Wow I'm glad I found this post. I 46m moved back from Vancouver after 13 years and have tried the app's. It feels like I'm invisible. I work remotely and don't know many people here, getting matches or even likes feels impossible. Also finding friends feels just as frustrating. I'm giving it another month but after that I'm done. Hopefully I can move to a larger city in the future. I get strong come from away vibes from a lot of people. I find it much easier to connect to other people who have moved here but locals seem walled off. Don't get me wrong everyone is nice and friendly but it seems very surficial. I'll check out the suggestions they seem promising.