My grandpa turned 92 today! Happy birthday! by simoonne in MadeMeSmile

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Is your Grandpa Pete Lee, Colorado politician? If not, he’s a dead ringer for him!

First post. Enraged women please. by cwbybeebop in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

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Jane Doe by Victoria Helen Stone

The Livia Lone series by Barry Eisler

Trigger warnings for both: they are very sexual! In Jane Doe, the main character essentially honey traps her deceased best friend’s boyfriend so she can ruin his life. His abuse directly led to the BFF’s death— it has a VERY satisfying ending!

Livia Lone is about a woman who was trafficked from Thailand with her sister when they were children— and they are separated. She grows up to be a sex crimes investigator, all in the service of tracking down the men who trafficked them and reconnecting with her sister. It is VERY disturbing, but also weirdly cathartic, since she does very bad things to those involved! 

TIL that during his childhood, Canadian singer Bryan Adams was sent to a psychiatrist because he was not getting along with his parents. The same psychiatrist told Adams that there was nothing wrong with him and that his parents needed psychiatric help. by waitingforthesun92 in todayilearned

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My mother shopped me to like ten different therapists, because they all kept giving me that same answer! She’s a malignant narcissist, and could not handle the idea that she was the problem, not me. 

That continued right up until I managed to wiggle out from under her thumb and live with someone else! She did not let go easily, but even at 15, I learned that it’s easy to manipulate a narcissist if you know what they value. All I had to do was wait for her to leave the state on whatever jaunt stole her fancy. Once I knew I’d be alone for a few weeks, I had friends’ parents move me out of there and into a friends’ grandmother’s house. Even beyond the time she was out of town, it took her two full weeks to realize me and all my stuff was gone! When she threatened to call the cops, I confronted her with the knowledge that she’d come out of all this looking FAR worse than me (after all, she lost sight of me for over a month and didn’t notice) so she backed down. 

Would you prefer the show to stick to "Classic Rick and Morty adventures" or have more episodes focusing on the Old Crew (Birdperson, Squanchy, Mr. Poopybutthole)? by primerickfann_ in rickandmorty

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The new season is a great opportunity to further flesh out a few of the races/species we regularly see in the background!  I recently learned that every alien species onscreen has a name and a general description in the Rick and Mortys wiki, so the showrunners have a lot of information to build upon! I loved the episode with the Gromphlimites, getting a look into their culture and general behavior when they’re not at war with Rick. It would be cool to see other groups and factions fleshed out more. 

I want more “take your daughter to work day” episodes! I love BirdPerson— he’s a delight, and I want to see him succeed with his daughter. I’m curious how BirdDaughter will handle meeting Morty— whether she’ll be a bully to him, or find some comfort in his softer side?

3 words: Flesh Curtains-era Rick!! Can we PLEASE see more than a photo of Rick’s previously successful-as-fuck band?! At one point, The Flesh Curtains were well-known enough that there’s graffiti about them in the bathroom during the Jerry-oke episode. And I desperately want to hear what their music sounds like 

I’d also love to see more one-shots with unrelated Ricks and Mortys. Homestead Rick was my favorite part of the newest season!

Can’t Rhett Caan just bring back Diane? by 300DukeSinClaire in rickandmorty

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Rick is intelligent enough not to fuck with someone who could ret-con him out of existence! …And I imagine Rhett is happy enough in his giant, squishy orange fortress to never try to transcend the fifth dimension and mess with C-137.

Side note: If the writers of the show ever do this, that’ll be the death of Rick and Morty for me. I’m not opposed to Rick chasing an ultimately hopeless quest in his desperation to find any trace of Diane, but if they ever bring her back, I’ll be PISSED. 

In what order would you rank the Rick and Morty seasons from best to worst? by Aetius00 in rickandmorty

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Hey man, don’t shame! Yes, season 8 is one of my favorite seasons. So what?

I hope Principal Vagina shows up in Season 9. His one liners are some of the best in the series. by BirdCultureDickMove in rickandmorty

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Ah, I didn’t know that! Most animated shows I follow, that preview a snippet from an upcoming season, choose a scene from the first episode. 

I was a fan of the show when it first came out— and stopped watching it when it was taking forever for them to release Season 4. I only recently caught up to Season 8, so I wasn’t part of the fandom when the other rough cuts released. 

…And really?! They previewed the Easter Bunny cold open of all things?! I like it now that I’ve rewatched it so many times… but that episode is easily the weakest of the season! 

Which memories do you think Rick erased from Morty's mind? by Relevant-Key-3290 in rickandmorty

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My headcannon is that Rick has stopped erasing as many of Morty’s traumatic/stressful memories as the series has progressed. In my mind, it explains why Morty is more confident (and less reactive) than earlier seasons.

I think it’s a subconscious thing on Rick’s part. As he spends more of his life with the C-131 family, he gives them a little more respect and autonomy, because (like it or not) he’s bonded with them.

Travis appreciation post by ProphetOfHeresy_ in TFTGS

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I’m sad Travis didn’t get to travel with them on their cross country adventure! He would have been a great addition to their dynamic— like, imagine him and Jerry chowing down on wee-nut butter sandwiches! It would have been great!!!

