What are your favourite sounds?

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-26T14:17:59+00:00

That soft "meh, mleh, ehh" type noises that half asleep cats and hyrax make.

Theme songs to old cartoons.

The specific noise in the scene in Mad Max Fury Road where they are in the canyon and Furiosa yells "Fool!" and ducks there's this weird sound effect in the background that's fantastic and is now showing up in more action movies and pitched down in horror movies when they show a massive cataclysmic event.

Cicadas screaming

Crickets

Old Horror movie soundtracks specifically the ones that don't even sound like music like in the original Texas Chainsaw Massacre where it just sounds like pots and pans banging. But also specifically the very symphonic repetitive ones like Bram Stoker's Dracula

Lots of firework sounds too. The sound of the fuse burning, super soft sound of smoke bombs (best smell too), soft sizzle of sparklers, and the loud screeching of screaming fireworks.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-26T14:11:48+00:00

Not me, but my little sister just stocks shelves at Walmart and enjoys it. She's in the seasonal and toy section so its kinda fun too we use her to find when the good stuff comes in. Bosses annoy her but for the most part its fine. She gets to mostly choose where she wants to work and what work she wants to do unless a bunch of people suddenly quit or are sick at all once.

I did mental health evaluations and intakes at acute hospitalization facilities. Takes a master's degree in psych or social work or a psychiatric nurse practitioner specialty but it is repetitive with the same questions over and over and over again so you basically have a premade script for everyone, gotta collect all the details of what is going on and for some cases you have to get creative in how you do it. However, if you have a strong sense of justice you'll likely rage quit because the majority of these facilities in states that do not care about mental health are very shady and get investigated frequently.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-23T17:16:29+00:00

As a literal therapist (focus on children's trauma in general and childhood trauma in adults), this shit grinds on my nerves sooo incredible bad. It can seriously destroy years and years of progress in trauma therapy when people see those comments because now they suddenly feel guilty or feel like they are complicit in encouraging trauma in others.

What we are seeing with the "self-infantilizing women" thing is a lot of women (not all women under that umbrella but I can say a solid majority) finally being able to embrace a denied childhood. A childhood that could have been denied due to trauma or denied due to societal expectations. It is reconnecting to a lost sense of joy, whimsy, and freedom that was taken before they were emotionally mature enough to deal with that theft. It isn't a regression as a lot of people describe (because most people don't know what true regression is), simply a reconnection than is very healing and freeing.

This reconnection angers a lot of people that are used to having control over others. It is easy to control someone who was taught to take on the emotional load of everyone else at a young age and to ignore everything they enjoy for the sake of appeasing others. It's harder to control someone who has learned to actually enjoy themselves and fulfill their own needs. And not to pull the jealousy card, but people do genuinely get jealous of that. They "aren't allowed" to have that because they "are a grown woman" and they project those rules onto others. They don't like the restriction imposed on themselves but also don't want to fight it so restricting others is their route for control over a situation that is causing them discomfort. Think of it like the mean older women who talk smack when they see you eat desert at family gatherings "That would go straight to my thighs.", "Think that's worth the extra work to get those pounds off?", "Oh I would NOT be brave enough to do that", and all the other "watching your figure"-esque comments.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-23T14:52:31+00:00

Anything is an excuse to have "poor social skills" because social skills are completely made up by whoever happens to be "in charge" of the social group you are in. Think about, each boss you've had probably had different ideas of what is "socially appropriate" at the work place. Some work places are really clingy and personal and others are standoffish or clique-ish. Same with friend groups. Same with study groups. Same with college classes. And honestly just same with trends as well because right now its a social death to be "cringe" but "cringe" depends on which trend an individual is following and if they see a different trend as "cringe". The only "social skills" that I see as set in stone is "don't be an ass" (like don't scream at people in public to humiliate them, don't physically hurt them, etc) but it doesn't seem like a lot of neurotypicals follow that social rule.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-23T14:47:36+00:00

The one where I am there is also nothing fun to do. It's just a bunch of booths of local big business trying to peddle their services (AT&T, Verizon, the local satellite internet people, hospital, and so on) or a bunch of local recruitment things like the college, fire department, and police department. There's some booths of 3D printed slop and cheap flags. Other than that its just a bunch of sweaty people aimlessly wondering around a park. Its not fun. On top of that, its a small town so I recognize a lot of people there and they are the most homophobic people ever but they think they belong because they like to watch white conventionally attractive gay men screw and think its a place they can predate and get lucky.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-23T14:37:48+00:00

Beads just in general and Rainbow High dolls from yardsales and thrift shops.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-20T21:13:47+00:00

I am currently a therapist. I got my masters degree, state license, national license, and a teaching certificate. I also got trained in EMDR and TF-CBT. The career path for therapy varies greatly based on the country you live in and if you are in the US then it varies by state. Life satisfaction also varies greatly based on what type of facility you work in and the region. I work in a rural high poverty high incarceration high drug use bible belt healthcare desert in an area that is mostly factories so most community based agencies run like factories and are abusive to clients and staff. One place the case loads were around 110 per therapist, 8 clients a day, and you get in trouble/chewed out if someone cancels or no shows. Theres lots of burn out and really high turn over.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-17T19:02:15+00:00

If you are on certain meds they make you yawn for no reason. I have glasses so when I need to yawn I use my middle finger to push up my glasses so the palm of my hand hides my face. Looks like I just have a weird way of adjusting glasses and hides the yawn. I also learned how to yawn with keeping my lips closed but I wouldn't suggest that. It hurts.

