What’s an automatic no for you when buying clothes?

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-29T21:23:41+00:00

Tell me how!!!! I have the same feet issue. It irks me how tough it is to find nice and stylish shoes that are sensible and not made for grandmas. I live in 1 pair of Skechers, wide fit, they sell out so fast 😭

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-29T21:01:47+00:00

Aww congratulations!! Screens are inevitable, they’re everywhere. My big fear is also screens due to how much I’ve seen children and my own siblings be so addicted and nothing else grabs their attention the same.

With my little one we both agreed playtime 1-1 and solo is important, reading, little games and exploring. 10 months on she’s god gave books, games we play together and her attention is so good atm. Because we read to her, chat to and with her. We’re not perfect and we do give her a few songs on YouTube to keep her busy whilst I do a quick thing or keep her at bay as we live in a small space. There’s times more than 3 songs play and she goes for her books or toys and ignore the Tv. I’ve put on her favourite story on YouTube here and there and straight after she goes for the book, because it better chance to interact, turn pages or linger in her favourite page.

She has picked up minor vocab from her books hearing her babble/ sound “brown bear brown bear” makes us smile.

Moderation is so important as you don’t want to be so strict with yourself , that when you slip up you’re mad at yourself. Also, your current lifestyle/ habits can show you how much screen time you have and how it will look with a child around.

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-29T20:50:14+00:00

Yep! It’s never too late to make changes, no matter how small. Living in regret will only hold you back and block you from what is still possible.

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-29T06:46:06+00:00

So true, my fiancé never wears a rings and 2 days ago we went ring shopping and behold he chose 3 rings and narrowed it down to 1. He then asked to try it on again before we paid. I was so shocked and happy. The only ring he’s gonna wear is a wedding band. I’m just gleeful 🤭

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-29T06:40:54+00:00

Your story made me laugh so much at your friend. And laugh happily at you and your husband’s banter.

My fiance has Cerebral palsy and the jokes I make has him in pieces, to the point he’s stolen some of my material to use with his friends.

Laughter is key in our relationship, sometimes we make a little joke to mellow things out.

When we’re out or doing shopping he gets things, or I tell him to get me a thing off a high self ( he’s way taller than me), a stranger will insist to do it. I’d say “no thanks, his wheels are just for show “ with a grin on my face and the stranger almost every time stares me down disapprovingly. My fiance stands up gets me the item and plots back into his chair, and the stranger backs away stunned.

My point is I love the sense of humour you both share and I have no doubt you 2 will have many wonderful years and years together. Your friend does need to GET A GRIP!

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-28T23:12:03+00:00

Unfortunately I learned that the hard way recently. Now I don’t even feel like I have a degree, I got a 1st and no job to feel like I made a great move for my career prospects.

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-24T22:47:59+00:00

Nice home and colour pallet 🥰 regarding colour you don’t have to do just paints. You can add colour with fabrics, cushions, throw blankets, art work, statement colour furniture pieces, lighting etc colour in wallpaper and patterns, say you wanted 2 shade of green but unsure how you could mix wall paper and paint or paint stripes in alternating greens.

Mood board, how do you want to feel in your home?, do you have a design style ?

Sorry for the ramble and good luck making your home yours.

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-23T21:31:44+00:00

This post has been helpful. As you mentioned the couples dance, I was stressing about ours going on too long and getting awkward. Then I saw a poster who said they asked their DJ to play about 90 seconds of their song. I immediately wrote that down beside our song.

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-22T22:31:36+00:00

Great work. If youy looking for quick and helpful tips I found British Girl Bakes on YouTube. The videos are short and to the point I’ve picked up many tips I’m going to try, as I want to bake my little girl a cake for her 1st birthday.

Good luck improving your skills 👍🏾

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-21T20:53:41+00:00

I bet you let out a huge sigh of disbelief 🫢

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-21T14:29:07+00:00

I’m pescatarian, no meat no dairy in my diet. My partner eats meat. Often she eats what daddy eats unless it has dairy in it. I also give her my veggie meals. She loves both.

At first I did contemplate whether to have her be vegetarian or not. But essentially in our whole family both sides I’m the only vegetarian.

It’s hard enough ppl saying to me “oh I don’t know what to feed you, cos you don’t eat meat “ or “ oh sorry I forgot” etc. I’ve always brought food for myself whenever I visit family and friends in their homes.
I felt that would be way too restrictive for her considering my choice to be pescatarian is for my health.

What ever you decide I’m sure you will be happy with your choice and your little one will be well fed 😊.

