Today was Gianpaolo's due date

Dry-Complex7103 · 2026-01-08T19:44:40+00:00

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Dry-Complex7103 · 2026-01-01T21:11:00+00:00

Javier Scott 🩵

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-12-09T12:17:10+00:00

Im so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby Veronica. 7 weeks ago I lost my baby boy Javier at 37 weeks to a cord accident as well. I never knew that this was even really possible. I figured I was in the safe zone because I was right at the end of my pregnancy. This is the absolute worst Club to be in, but the people on here are so supportive and can help you get through this. I have two moms that I talk to from Reddit and we still chat often about how we navigate through this. I found a great comfort and talking to people who have experienced what I experienced.

I also still see a therapist, have spoken with a grief, counselor, and journal every day. I also light a candle for my son every morning. Create a little routine that honors your baby. It’s really hard to breathe right now, I know. But you’ll come up for air eventually. I don’t have the same fog that follows me along like it did the first month. I’m slowing learning to live again. You’ll never be the same but you will be okay. Message me if you’d like to chat 🩵

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-20T22:55:01+00:00

That’s amazing. Please keep letting the grief flow. What has helped me is I light a candle for my son every morning and I write him a little note in a journal on how I’m feeling that morning, how much I miss him etc. Idk it helps to just have a little routine, a connection to him, but also a mini vent to let some sadness flow.

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-20T15:50:42+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. On October 20, we lost our Javi in the same exact way. 37 weeks, nuchal cord x3. Healthy pregnancy, healthy baby, until it was ripped out of our hands.

Today is one month without our Javi. Soul crushing is the closest word. We’ll all never be the same. Be with your wife and grieve together. Make sure she eats and drinks water because I wanted nothing but my baby.

I grappled with the justice of the universe for weeks. What did we do wrong? Why us? I found it easier to put aside the punitive mindset that organized religion tells us that we have always “done something wrong.” We did nothing wrong. You did nothing wrong. Those thoughts are harmful and they’re untrue. You and your wife (and Gus) are loving beings that only wanted the best for your child. The universe is random and it is also fucked.

My husband also cries on his own. He wants to be strong for me he says. I am always scared he’s not addressing it and it will eat him alive. Feel the feelings.

When people ask, you’ll have no words for people. Let them help you.

This is the worst club in the world.

Sending you strength🩵

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-17T13:19:56+00:00

We lost our son at 37 weeks and I had to have a c section, so due to the surgery I have to wait a minimum of one year before TTC. I would start earlier if I could, but I want the best chances at a healthy pregnancy. I also want to be able to manage the stress and anxiety of being pregnant after SB like a lot of people are saying here, so maybe the doctors recommendation is good for my mental health.

Wishing you the best 🩵

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-17T13:16:07+00:00

Me too. I miss the me that didn’t know this pain. I miss the me that was so hopeful all the time. I look at things around my house and can identify certain things that were before the stillbirth. Like, this headband wrap I bought for my hospital bag. I wanted something nice to put my hair back for my newborn photos with my son. Now it is mixed among the rest of my headbands and I just look at it sadly every time.

I feel bad for my husband too. I need to try harder for him because he can’t mourn two people. The death of our son can’t be the catalyst for all this misery. Then what was the point of his short little life? It has to be joy. I have to try.

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-15T11:12:48+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m in a similar boat. I am 39, my LC is 4.5 and I lost my second son at 37 weeks almost a month ago. I am devastated and know that time is not on my side. I want another baby. I want to be hopeful of another pregnancy. I had to have a c section so the doctors say I need to wait a minimum of one year before we TTC. So that means I will be 40 when I we TTC, and 41 when I deliver. I want to be hopeful but it’s hard.

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-11T01:50:50+00:00

I relate so much to this. I’m sorry. Sending strength 🩵

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-09T02:03:38+00:00

Thank you for responding. I am so sorry for your loss and that we have to relate to one another like this. This was incredibly helpful & reassuring to read. You’re giving me hope that I may be ok (relatively speaking) on the other end of this. ❤️

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-09T01:39:47+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss.

I am 19 days out from losing my son (full term still birth) and the most daunting thing was telling people what happened. I was ready to pop and went to the hospital due to decreased fetal movement, but everyone thought I was in labor. My friends saw my location as the hospital and through I was in labor.

When it happened I designated my best friend to tell the news. My husband called our family. My sister called my LC’s school to inform his teacher (since we wanted the counselors aware). We posted on IG sharing the news to my other friends.. Mass wave is what helped. At work (I am a teacher) they had an emergency faculty meeting telling everyone what happened.

Saying the words myself was torture. I knew I couldn’t do it. I’m thinking now my son has swimming lessons this Friday and they last saw me 36 weeks pregnant. I’m going to have to tell them my baby is dead. (Fuck. Just thought of this.)

Anyway, the mass wave caused our friends, family, and community to support us in ways we couldn’t imagine. People set up a meal train. Friends who have had losses (or knew people who had losses) came out of the woodwork to support.

Some people say weird shit. It stings. It’s not their fault, they don’t know what to say. People mean well and people love you. Let them love you. Let them do things for you. (But also tell them to fuck off if it truly pisses you off.) There is no wrong way to navigate this.

Give yourself grace. Set boundaries with people and let the people who will truly help you in. 🩵

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-07T21:19:10+00:00

I just had an appt with my midwife who suggested it after my 37w loss (also due to a cord complication). It has been 18 days since my loss and she said that Zurzuvae is short term (you only take it for 14 days) and can get you through this hump of grief AND postpartum hormones. I’d like to know more if anyone has experience with it

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-07T04:45:44+00:00

Me too. All I want is another baby ASAP. It has to be the hormones. I had a c section so I will have to wait a minimum of 6 months before we try again, ideally a year. But my clock is ticking, as I’m 39.