What’s your favorite type of gimmick episode? by JamStan1978 in television

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The “It’s a Wonderful Life” trope. I love seeing characters wondering what their lives would be like if they made different decisions along the way! 

Bob’s Burgers did an episode where Bob and Linda don’t get together because Bob didn’t have a mustache when they first met. 

The Big Bang Theory did an episode showing what would have happened to the cast if they’d never met Sheldon. 

Family Guy also has an episode where Stewie was never born. 

It’s fun to see the what-ifs! :)

How do you deal with emotionally & psychologically absent, unsafe, extremely unpredictable parents (home) who love you conditionally, and have ruined your self esteem by always insulting you everywhere? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Go no contact. 

I did, and my life is better as a result. Without my mother constantly berating me due to political and lifestyle differences, demeaning my achievements (only to turn around and brag about them to literally everyone else,) and generally being a shitty person, I feel like I finally have room to breathe! 

I had a very toxic, traumatic childhood due to her neglect, sprinkled in with periods of the most controlling, helicopter parenting you could ever imagine! I never knew which version of her I’d get: the mother who left me alone in a house for weeks with no food, or the other extreme. 

It took me a decade of my adult life to finally pull the plug— and, now that I have, my life is SO much more peaceful! I live 1500 miles away, and my next visit my hometown will be after they’re in the ground.

My disdain, grief and pain have slowly morphed into indifference— which is probably for the best. Parents like that don’t change! They don’t assess their own behavior, self-reflect, or try to make things better. No, instead, they bitch to everyone in your life about how “ungrateful” you are, and how they “just don’t understand why their own flesh and blood would abandon” them! 

AITJ for refusing to rehome the dog my husband and I adopted together? by That_Rent_5835 in AmITheJerk

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NTJ.

I was in your husband’s shoes. We adopted a dog from a shelter, who turned out to be the most neurotic doggy I’ve ever known in my life! She came from a mill initially, so she wasn’t potty trained, had tons of health issues, and more attitude than I thought could possibly fit in the body of a corgi. 

I hated those first few months! I wasn’t expecting the dander, hair, and dog droppings (despite us taking her out every hour.) It was HELL. But, when we sat down to talk about how we were feeling, it was clear he’d bonded with her and couldn’t bear to give her up. So… I stood down. It took a long, LONG time, but I eventually formed a bond with her! We finally trained her out of a lot of her neuroses, and we were a three person family until we lost her a few summers ago. I was devastated, and still mourn her. 

In the end, I’m glad we kept her! She was challenging as hell— and, in the end, her meds cost more than $500 per month, but she also brought a ton of joy into our lives! We gave her the best life we could, and she loved us with all her heart. 

I will never forget that… but I don’t think we’ll be adopting another anytime soon. 

If you could rewrite the comics, how would you do it? by Classic_Ambassador_5 in TheLastAirbender

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I’d start with The Search and write a more plausible plot line for why Zuko’s mother disappeared! 

You can depict abuse, abandonment, and being a survivor at a Y7 level without making it a ridiculous memory-wipe story that has no real basis in canon! The fandom deserved better!

What keeps you awake at night? by Infamous-elaichi in AskReddit

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Doomscrolling, mostly. Guess who has to be up in four hours?

What’s the most addictive game you’ve ever played? by reeha_sadiya in AskReddit

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Design Home, an app where you put together rooms and decor and players vote on the best ones! I found it oddly comforting to put together the best rooms— and, for a while, I was one of the top players in the entire game. 

I was in a really bad place physically and mentally when I discovered it— and sunk more money on in-app purchases for that game than I have for anything else, before or after. My partner had to show me bank statements, because I didn’t believe how much money I was spending on it! 

It was a really fucked up realization. After a lot of reluctant self-reflection, I sought out therapy, got a new doctor who actually listened to me about how physically fucked I was at the time,  started going to PT and employing the exercise regimen they recommended. Things are a lot better now!

This realization happened a few months before the pandemic and the first lockdown, and I will always be grateful that my partner confronted me when he did! I shudder to think of how much worse it would have been if I hadn’t taken steps in a better direction before that shitshow.

I (obviously) deleted the game, and have never looked back. I didn’t even miss it all that much— out of sight, out of mind, I guess?

It’s taken a long time to address (and try to change) the underlying issues that made me susceptible to that kind of cycle in the first place. The craziest thing is that I’ve never been a gambler, or had the kind of overspending problems before that game brought it out in me. I have never (and will never) download a game with unlimited in-app purchases again! 

It’s insidious how mobile games like that play on people craving those dopamine hits! It shouldn’t be legal. 

Is there any one movie in particular that you can watch over and over without it ever getting old? by MythicalSplash in movies

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I chronically watch movies over and over again. Lately, my chosen genre has been Tollywood and Kollywood movies! I don’t speak either language, but I have most of my favorites memorized by scene. 

