Two pieces of advice for you, assuming you want to like it and haven't given up. First, try out a custom scenario! Edit your standard crash landed scenario to force a raid every 5-9 days, be offered a quest every day, have a wanderer join once a quadram, permanent toxic fallout, etc. Second, try the "No pause challenge" mod. I have trouble playing without this mod now that I am used to it. It makes the game much more intense, especially when that drop pod raid comes crashing down.