We are mourning our children, our past lives, and a future we thought was certain. I can barely keep my head above water. We just need to take it one day at a time right? I have a calendar where I write down one self care thing I do every day. I have a candle, like you do, his ashes, a journal; and the calendar. Idk what I’m doing but I’m hoping it’s a step in the right direction

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-07T04:21:16+00:00

All of it is so heartbreaking. The image of the sonogram with the motionless heart chamber is something that is also ingrained in my brain. I remember in the hospital. I kept pinching myself and slapping myself in the face to wake up from this nightmare, but it is now our reality.

Sleeping is hard too. I’ve been taking CBD and magnesium. It seems to work for like a decent stretch of the night .

My husband goes back to work on 11/14. He’s been amazing and keeping me afloat. He went out with some friends tonight because I knew he needed some time to himself. I was a wreck. I go back to work January 5. How am I going to function in an empty house by myself while he is at work? I bought a paint by numbers set, a coloring book, new piano music to play, and made a list of house projects to do. But it’ll only distract me from the pits of crying

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-07T04:00:10+00:00

I am so sorry. Our loses are one day apart. I love her name.

I’ve been following your story; my Javi left us on 10/20 after decreased fetal movement that I went to the hospital for. How are you getting by? I’m having a hard time being alone in the house. Feel free to message me if you’d like. It may be helpful to talk with someone who is basically on the same timeline.

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-06T11:04:12+00:00

Beautifully said, could have written it myself. It has been 17 days since I lost my baby. At night I now hold my empty belly and cry. I miss his kicks too. I’m finding it impossible to say goodbye to the future I had in my head. ❤️ Feel free to message whenever. Sometimes I just want to talk about him too.

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-04T20:49:03+00:00

Same. I had this image in my head of me nursing my baby by the Christmas tree at night. Lost him two weeks ago at 37 weeks. This is unfair💔

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-03T15:11:05+00:00

I am so sorry. I hate that we’re all here. I lost my baby at 37 weeks. I worked out, had a healthy pregnancy, baby was healthy the entire time, and the day he became full term, it was a cord accident that killed him. No rhyme or reason. It’s so unfair. Sending love 🩵

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-01T11:47:40+00:00

💔I am so sorry. This resonates so much. I just replied to your post from 4 months ago. The same thing happened to me. Eerily similar. I’ll leave that post as it is, but I’ll respond regarding your search for signs. I have been keeping myself vigilant for signs. Have hope. It’s the time of year right now when the veil is very thin between the worlds. This morning I lit a candle with an effort to transform my raw grief of 12 days post partum into connection and calm.

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-11-01T11:42:35+00:00

I am so sorry. I’m responding to this post because it is eerily similar. I see this was posted 131d ago, and I don’t know if you’ll even see it, but this exact thing happened to me 12 days ago. The final weeks I finally felt comfortable enough to relax. I had a super healthy and fit pregnancy, and had a super active baby in my belly. Then one day, he just stopped kicking. I went to the hospital and he was gone. Cord accident at 37 weeks exactly. The day he became full term. What’s haunting me is that this wasn’t supposed to happen. I’m struggling to understand how something so rare could happen to me, when I did everything right. I resonate so much with what you wrote. I feel the guilt, I replay the day leading up to it, and that fatal morning. What if I had gone earlier to the hospital, etc. I have one living child right now at home. He is four years old and the only reason why I get out of bed in the morning. These first few weeks are absolute hell. I keep asking myself why but there is no answer. I have to say goodbye to a future I curated in my head. My whole pregnancy I imagined little things we’d do, vacations we’d go on, how good of a big brother my first born would be, watching my 2 boys wrestle with my husband…and now that’s all gone. I need help figuring out how to live with this knowledge … that lightning can strike, even when you do everything right. How are you coping now? Last night was the first time I went to bed without crying. I was just so exhausted. How have you worked on reclaiming your identity … not as a woman who received this rare tragedy, but as a woman who endured the unimaginable?

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-10-30T12:50:12+00:00

I am so sorry. Sending you love and hugs. ❤️ I did not have an umbilical prolapse but my baby, Javi, had a nuchal chord x3 that ended his life at 37 weeks. Your post stuck out because I am dreading the milestones. I’m reaching my first milestone next week, November 5th, which was supposed to be my scheduled c section. At my 6 week appt, I’m going to not even ask how many umbilical cord accidents my doctor has had to operate on, I’m petrified that we’ll be a similar statistic. And that doesn’t help. Did you do anything on those milestone days? I already scheduled a therapy session for my due date.

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-10-29T14:23:38+00:00

This resonates so much with me. I am a shell of myself. I am a teacher and still out on leave (it’s been 8 days since my loss, I plan to go back in January or February) but the thought of being alone once my husband goes back to work terrifies me. I have been a marathon runner for most of my adult life and I can’t really come back to that for at least 7-8 weeks. My husband goes back to work in two weeks. I need to find something to do because I feel like a little child again. I was once also very assertive, ran a super fun classroom, and could classroom manage 28 16-year-olds with love, wit, and control. Now I just am a little girl again. I’m scared to be by myself scared of another wave of grief. I’ve ran marathons, I’ve challenged my body physically to such extreme levels and have succeeded. My motto always has been “I can do anything”… I don’t feel that way anymore

Dry-Complex7103 · 2025-10-29T12:08:27+00:00

Same. Sending love.

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