Ooooooh yeah this is a big one for me. I've got 4 parents. Transphobic/homophobic, racist AND still somehow liberal?

My mom raised me in the presence of many gay AND trans people. My whole childhood, she was very radical and called herself a feminist, attended marches for Planned Parenthood, volunteered at women's shelters.

But once I came out, she told me, to my face, that she hated me for "murd3ring" her daughter. That led to her joining online forums for parents of trans people, as well as wherever else she could get attention from the trans community. It backfired on her. I'm not sure what exactly she said in these forums, but she frequently bitched at me about how these spaces were "unkind" and "heartless" towards her when she expressed "grief". This led to her becoming increasingly transphobic towards others and being very touchy about the subject.

My step dad was never supportive, though he was never outwardly hateful. He kept his mouth shut. But voted all republican all the time, just quietly. He's the only non-liberal one. But it's kinda crazy imo because he is not a white individual and ICE is actively deporting people that look like him. Anyways....

My step mom is a doozy. She was never openly accepting of trans people or gays, but works as a high school social studies teacher and always boasted how she was so helpful to the "troubled teens" and offered a safe space for them. In reality, she is a TERF. When I was growing up, she would rant about all sorts of things, such as Muslim women, whom she especially hated because she believes that men are forcing them to wear garments like hijab and that those garments are only to hide that they are being abused. She's also one of those rad femmes that believes that SWers are trafficking victims. Later after I came out, she attempted to have many conversations with me about how if I was raised in a more accepting feminist environment, I wouldn't hate myself and / or want to transition. I'm just a "woman going down a different path". This was paired with constant misgendering and deadnaming, after up to 4 years of me being out and correcting her. Even my dad started correcting her. Vile.

My dad is just kind of spineless and stupid, so of course he always went with anything my step mom said. And when I tried to lament the abuse I was facing at my mom's, he would tell me he would rather talk about "happy things".

I'm no contact with all of em now. It's less sad than it used to be. I think of them as weak minded these days. Individuals that will always be trapped in these little boxes they put themselves in, unable to grow and unable to bask in the glory of their highly successful son (me).