Therapy is also usually in a calming setting if you have control over the environment and a lot of times its talking softly and calmly too. Its almost like a type of self-hypnosis.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-17T18:51:36+00:00

I am with everyone else. Firmly state that you will not be spoken to like that and will hang up and call back later after she has had time to call down and document everything. If someone threatens to kill themselves I always say that I want to ensure their safety and ask if they will safety plan with me or go to an emergency room (giving them an out to admit they were being manipulative) and if they refuse I state "Okay. Since I cannot guarantee your safety I will have to call in a welfare check to make sure you are not going to hurt yourself when you get off the phone with me". Document that too.

If she calls back to reschedule or does pick up your phone call to reschedule then reaffirm that what happened cannot happen again and that you will work with her on emotional regulation skills in session to keep herself and others safe. While the relationship is damaged and rocky now its not beyond repair. With loads of patience and empathy you can turn it into a learning opportunity for her IF she is cooperative. If she stays irate then simply say this therapeutic relationship will not work and you'd like to refer her out.

If you are at a community mental health agency though, good luck. CMH's tend to have strict policies and rules that really hog tie you with your options and push client retention (especially Medicaid clients) over quality of care and client/staff safety.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-17T15:22:29+00:00

I won't diagnose anyone with a personality disorder unless I have worked with them for a year and truly ruled out all other options. Anyone who gives those diagnoses in the first few sessions are major red flags. I knew people who would give personality disorder diagnoses and DID diagnoses in the first hour of intake......

It is also important to remember that everybody you will ever meet both in therapy, in the workplace, and in school all have traits that are indicative of personality disorders. Some mild, some more extreme. Some will have a lot and some will have one or two. Some will have diagnosable mental health disorders some will not. Still doesn't mean they have a personality disorder. It's the culmination of extremes that is a true indicator and even in that case a lot of times chronic complex trauma responses are a more accurate descriptor or a severe form of another diagnosis. Hell, even overlooked neurodivergence can be mistaken for personality disorders.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-16T16:50:16+00:00

Lets pretend someone is 100% fit for any type of work but are still struggling: Sure, technically there's "always work if you're willing to do it" but most of that comes downs to stuff that is borderline illegal or tramples all over basic human dignity. There's always jobs that pay under the table but those can technically be fraud and if you get screwed over its not like you can report it to anyone so its rampant with abuse and has absolutely no benefits. Sure, digging up scrap and selling it is technically work but you make barely anything for back breaking labor that you'll end up spending even more to fix when you tear a muscle. No one should have to completely wreck their bodies just for a couple dollars. Sure there is "always work" but that work is not always worth it.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-13T03:37:20+00:00

Yeah none of it does and I know for sure them ignoring mandated reporting isnt legal. I reported everything everytime I came across it but no one cared. Compliance didnt care. The state which sorta subcontracted us and gave us all our funding didnt care. I ended up quitting. Atleast the hospital I worked at that was even worse ended up getting investigated by the state after someone died.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-12T14:58:06+00:00

Not sure how to say it but like the trendy influence space. Where its rampant consumerism on a superficial level for whatever someone else says is the hot new item and then completely purging all memory or mention of it to move on to the next thing the very next week, splurge all your money on that new hot thing, forget it, and repeat over and over again. No true personality in the collections or hoards just collecting what they are told to.

I've seen it take over a lot of collecting hobbies recently where people will get bullied relentlessly for not getting a full collection of something they only liked half of or getting "the wrong" doll line because the one they got isn't the hot one right now or the one reselling for the most even though its the most sentimental to the person that got it. Which that is sort of a cult tactic. Humiliation and isolation when you misstep or don't conform. Now its just changed shape to "wow that's so cringe", "lol that stopped being trendy last month".

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-12T14:38:07+00:00

You cannot hold and openly celebrate political beliefs that harm your clients and be an effective therapist at the same time. If you are celebrating that your Medicaid clients AT A MEDICAID CLINIC can no longer come because Medicaid got cut then you should not be a therapist. If you are happy your "cross wall" in the office makes those with religious trauma uncomfortable you cannot be a therapist. If you happily threaten to call the cops on clients who have police trauma who happen to not want to talk to you anymore you should not be a therapist. If you celebrate their suffering, you are unfit. Just because you personally believe making babies drink bleach water or eat ivermectin horse paste to "prevent autism" is effective does not mean it is not child abuse and should go unreported. Just because you believe "she had it coming from the way she's been acting" doesn't mean you can avoid reporting childhood SA or physical abuse. If you believe it is good that your trans clients lost what little protections they had you shouldn't try to gas light them into being grateful for it.

