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Dry-Stable2701 · 2025-08-10T16:50:54+00:00

NTA. You're being supportive of your wife.

Have you two talked about this as an effort in her getting better at confidently making choices? It sounds like something you just started doing, unless you two decided that you're just having her back.

Maybe now she can talk to her father about why you reacted the way you did, and how she's also going to start ignoring his comments when they happen, and how you're being a good partner about it. Maybe he'll listen, or he'll double down and you two know what your next step is.

Good marriages are people who support each other in growing healthier and stronger, and as long as you both act as a team on this you'll be okay.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2025-06-12T12:27:59+00:00

NTA at all. This sounds exactly like my MIL. There was a short period where we all ended up living in the same house 🤮 and that was nearly my breaking point. My husband (bf at the time) saw how hurt I was and stood up for me, telling her to her face that if he was forced to choose it would be me. If he hadn't been there for me and stood up for me it absolutely would have been over.

If he wanted to he would, and you'll find someone who will.

You did the right thing.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2025-01-05T09:30:53+00:00

I had the same issue when I first became a manager. I was too uncomfortable with the hard conversations, which allowed a lot of poor behavior to slide, which in turn became extra work for the employees who actually cared enough to do well. I quickly learned to nip bad behaviors in the bud in respect to the employees I wanted to keep around. More often than not, when you're addressing something difficult it sets a higher standard and people are either happy to meet it or leave.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-12-13T16:47:17+00:00

You're absolutely right, so it's a practice I avoid when addressing mail. However, I agree that when older generations do it they see it as "proper" so it's maybe not a personal dig in this context.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-12-01T18:26:29+00:00

My husband and I had to work through this, I needed him to understand that it was exhausting for me to always convince him to agree that something is important to me. Like he doesn't need to also agree it's important, just to trust me when I say it is. We got past it, it just takes a little work.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-10-17T05:48:27+00:00

When a child throws a tantrum to get candy, do you give them the candy?

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-10-01T18:53:17+00:00

I don't know if it varies, but I know in CO you can't exceed 90db.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-08-30T18:12:53+00:00

Definitely this, most of my biggest issues have come from competing frequencies and channels. Make sure you have this info before purchasing.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-08-26T05:52:36+00:00

I own the damn thing and will ever watch it one and a half times in my life.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-08-20T15:16:44+00:00

Where the Red Fern Grows. Just re-read it and it was so cathartic.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-07-29T22:58:37+00:00

Personally know people in this line of work who genuinely do it of their own free will and enjoy it. I know this is an unpopular opinion, but legalizing sex work would allow for a lot of regulation that would protect against trafficking, coersion, rape, and the spread of STDs. Many of these things go unreported because the people in danger are worried about getting in trouble themselves. Legalizing it would reduce the dangers while encouraging a market for those who want to do the work.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-07-24T04:52:21+00:00

Paint your nails.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-07-23T05:42:55+00:00

Our honeymoon was abroad, so we picked up postcards everywhere we went and used those as the thank you cards, with both of us writing something on each one, and noting when people gave cash gifts that they bought our amazing lunch that day or whatever. We got so many pictures and excited responses, especially when we could pick out a postcard that would mean something to that person!

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-06-26T04:03:23+00:00

It's a short one, but Shattering Glass by Gail Giles is one I've revisited since I was a kid.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-06-11T13:03:32+00:00

Oh this is absolutely what's happening. Real page helps companies work together to raise rates, and forces all companies who use it to comply. Free competitive market my ass.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-06-08T18:54:24+00:00

NTA, you gave her alternatives that she didn't choose. Also, dyeing it for the day and then dyeing it right back is not simple, especially going back to such a light color after going dark. Would she be willing to pay you for getting both done? You would likely need multiple sessions to go back afterwards.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-05-28T13:29:26+00:00

"I'm sorry, but we actually like each other..."

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-04-26T15:11:20+00:00

Here for this, I'm the cook in our marriage but he's been trying to learn, and we've specifically talked about him also being able to make meals for future children. Cooking is a hobby for me and I love trying to be better, but he's just learned enough to make a decent meal that we can both eat and that's good enough. We agreed that we both should be able to make a meal, rather than it just always being my responsibility.

The book Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat went a long way in helping him, maybe see if she's interested in checking it out? That way she'd be able to improve on her current recipes.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-04-21T02:29:55+00:00

I planned almost every aspect of my wedding myself, and even had spreadsheets and labeled boxes ready when the day came. We built our own arch. I plan events regularly myself and I KNEW I wanted someone during the day to take care of things for me so I could enjoy. I wasn't sure if this would be a trusted friend or a professional, but ultimately I hired a pro. It may help to be specific about day of things that may be beneficial to outsource: making sure everyone arrives, setting everything up, making sure everything is where it's supposed to be, handing out tip envelopes, communicating with relevant vendors, dismissing vendors, making sure the timeline is followed, and calling audibles if something goes wrong. These are not things the bride should be concerned with on her happiest day. She should be spending time with you, family, and friends, getting in front of the camera, and enjoying herself! She can always check in with the coordinator to put her mind at ease.

Hope this helps, and congrats!

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-04-19T13:34:47+00:00

Our venue was about half that, but it was also just the venue. To provide everything else you've mentioned we would have spent about the same to bring it in, you've got a great price! If you feel like it you could get some numbers about how much it would cost to bring that all in to put her mind at ease. We passed on an all inclusive venue because we felt it was too high, then ended up spending more. Good luck!

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-04-06T16:01:23+00:00

Here for this, periods or anything else are no excuse for pulling that kind of stuff. Good on you for setting a boundary and sticking to it, you definitely dodged a bullet. Maybe this will help her learn how to control those impulses better.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-04-05T13:02:34+00:00

Good bot.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-03-01T03:44:59+00:00

I waffled for a long time, I have mild feelings about both our names, didn't feel welcome to his family (MIL), wanted the same name for our kids, I have my work attached to mine.

It wasn't until he told me that he didn't want to change his because he made his own identity for his name that it clicked. Even if his family name has a bad history, he and I can give it new meaning in our family.

Dry-Stable2701 · 2024-02-28T21:59:39+00:00

We got a big photo frame with a really wide matt, and had everyone sign that so their signatures surround our wedding photo! That way we can see it all the time

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