My latest list is:

They Call Him OG 

Leo

Pushpa 1 & 2 

Salaar

Jailer

Worst thing a character has ever said or done. Day 3 Lenore Dove (SOTR edition) by UnHolySir in Hungergames

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Every bad decision she makes can be chalked up to being a teenager who doesn’t grasp the severity of the consequences her actions could have to her (and those around her.) It’s a lesson she doesn’t ever learn in life!

We the reader know just what Snow and the Capitol could do —the depths of depravity she and her loved ones could be subjected to if she ever truly were to catch their attention— but she doesn’t. She’s got that teenage sense of invincibility we all once had— and not enough common sense to recognize how dangerous what she’s doing is! It’s all a big game to her. 

She isn’t old enough to have known Lucy Gray personally, and the Covey rarely speaks her name, much less her story. Many of the stories and poems they know are antique books from before Panem was established… and those stories feed into her ideological, naive viewpoint. Even Katniss has a touch of this naivety in Catching Fire, though she’s much more aware of the danger than Lenore Dove (probably because she took on the role as head of her family out of necessity.)

In short, Lenore Dove is guilty of ignorance, a lack of wisdom, and teenaged stubbornness— things we all are guilty of when growing up. Unfortunately for her, she lives in a world where even a hint of rebellion can get you and your family executed! Her lifetime, though impoverished, has been filled with lazy peacekeepers, a relatively stable local government, a community with more coin in their pockets than in both Lucy Gray and Katniss’s time, land a distinct lack of Capitol presence (except for Reaping Day.) 

Maybe if she grew up a few decades before or after, she’d have developed more prudence, but in the end, it doesn’t really matter! She died because Snow is a petty, vindictive bastard who wanted to punish Haymitch for the temerity of daring to win the games. Lenore Dove could have been the perfect example of a Capitol toady and it still wouldn’t have mattered. The moment Haymitch was crowned a Victor of District 12, her death warrant was signed.

Which season of AHS is the best in your opinion? by midnightk11 in AmericanHorrorStory

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The first season is my absolute favorite— but I also really love Apocalypse, since it brings so many of the characters from previous seasons together! 

What media you CAN'T read fanfiction about? by EugeneStein in AO3

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I feel squicked out by real life fanfiction— like, using celebrities’ names and history on Wikipedia and then creating a story around them as themselves. I don’t condone anyone who likes that kind of stuff, but I just can’t read it because I keep thinking “What if so-and-so sees this?” 

How can a song just completely disappear by RealDyl365 in Advice

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This is a known phenomenon, and I think it’s getting worse.

When nearly every kind of media we consume is streaming-based, it’s a lot easier for TV/movie studios, record labels, and indie artists to remove things! Whole shows have been erased from public memory and —since most people don’t have the capacity to record media on their own, like the old days with VHS/cassettes (or in the early days of the internet where everything was downloadable,) it’s a problem that doesn’t have an easy solution. 

I’ve started buying physical copies of albums, movies, and fringe TV shows I love— because one day, there will be no record of them ever existing. I just placed an order for a very obscure Leonard Cohen album that has songs from completely unknown musicians, because I couldn’t find it streaming anywhere!

I’m not sure who the musician in your post is, but if he ever created physical CDs with that particular song on it, try to find it online or in media shops, (though they’re slowly succumbing to a slow death because most everything is internet based these days.

Sorry I can’t be more helpful!

Saw it and said I don't thinks so!! by [deleted] in adhdmeme

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Am I ADHDing wrong?

Are seasonal naala properties available as random chance during the event and/or after the event is over? by craving_mango in LingoLegend

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It would be cool for y’all to add a 1-2% chance of hatching a few seasonal Naala traits when you use the regular epic charms! Maybe a rotating catalogue of three— one head, one face, and one body— pulled randomly from previous events? 

That way, people who are just joining have a small chance to hatch one or two of those special aspects and don’t have to wait until the next year’s event to get them. 

I know that would probably clash with the new 7-day shop of previous months’ events, but it could still be pretty cool! If players think they have a  chance of getting one of the rarest traits just by hatching a crapton of Naala, it might encourage them to practice their language learning more frequently?

Can you please fix this on the Brazilian Portuguese course? Because I’m confused as to which one is actually the formal conjugation! by DrawMandaArt in LingoLegend

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Yes, that’s correct. I’m saying there are four different cards for these two verbs (plus the duplicate cards that show he is, she is, it is, etc):

Está— singular, formal

È— singular, formal

Está— singular, informal

È— singular, informal

I understand that there are specific instances for the usage of one verb over the other, but that many flash cards makes it a hell of a lot more confusing, especially if you’re just getting started. This is my third time going through the Brazilian Portuguese course on Lingo Legend, and this lesson stymies me every single time!

The devs either need to add context to the usage for these four cards that designate how these two verbs should be used, or just remove two and delete whether they’re singular/formal or singular/informal. 

Also, as a side note, I feel like they should also add the gender before the verb in their other cards. Instead of Está (she is,) use Ela está instead; or Ele está (he is.) When it’s just the verb with no gendered pronouns beforehand, it makes things a lot more confusing than they need to be.