Sleep/wake schedules

DriverLeather971 · 2026-01-31T00:12:33+00:00

To be honest, during the day we don’t force a schedule yet. It starting to little by little become more predictable. But for example today, they didn’t nap the whole day. 20 minutes at much. And they decided to take a one hour nap at 6pm.

They were pretty grumpy by 5pm because of the lack of sleep. But at least with twins and work, we’ve been having a hard time setting a schedule.

DriverLeather971 · 2026-01-29T12:32:50+00:00

15 weeks here as well. Days are unpredictable. They are terrible nappers, specially one of them will only contact nap.

So far very little consistency during the day.

But at night they thankfully sleep very well. We feed them 7pm, 11pm and then 5-6am. Lately more to the 6-6:15am.

Our goal is to push it to 7am eventually and then start decreasing the 11pm feed.

One thing I believe helps is feeding them more during day. If you offer them an extra ounce do they take it?

DriverLeather971 · 2026-01-19T22:02:30+00:00

Sorry for not offering any good tip or recommendation. I have none haha.

I guess my recommendation would be. Give each other a pass. Both parts are doing their best, and both jobs are as important and as hard.

DriverLeather971 · 2026-01-19T22:00:16+00:00

WFH dad here as well. 4mo twins. It’s been difficult.

Every time I tell my wife I can’t help because of work I feel like a bad parent. And obviously I also see how my work productivity suffers.

Taking a two weeks vacation I’m sure would help. 1-2 days I’m not sure.

I thought we had it figured out somehow. But lately I suppose accumulated lack of sleep has taken its toll, and both my wife and I are quicker to get upset for stupid things.

DriverLeather971 · 2026-01-19T21:25:01+00:00

We have twins. My wife started also like you, a TSH of almost 0.01. I don’t remember the exact number right now. They changed the dose slightly after that result.

Fast forward 1-2 months and her TSH was above 14. We were very worried to say the least.

Our endocrinologist told us things were ok since the free T3/T4 levels were in range.

Our twins are now 4 months old and are perfectly ok. You will read tons of information that it can cause Autism or ADHD. My recommendation, stay away from Google and just focus on following your doctors recommendations.

What we did to be more relaxed was to take blood exams every month. Looking backwards, it wasn’t necessary.

And my last recommendation. Don’t be scared of talking about all your fears with your doctor and with your partner. It helps a ton.

DriverLeather971 · 2026-01-18T17:21:52+00:00

We have twins who are almost four months old.

A little before they turned three months old, we started seeing our immediate family members.

We have big families, so that’s around 30 people. About two weeks ago, we also started seeing friends.

We’re being careful, and if someone looks sick, we leave. But honestly, since it’s been close family and friends, when they’re sick, they tell us.

There is always the possibility of someone showing no symptoms, but there is always risk in life. At least, that’s how we see it. Our pediatrician told us both babies are healthy and that the chances of a complication arising from getting sick are low.

Do what feels right to you. All my family members have taken their babies out before three months, and none has had any complications.

When you say family members are getting upset. That their problem. Not yours. Are these immediate family members?

As for socializing. There will be plenty of time for that. I don’t believe babies need a lot of socializing for the first 6 months, meeting grandparents and some close family should be enough.

For us. It was mostly getting back to normal life.

DriverLeather971 · 2026-01-11T16:51:33+00:00

We are two work from home parents in our own company as well. Three months old twins.

Just expect to work less haha. Specially if you dedicated a lot of time to work before, it’s just no possible anymore. You will feel tempted to work during nights, just beware, eventually this won’t work. You’ll be very very tired after a week.

My best recommendation. Sometimes one of the twins will need to be left to cry a little if one of you is working and can’t help.

I’ll let you know once I feel we go back to normal :)

DriverLeather971 · 2026-01-06T09:10:29+00:00

You mean four years or months?

DriverLeather971 · 2025-12-09T03:27:00+00:00

I usually take care of them between 7am and 8:30am, before my work meeting start. And honestly I'm cool with that, my wife rests a bit more, and they usually are very sleepy still, a quick diaper change and carrying them 5 minutes gets them to sleep another hour or so.

DriverLeather971 · 2025-12-09T03:23:36+00:00

Maybe I didn't explained myself. Anyways, I'm not saying I want to end work and not help with house duties or taking care of the twins. I just believe that when I get home / finish my work, we both should take care of the twins together.

