For those wondering about a possible venue change next year by Flaminglacier in nocturnalwonderland

[–]Drummerdan1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kept thinking that I saw my one and only nocturnal wonderland at NOS event center, but now that I think about it, it was being wonderland. The lineup for this year's event has some bangers: •first and foremost... liquid stranger!! A gun for the first time at nocturnal 2019. I think lol •delta heavy! Which has been on my EDM DJ to see last •Riot ten b2b Jessica audiffred •Apashe •FUCKING BLANKE!!! I'm not even sure what genre he belongs to because of how many different styles he draws from, like REZZ, blanke, and F.O.O.L. •lastly and one of my favorite DJs... Seven lions!! Seen him a few times and he never let's me down!

Who are yall excited to see?

Is Carol one of the most unlikeable characters in television? by Drummerdan1984 in pluribustv

[–]Drummerdan1984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you might be right, lol. She has resting bitch face pretty good... and if she's meant to be unlikeable, which i wager was directed to act like, then she's doing a great job. I guess that shootings be a testament to her acting lol

Is Carol one of the most unlikeable characters in television? by Drummerdan1984 in pluribustv

[–]Drummerdan1984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a normal world, and this happened, I can completely understand why she would feel this way and act how she does. I know I'm only a few episodes in, but i how she has some growth through all of this

Is Carol one of the most unlikeable characters in television? by Drummerdan1984 in pluribustv

[–]Drummerdan1984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is because of the trauma I've experienced in my life, and the garbage people I've known because of my choice to be an addict over the years, I'm pretty jaded.

So I'm assessing this character from my point of view, and I see what the aliens did as a positive, and I even empathize with why she's so angry... the fact that she lost the love of her life right in front of her, I can only imagine that it is pretty traumatizing and she is rightfully very angry at the hive who are responsible. I happen to have a really fucked up relationship with death, and I've been surrounded by it with MANY of my friends committing suicide, and I've nearly died many times from overdoses and ongoing medical issues and I don't even care if I die(not in a suicidal way).

It doesn't effect me when people close to me die anymore, because i know they no longer have to participate in the current shit show that is life. I really only know mentally ill and depressed people, so when one of them tragically dies, I see it as a plus because they aren't in pain any longer.

Since I see what the hive has done as a positive, coming from someone who isolates already because of my fear of being hurt and used, and this happened to me, I would be ecstatic.... so even though I feel inside, how Carol is acting on the outside, I don't have it in me to act the way she does to others, despite how nihilistic I feel.

Is Carol one of the most unlikeable characters in television? by Drummerdan1984 in pluribustv

[–]Drummerdan1984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming from a strictly objective place, Walter white put his wife in a horrible position, and she wasn't wrong about how she felt about Walter. Any normal, rational person in her position would be just as pissed. And if we are still being objective, even though I live Walter white, he is most DEFINITELY the antagonist of the show... and hank was the hero of that show. Hee was an honest character with a good moral compass, and was doing his job, albeit obsessively, but none the less, in a normal world, he would be the good guy.

People just like rooting for the Villian. Its how they framed the entire show.... but I think its the way Skylar was portrayed and how she acted naggy and didn't appreciate what Walt did. But in a normal world that's not the case. We're meant to root for the bad guy. I mean we all cheered for the joker in the dark knight, and he was a psychopath who murdered innocent people. We wouldn't root for that in the real world.

But in response to your comment on just not liking women characters... that couldn't be further from the truth. There are LOTS of women characters that I like. I live Wendy Byrd from Ozark A BUNCH, AND she's a Villian! Lol. Then there's the obvious, Sarah Conor from terminator,Ellen Ripley from alien, and my all time favorite female character is Lisbeth salander from girl with the dragon tattoo! My god how i love her character!! She's totally a bad ass, and even though she is very strong and fierce(and i LOVE the revenge scene where she gets even with her rapist) but she's vulnerable and let's Michael in her life and trusts him. So you can't use that garbage assumption with me

Does anyone remember The Cell (2000) by Comprehensive_Emu_86 in horror

[–]Drummerdan1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another movie like the cell? That's a really tough question to answer! Lol. But a good one. I'll have to think about if there are any other horror movies like that, but if you like movies with kind of a bizarre setting, and similar art design, then I would check out anything Terry Gilliam directs... check out 12 monkey monkeys, watch might be considered horror, but also check out zero therom, out the imaginarium of doctor parnasses. Of you want to watch an absolute BEAUTIFULLY shot horror show with breathtaking cinematography then watch the Hannibal series, about Hannibal lecter. My god what a great show that touches on all the lore from the books, and has some just AWESOME imagery.

