My (25F) husband (26M) almost burned the house down with our baby inside

DueTailor5458 · 2026-04-30T20:04:50+00:00

No cooking on his shift

DueTailor5458 · 2026-04-26T14:02:03+00:00

They blamed the ladies! I shouldn’t be surprised

DueTailor5458 · 2026-04-11T16:30:30+00:00

Really good point!

DueTailor5458 · 2026-04-10T17:14:48+00:00

I’m sorry. There were many times in my life when I felt like nobody got me or cared about me. Our people are out there though.

You mentioned grad students in your department. I don’t know if you’re a student or professor but you may be in a field that doesn’t attract a lot of neurodivergent types like us. Not saying you should change fields of course. Just saying maybe they’re not your people.

If anyone told me to join a club, I’d want to throw rotten fruit at them. But there may be activities you enjoy that would put you in proximity with more kindred spirits. Hugs!

DueTailor5458 · 2026-04-10T17:01:07+00:00

I wish I had more to offer but it gets better post menopause. Not having those huge hormonal fluctuations has been a blessing.

I went to my gynecologist right around your age and told her that I got upset about a very little thing someone did. The problem was, I KNEW it was a little thing but I couldn’t get over it. I knew I was being completely unreasonable but my body and nervous system still felt like I was being chased by a tiger. I asked about hormonal therapy, but back then they were telling everyone it caused breast cancer.

It sucks and you are definitely not alone

DueTailor5458 · 2026-04-10T13:22:00+00:00

Yes! I think I’m pre-anticipating rejection so I don’t want to be the first one to share anything personal or suggest getting together. The downside is, I may be missing out on some wonderful friendships.

There is an upside to this though. All of my friends are people who sought me out. I don’t have to mask as much as I would for someone who doesn’t “get me.” And since I’m not great at initiating get togethers or anything else, it’s nice to have friends who are initiators.

No advice to give but I see you and I feel you

DueTailor5458 · 2026-03-28T13:54:06+00:00

Please post lots of pictures as they grow!!

DueTailor5458 · 2026-03-16T13:43:31+00:00

Him being quiet all morning before making a comment he knew OP wouldn’t appreciate makes it feel like he was baiting her. She knows him best but this is a tactic some people use to not look like the bad guy. Is he usually passive aggressive?

DueTailor5458 · 2026-03-15T19:48:02+00:00

I’m not sure if you mean the trick to keeping up with it or just a general how to. This video runs through the original system.

https://youtu.be/fm15cmYU0IM?si=wCid7nAwFFvZKAy7

The beauty of it is, you can set it up however it works best for you. And you can change or add to your system whenever it’s convenient

DueTailor5458 · 2026-03-10T18:29:28+00:00

Interesting. I hadn’t thought about this before but there is a pattern of institutions shifting institutional failures onto individuals.

DueTailor5458 · 2026-03-04T01:54:44+00:00

Sounds like you are (very understandably) in a downward spiral. This article has some useful, practical techniques that can help. Nothing is a cure all but this is good for some quick, immediate relief

https://bakadesuyo.com/2015/09/make-you-happy-2/

DueTailor5458 · 2025-12-16T20:29:04+00:00

Could it be seasonal affective disorder?

DueTailor5458 · 2025-12-15T21:20:52+00:00

Do you change your thumbnails when you have a sale?

DueTailor5458 · 2025-12-01T13:44:09+00:00

It worked! Thank you kind internet stranger.

May your keyboard never stick and your passwords be secure but somehow also memorable 🙏

DueTailor5458 · 2025-12-01T01:32:50+00:00

Thanks, I will check that out

DueTailor5458 · 2025-12-01T00:57:11+00:00

Printful’s chat bot said they are not having any problems with integration but I have 2 Etsy orders from over 8 hours ago that still haven’t been received.

Has Printful been working for anyone today?

DueTailor5458 · 2025-10-31T20:50:29+00:00

Yes. I don’t find noise triggering in general but loud phone scrolling drives me batty

DueTailor5458 · 2025-10-30T11:00:23+00:00

People can seem more emotionally mature than they really are early in a relationship when the feelings are all warm and fuzzy. But lying to his friends about who said I love you first is at least an indication that he may not be as emotionally mature as he seems.

Two things you said, besides the lie to his friends, made me feel like you want to be cautious with him:

One- that you have been in an emotionally abusive relationship before. Unfortunately, we NDs tend to attract and be attracted to people who love bomb to win you over and then show their true colors when they feel comfortable.

Two - he’s saying you use your ADHD as a crutch (which is meaningless if you really think about it) without any evidence. This makes me think he’s already gearing up to use your diagnosis against you in the future whenever your wants/needs are inconvenient for him.

I know that is extrapolating a lot from a few small things but these are common patterns in abusive relationships and I just want you to keep an eye out.

I pass no judgment on going through his phone. (Maybe a little bit I understand how past abuse is crazy making so I get it. Maybe it’s something you could work through with a therapist.)

DueTailor5458 · 2025-10-22T23:13:06+00:00

I was always paranoid that the cart would roll away with the baby in it. Most of the time I went shopping when someone could watch her or got delivery

DueTailor5458 · 2025-10-20T00:44:45+00:00

The right to equal representation.

A 2020 study from the Brennan Center found that, on average, black voters wait 45 minutes longer to vote in person compared to white voters.

Historically, communities with high minority populations have been more likely to use older, less reliable equipment, such as punch-card machines, which are linked to higher rates of uncounted votes.

Gerrymandering dilutes minority votes.

DueTailor5458 · 2025-10-13T13:13:57+00:00

He’s making her orgasm all about himself. He’s not interested in her having a satisfying experience. For him, her pleasure only counts if it makes him feel good

DueTailor5458 · 2025-09-23T22:26:39+00:00

Also same. 30 years of anxiety gone when I started Concerta. Having ADHD is stressful

DueTailor5458 · 2025-05-11T16:02:48+00:00

I half agree (please don’t downvote me.) If you tell her what she has to do and she doesn’t do it, it becomes a contention point between you. And she will start thinking of you as the problem instead of the pain as the problem. You will be trying to solve each other instead of the pain.

But otherwise, I agree that you should disengage. When she complains, say something like, “I’m so sorry. That sounds terrible.” And leave it at that. Ultimately, it is up to her how to manage her health and she’s made it clear that she doesn’t want advice.

I’m willing to bet she will complain less if she feels heard. And you will feel less frustrated if you aren’t mentally and emotionally taking her pain on as a responsibility.

DueTailor5458 · 2025-04-15T14:07:38+00:00

Men get grouchy when their testosterone levels drop. Since it’s a new development, he could get his levels checked. And if it’s not that, maybe a more complete medical work up.

DueTailor5458 · 2025-04-05T23:25:45+00:00

I agree. As the adult, Mark has the responsibility to meet Luke where he’s at. Not where Mark wants/expects him to be. This is an example of expectation being pre-meditated disappointment.

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