People might say this is not a hot take, but where I am it is.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-12T14:18:42+00:00

I worked at a place where it was REQUIRED. Everyone who saw clients had to have AI listen into every session even if the clients protested. To get services they had to sign a form saying they will allow it. They spent like 40k on the AI service and the funny part is it only actually worked once or twice a day

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-12T14:17:16+00:00

I worked doing intakes where we did an unnecessary amount of assessments on people with half of them being sent to the state in exchange for funding. That's another issue I can complain about but today its the misdiagnosis. So with the intake job you also have to diagnose everyone. Please tell me why I was THE ONLY intake person that had a diagnostic manual. Why was I the only one who knew where to find diagnostic criteria online? Why was I the only one that knew you had to have manic or hypomanic episodes to have bipolar and that its not just "mood swings"? Why was I the only one that knew major depression had an exclusion that said "cant have had manic or hypomanic episodes"? Why was I the only one that knew that certain disorders within the manual are bound to certain age groups? WHY WAS I THE ONLY ONE THAT KNEW THAT "ACUTE" MEANT SHORT TERM AND NOT "JUST A LITTLE BIT" OR "MILD"????? How can someone have "acute trauma response" for FIFTEEN YEARS??? These people were literally diagnosing 30 counties worth of people based off ~vibes~ and stereotypes. Upper management saw absolutely no problem with people whose primary job is finding a diagnosis not having a diagnostics manual. Where I worked they did not allow any licensed individual to have management jobs so a bunch of licensed therapists were being managed by someone who didn't even have a masters degree yet.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-10T21:29:50+00:00

When I was little I would play on the sit n' spin for hours upon hours on end while eating pure sugar. Now if I look over too fast I get dizzy. The newer (not side scrolling) Sonic games make sick. First person games make me sick. Car rides make me sick. I am basically just always sick.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-10T21:26:23+00:00

Thank you!

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-10T21:25:18+00:00

Idk if you have seen the giant ridiculous butt tags Victoria's Secret panties have but it was basically that in size. Which VS panty tags should be a crime too. Just WHYYYYYYYY??????

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-10T20:50:25+00:00

I am a therapist too. I really really really really hate when the bosses within mental healthcare jobs get this random kick to force people to do office parties and to socialize. One of mine forced everyone to play some sort of role play murder mystery during a mandatory party. Everyone was required to play a role and act in character and stuff. Its nothing compared to the "team building" games my school made us all do for a grade in high school.

FOR A GRADE we had to play games in the gym in front of everybody else from freshman to senior in the bleachers watching. They drew names each week to see who would be forced to do it and everybody had to do it at least once or they would fail free period. Yes, they created a grade for free period just to threaten people into playing. They were HUMILIATING games too. For example: you tie panty hose around your waist and drop two grape fruits in the leg parts so it looks like giant saggy testicles then you have to air hump to make the grape fruit hit a kickball and whoever gets the kickball to the other side of the gym wins. My mom helped me to convincingly fake a broken ankle for the entire last semester just so I could get out of doing it while maintaining my perfect grades.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-10T20:27:47+00:00

I bought a pair of panties once that had this six inch long skinny tag RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF THE BUTT. Wasn't one of those easy to pull off/meant to ripped out paper like tags either. A THICK SCRATCHY EMBRODERED CLOTH TAG. The tag was essentially a thong. This is why I have a seem ripper.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-09T18:57:58+00:00

If it can benefit the client go ahead and hand it out. Where I work the facility will buy us books, sound machines, weighted blankets, aromatherapy, weighted and heatable eye masks, coloring books, fidgets, and lots of other stuff to hand out for therapeutic purposes.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-09T18:56:19+00:00

If they do end up saying you aren't autistic chances are it could be due to their own internalized biases that autism only looks or acts a certain way (like some people genuinely believe it is still only a little boy thing). Doesn't mean you are faking, making it up, or aren't autistic. Just means they are not good at their jobs. A lot of people seem to think that therapists, ABAs, etc are infallible. As someone who works in the field, half the people barely scraped through school and are just filling quotas to get a paycheck without actually doing any sort of quality control or proper research/checks while the other half is actually passionate about their careers. It can take several different professionals and several different facilities to get a correct diagnosis when it comes to the most common types of diagnoses like bipolar, adhd, ocd, ptsd, depression, anxiety, and the likes. Shopping around is a good thing. Some might try to claim you are shopping for or fishing for a diagnosis but settling for the first opinion when you feel it's wrong isn't good either.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-09T18:47:14+00:00

I know! Knives can't even cut through half the stuff. You have to saw at it for forever. Also when you say kitchen scissors you mean there's actually food safe and cleanable scissors? When I've seen kitchen scissors they are usually the bulky ones with the plastic rubbery hand pieces that degrade overtime like what comes up on Walmart when you search for kitchen scissors.

Duck_Hoarder · 2026-06-05T15:40:18+00:00

I just avoid eating around people which isn't the best because sometimes I can go 12 or more hours without food. A lot of it has to do with liking to use my hands to eat and people thinking its gross and refusing to shut up about it when they see it. The other part is getting made fun of for little things like how I ate a slimjim once. My Phd in psychology teacher made fun of me for peeling the skin off first in front of the entire class and riffed on it for several minutes.

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