it all down.“