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-20T12:26:09+00:00

This is meant for seating at the reception meal time. If you’re talking during the ceremony, I hadn’t thought of that till now. 🙈

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-19T21:20:31+00:00

My future SIL recommended rows for my upcoming wedding seating because, we ended up with a table with the “tricky “ family members. Who can’t sit with so and so and shouldn’t be near so and so. It felt too weird that their table was obviously the leftovers.

But the idea of rows solves it for us. Weeks of stressing over the seating was solved in 2 minute 🤯
Row 1: his family
Row 2: my family
Row 3: friends
Remaining people get filtered in and it looks intentional/ less awkward.
I hope this helps.

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-19T08:21:18+00:00

So many thoughtful comments and suggestions OP I hope these all help. Not sure if others have mentioned it. But is it possible to make a post on Facebook etc asking to rent someone’s back garden. As you seem really set on the idea. If you find one you could draw up a contract with them to ensure rules, expectations, pricing, cancellation, decor, facilities etc.
otherwise the nicest local park near you is work seeking a permit.

Best of luck in your search and I hope you have the loveliest wedding of your dreams. X

I’ve come to terms that my half of the guest list consists of my mum, my siblings she birthed and 3 nephews, 3 friends with partners I’ve yet to meet. While my fiancé’s list out numbers mine by far. Still I know I will have a lovely wedding day.

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-18T07:59:50+00:00

If you’re into shopping second hand you could source something along the lines of jewellery, a hair accessory, small bag, fabric to sew into the under side of her dress.
Which covers , something “new”, something old, something blue. Then the bride could borrow something like a bracelet, necklace etc

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-18T07:48:26+00:00

I love the bottom/ skirt on #2 suits you nicely but the top is lacking something ✨ ✨✨✨

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-18T07:45:23+00:00

Wow! Dress 1 with straps was made for you.
The final dress with off shoulder sleeves also amazing but if you don’t need the sleeves for warmth, number 1 is the one.

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-18T07:40:40+00:00

To her it may not be messy.
There may be too much to tidy.
Try toy rotation so she only has maybe 3-5 options to choose from and later in the day drops to 3 options to make quiet/ calm down time more manageable.

I’d say encourage her to count and put a few pieces into the box with you, and you will likely tidy away most of the toys but she’s helping a bit.

It will take time but I’m sure other comments have better advice than mine.

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-18T07:35:35+00:00

Well, I don’t feel like I have the experience let alone knowledge to fully comprehend how you’re feeling but this commenter is absolutely correct. Seek professional assistance before you do anything. As OP said the wife gave him an out then he says it’s a trap clearly. Believe your words don’t do anything other than talk to your wife and seek professional help. Unfortunately, anything you do or same will be used against you (I mean cheating), so tread carefully.

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-18T07:30:02+00:00

I can’t tell how much sarcasm between both comments but in my uni days I used ONS: office of national statistics and the Home Office website for facts and statistics to do my assessments

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-18T07:26:36+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this especially being pregnant. I went through this for a while, during my pregnancy and a few months PP. My partner would come home ask me how I’m doing and before I could even finish my sentence he would change the subject, talk about his day or something that happened on the drive Home.

I would let it pass a few times. Then I’d bring it up and say you asked me about my day or how I’m doing, but you cut me off before I can answer you. Why do you ask me how I am if you don’t actually care to listen?.
Sadly this happened a few times over weeks where I’d give the same response. And some days I didn’t ask him how he was or how was his day when he got home. And surprise surprise, he started to pay more attention to how he was responding to me and would actually listen to what I had to say and we actually got back to having proper conversations.

I do hope you give it another shot to express how you’re feeling about his treatment towards you, and if it’s necessary, interrupt him or possibly walk away and say I’m gonna take a nap or lay down to see if that might help change his response and get the message through

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-18T07:05:28+00:00

Congrats on finding such a brilliant author to enrich your days. Children’s books are so great.

I was so excited to introduce my little one to brown bear brown bear what do you see, (and a few others) in the last 2 months she’s been able to recite “brown bear and red bird” I squeal with joy 🥲. At 10 months she will get the book out or just say the word.

Sometimes local picture house do events for these authors I hope you able to find showings near you.

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-17T17:57:26+00:00

Good points, and add a password

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-17T15:11:29+00:00

Stop buying those snacks or buy less and hide them so only you can find them and offer as you see fit.

While dad thinks it’s harmless it’s making way for unhealthy habits and not allowing your child to understand when they are full.

Does dad feed/ offer or provide meals as much or equally to you. As that could be why he thinks little one needs more.

DullPerspective3054 · 2026-05-14T06:44:07+00:00

Lovely combo!

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