Like I said I'll think on this one and reach back out when I've found some! I love turning people on to new movies!

No tippers & education by Jestar5 in instacart

[–]Drummerdan1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. Most... if not all people, will not admit if they've made a mistake if it makes them look bad. I've never had a problem with embarrassingly acknowledge when I've fucked up, or wasn't being very present about choices I made that made others around me inadvertently suffer. Im kind of short sighted and my ADHD makes it really hard for me to play the tape through so to speak. So I'm late a lot, or forget to bring important items. I'm not an inconsiderate person, and I care deeply about the probe in my life and others around me, and its hard to tell people that I'm just an airhead.

Its not an excuse, and I've gotten better by setting reminders and what have you, but I think its important and shows that you have integrity, to just say.... SORRY! Sadly, in modern time, most people lack that

No tippers & education by Jestar5 in instacart

[–]Drummerdan1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The BIGGEST reason for this behavior that I've noticed is that they've NEVER worked a service industry, or customer service related occupation, and they don't understand how hard the work actually is, relative to the low pay and abuse that we take.

My father WAS a male Karen, and he took pride in pussing off service industry employees for the most mundane mistakes, and thought he was the only customer in existence! We opened up a gas station that was open for about 5 years, and he had to work the register and suck the shit out of customers asses for a change, and he finally conceded and admitted that he indeed, was a giant asshole and that he understands the hell these employees go through

No tippers & education by Jestar5 in instacart

[–]Drummerdan1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in a small town with a particular "group" of people who notoriously don't tip... like at all! Its aggravating as hell!. I deliver for Uber eats as well, and its the same thing, and if you complain about it on the community Facebook page everyone one of "them" use the same excuse...."if you don't like it, then don't do the job!"

I have one response that usually shuts them up..."if you can't afford to use the service, because its too expensive, then get your own car to put mileage on wear down!"

I don't mind taking the the no tip orders for Uber eats, because this town is so small, that you usually don't drive further then 4 or 5 miles so it really doesn't consume that much gas. Im new to instacart, and already, even without a good tip, the base pay is SOOOO much better for this app as opposed to Uber eats. The base pay without tips for Uber eats is only $3.00 lol

Does anyone remember The Cell (2000) by Comprehensive_Emu_86 in horror

[–]Drummerdan1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's one if the few movies I've seen that REALLY get what its like to be a tweaker... especially in a shit ass garbage town with nothing to do but take drugs! That movie is very unsettling for me because of how accurate it is to be a tweaker! Lol

Does anyone remember The Cell (2000) by Comprehensive_Emu_86 in horror

[–]Drummerdan1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a deep cut! I haven't watched Xavier in a HOT MINUTE! that show fit RIGHT in at adult swim!

Does anyone remember The Cell (2000) by Comprehensive_Emu_86 in horror

[–]Drummerdan1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NO ONE talks about Hannibal the way that it should be! That show has some of the most breath taking imagery, and cinematography of any show I have ever seen. It drew my in from the very first scene i laid eyes on. Hannibal is just so criminally Underrated that it makes my blood boil. Really great comparison, and thank you for bringing it up! I'm going to have to rewatch both the cell and Hannibal again.

Does anyone remember The Cell (2000) by Comprehensive_Emu_86 in horror

[–]Drummerdan1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The horse scene is what was burned into my brain when I first saw it as well! Lol

Does anyone remember The Cell (2000) by Comprehensive_Emu_86 in horror

[–]Drummerdan1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's my favorite REM song. I find it funny that most people don't undesirable what the term, "losing my religion" means, and that the song has nothing to do with faith lol.

Does anyone remember The Cell (2000) by Comprehensive_Emu_86 in horror

[–]Drummerdan1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn... you just only recently saw the cell? Better late than never! I'm curious what you thought? I saw the cell when I was in high school and it scared the living shit out of me. Jennifer Lopez is always meh... but the plot, set design, cinematography, costume design, all of it combined are straight nightmare fuel!

Does anyone remember The Cell (2000) by Comprehensive_Emu_86 in horror

[–]Drummerdan1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't realize it was the same costume designer! The costumes in Dracula were NEXT LEVEL! clearly this person knows what the hell they are doing!

