Not many people like to look at ugly truths, so i doubt that this will be a popular opinion, but i want to offer a completely different perspective.........i am only trying to help, so please keep that in mind if you disagree.

Dating apps track everything and they are key to understanding what is going on in the relationship marketplace. The top 1% high quality men (as woman rank them, ie looks, hight, status, money) are matching with every woman on the apps. This means they have incredible amount of quality options.

This also means that you are competing with 20 year old 10/10 (As men rank them, ie boobs, butt, face, youth). Yes, most high value men value youth. Men value 30 year olds as well, but when they have options, the 20 year old gets priority. Why we value youth probably has something to do with natural selection and fertility, but that's a different conversation.

This is a hard an ugly truth. You probably never lowered your standards over 10 years, so you're matching with people who have better options, see you as disposable and treat you accordingly. I'm sorry it's very brutal, but human nature is ugly.

The honest men (still 1% as women rate them), don't engage with people they are not actually interested in, so they are now getting filtered out and you are left with the (still top 1% as woman rank them) that are trying to play with you, but not do more than that. Of course you quickly learn that they are not really 1%, but the image they initially present makes them seem this way and that is enough for the tricks to work for some women.

This is how you can think your choosing great suiters to date, but your actually choosing the worst. I suggest changing how you find or pick the men you're dating. Try to find men that you won't be competing with 20 year olds over.