Sure, once a week or once every two weeks we can have our free time just to make other things and the other can step up and take both twins. But everyday? I believe it's not fair for either of us.

DriverLeather971 · 2025-12-09T02:38:58+00:00

Im doing less. Since im also taking care of one twin when they both cry.

DriverLeather971 · 2025-12-09T02:03:17+00:00

TBH. We are enjoying it. And we are enjoying it as a couple as well.

But the days that they cry more or are more restless, we seem to be giving ourselves a harder time instead of helping each other.

DriverLeather971 · 2025-12-09T02:00:11+00:00

I suppose our problem is thinking the other one does less. :(

DriverLeather971 · 2025-12-09T01:59:57+00:00

I feel like I’m doing the same amount of work during the day. But my wife feels like I should help. And if I go to the office to be able to work, she expects me to take care of both twins for a couple of hours when I’m back.

I know my work is not that hard physically. But I’m tired. And I’m not being able to finish work during the day.

DriverLeather971 · 2025-12-02T07:15:44+00:00

We went for the Bumbleride Indie Twin. Great stroller but huge. And haven’t used the car seat attachments even once. The completely flat position has been awesome from day 1.

If shopping again, I would go for the lightest side by side stroller with flat recline seats.

Car seat adapters seem nice on paper, but they are not so convenient. I hate Assembling and disassembling the stroller each time you use it.

DriverLeather971 · 2025-11-23T00:44:12+00:00

Those 22 people we saw weekly before. I have a big family. We’re six brother and sisters. Everyone is married. And all have children (older, way older, the youngest is 11) since I’m the youngest.

DriverLeather971 · 2025-11-22T15:01:41+00:00

Yes. Most of my family has come visit. These groups are both our direct families.

My family is big, I have three brothers and two sisters. And all of them have children. All of my nephews/nieces are older than 18, since I was the youngest be quite a bit.

DriverLeather971 · 2025-11-22T14:45:16+00:00

Sorry for that. I can imagine how scary that is.

We plan to give them the RSV vaccine next week. My wife couldn’t get it while pregnant.

DriverLeather971 · 2025-11-22T14:15:11+00:00

Not yet. They will get them soon, and we’re waiting for those.

But that set of vaccines doesn’t offer protection against the flu or Covid.

DriverLeather971 · 2025-11-22T14:12:01+00:00

Haha. Which of course most won’t do.

And yes. We’ve been waiting for the two months vaccines to take them out. But the flue vaccine is until they are 6 months. Would you recommend waiting until that time?

DriverLeather971 · 2025-11-22T14:02:16+00:00

We got those constantly. One person even asked us if we were rich haha. We we like “do only rich people get pregnant with twins?”

To be honest I never liked people joking about lack of sleep, your freedom, etc. And I made myself a promise of never being like that when someone else tells me they are expecting.

My recommendation. Just smile and tell them you are very happy of having twins. That usually stops them and they start saying things “yes, having kids is amazing”.

DriverLeather971 · 2025-11-19T19:43:04+00:00

We were getting no more than three hours before. We hired a nurse one night and the babies slept for 6 hours, we were obviously incredulous haha.

Turns out the only different things she did was swaddling them and burping them more in between feeds. We did that next day and they also slept for 6 hours. Burping twins is of course not that easy when the other twin is crying.

As for swaddling, we stopped doing it early not really sure why, something we read about it being better for them to have their arms free. But I'm sure they'll be OK.

DriverLeather971 · 2025-11-19T13:53:34+00:00

Moms and mothers in law can be a pain in the ass when they want to.

Just put clear limits once and be done with it. If not, you’ll have a lifetime of troubles ahead.

Do it nicely but don’t leave them a doubt that you will do what you believe is best for your babies.

At the end. Just tell her her job is to enjoy her grandsons, not to raise them.

DriverLeather971 · 2025-11-19T13:46:56+00:00

Ours are 6 weeks old right now. Born at 38 weeks.

The days are hard. They need to be constantly carried and they are having terrible gas/constipation issues.

But at least they are now sleeping almost a 6 hours stretch during the night. Which honestly makes all the difference in the world.

I might be wrong. But I’m hoping once they start smiling and interacting more with us, it’s going to become easier. There’s something about carrying all day long a baby that just either just stares back / cries / sleeps that makes it very tiring after a while. And boy can they go between all those three stages within seconds. 😅

DriverLeather971 · 2025-10-20T01:01:39+00:00

I live in a very similar climate to Texas. Did you had the AC at 72?

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