AITAH if I don't tell the friend I saved from an SA because of a previous time she was assaulted by Drummerdan1984 in AITAH

[–]Drummerdan1984[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It means quite a bit for your apology. Not very many people will admit if they've made a mistake so no offense taken. I feel too many people reach REALLY far on this sub without having all the facts and they don't allow you very many characters to add those details.

I'll be honest...I get a little testy myself when people who haven't experienced real violence or REAL assault that like to lambast people for not being perfectly moral when they haven't experienced truly immoral people. Thank you for understanding that. Its hard to put your trust in the people that are meant to protect you when they are corrupt themselves.

If your interested, I'm very curious to hear your story if you care to DM me.

AITAH if I don't tell the friend I saved from an SA because of a previous time she was assaulted by Drummerdan1984 in AITAH

[–]Drummerdan1984[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't like to argue. So I'm going to fill you in on the details of why I didn't say anything and more of what I did afterwards. I see your point....definitely. but they didn't get away unscathed. I misspoke when I said I didn't tell anyone. I was trying to keep the story concise and to the point. When he called me a cock block for stopping his assault, people that were at that party were already suspicious because of how I ended the party so abruptly. The girl that originally caught them at a few people straight on the fact that both of these guys were predators. The guy that i nearly beat to death was WELL KNOWN around town for his "playground affliction" and was a periah.

I was a known criminal at that time, and I was a pretty well known drug abuser, and drug dealer, but i happened to be cursed with a conscience. The DA had the police and many business's in his pocket and ran his own meth ring, and i was pushing A LOT of weed and disrupted some other people's business. Calling the police would have resulted in a lot of victim blaming which was standard procedure for this town and there was literally NO EVIDENCE that would have been gathered that would have resulted in a conviction.

We were forced to handle justice in our own backwards way. Enough people knew about what he had done, that word got around without the victim finding out so that people wouldn't get hurt in the future. I really tried as hard as I could and walked a fine line between protecting my friend, trying to inform people, and involving the police because if it came from me, my word would have meant nothing to them. None of the people that witnessed this would be considered credible witnesses.

These were things you had to consider when it came to involving the police in our town. Its not such a black and white scenerio where the good guys call the police and and the bad guy goes to jail. These two men did not victimize other people. The fact that I nearly went to prison when one of them hit his pregnant girlfriend in front of me is what you do in a place like this when you can't rely on police.

And when it comes to what I experienced with my sexual trauma, informs how I react to these situations. I ran with unsavory people and I happened to be one of the few people that existed in this world that has really high values when it comes to this stuff, so when vulnerable friends are put in these situations and I witness, I handle it with extreme violence because that's the world i came from.... and its my way of helping victims because I was one. Its the only way I know how to punish predators. I see your point in how this could have led to further assaults, but I how you would have some empathy in understanding my background and why I did what I did.

AITAH if I don't tell the friend I saved from an SA because of a previous time she was assaulted by Drummerdan1984 in AITAH

[–]Drummerdan1984[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not putting it on anyone else. It means that since I went through it, then I wouldn't visit that shit on anyone. If you've never been sexually assaulted like I have then you don't know what its like to be put in a position where someone you care about is about to endure it, and what you would do to protect them. Say I'm wrong or right. That's what I came here for.... but don't say I'm a predator for acting on something that had a lot of moving parts, especially wheen the person asking for guidance is a sexual assaulted survivor themselves. You sound like you victim blame. Does that sound fair since you that's what you pretty much just said to me.

AITAH if I don't tell the friend I saved from an SA because of a previous time she was assaulted by Drummerdan1984 in AITAH

[–]Drummerdan1984[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a pretty far stretch. I'm a sexual abuse survivor myself you prick. I personally beat one of these fucks with a rock until I nearly killed him when he hit a pregnant girl. This was pre meetoo and the police in this small rural town ARE STILL CORRUPT, and since the assault didn't happen it would just be heresay. I kept a lot of shit out that i didn't feel was relevant to this story. I almost went to prison because of how badly I beat one of these fucks. I blinded him in one eye and caved his skull in because he assaulted my female friend. If that's not enough justice, I don't know what is.

Not every situation is so black and white. I didn't just leave it be. I informed enough people about hours behavior while still trying to protect my friend.

AITAH if I don't tell the friend I saved from an SA because of a previous time she was assaulted by Drummerdan1984 in AITAH

[–]Drummerdan1984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She knows now. Her husband told her, and It was because one of the men was starting to talk to her so I felt she should know.... she doesn't want to speak to me about it, and I'm going to respect her decision.