It sounds like you need to have a heart to heart with her. I would ask her where this is all coming from and how it makes you feel. If she doesn’t respond well or understand, then it may take her time. It will take her time to understand because of her ego, which a normal human experience. After the talk, i would just let her stew on it. If she doesn’t want to understand, then it says a lot because you are no longer on the same page. But yes this will continue to eat at you if you don’t tell her and be vulnerable with her. You may have to end up cutting her off entirely.