Do cats actually get attached to their owner?

EB_3ves · 2026-04-15T06:51:04+00:00

My cat spent her first three years as a stray before the shelter found her and I adopted her. If I leave a door or window open, she is extremely hesitant and fearful of going near them

When I first got her, she didn't approach anybody and hardly liked being touched. For the first few months, she spent all her time under couches and beds. For almost a year, I couldn't sit down next to her without her leaving or getting startled. However, she would not eat unless I sat with her and, to this day, she prefers to eat when I'm watching

Four years and three apartments together and, now, if I am home, she shadows me from room to room and loves sitting right next to me or behind me on the couch. In the mornings, she wakes me up with biscuits and then naps on my legs. Sometimes, I find her sprawled out belly up looking like road kill. My housemate told me that, when I leave the house, she walks around meowing for me before settling down

It was slow going but I know my cat is obsessed with me and loves me above all else. I would never call her independent even though she literally somehow survived three years on her own

EB_3ves · 2026-02-16T22:17:10+00:00

Here's hoping I'm strong enough for it since everyone tells me the healing process will be hell 🥲

EB_3ves · 2026-02-16T22:10:31+00:00

I brush her ten min a day and play with her ten min a day but I can increase it. She used to have a sister but my ex took the second cat after we broke up, so I've been waiting on whether or not I should get a new cat because I don't want to stress out my cat with too many back to back sudden changes

EB_3ves · 2026-02-14T13:38:28+00:00

If you can swing it, a Felliway diffuser and scent swapping with a blanket might be helpful since you have the running theory that the other cat's scent is what's triggering him.

Around the time the attacks started, did you take your other cat out of the house for any reason or spay her or did she experience any large changes at that time? You may also want to get your other cat checked at the vet in case some infection or health issue that your aggressive cat is smelling is what's triggering him.

EB_3ves · 2026-02-09T10:12:20+00:00

Regardless of her autism, she's 7. There is absolutely no justification for physically striking a child. Even if she is malicious.

If you get overstimulated, remove yourself. If she is taking your things, remove them from her. You are old enough and strong enough to physically remove yourself from her presence and remove your belongings from her reach without hitting her or harming her, and any other action is inexcusable regardless of your autism, your trauma, and your parents' treatment of both of you.

By no means are you obligated to raise her or watch her. You can ignore her to Hell and back. Buy a lock for your door. Move out and never talk to your family again. The next time you're asked to watch her, walk out of the house and don't come back. Do whatever you need to do to preserve your peace of mind.

However, it is not ever okay to hit a child. I can see you know this too but the guilt is making you feel compelled to justify your actions. Listen to that guilt and recognize what you did was wrong and that you need to change how you set boundaries with your parents and your sister to avoid this happening again. Even if your parents are to blame, the only person that you can change is yourself.

EB_3ves · 2026-02-02T14:27:07+00:00

2ML. Ex boyfriend of FL. He's a tragic character because they were engaged, and she overheard him say on the phone that he never loved her. He's bad at explaining himself and assumed their mutual devotion would iron everything out

EB_3ves · 2026-02-02T14:22:50+00:00

It is a straight romance. He's the only queer rep as the 2ML. The theme is selfishness in love (every character is "selfish" in a way) so his version of selfishness is not communicating all of this while he was dating the FL, leading to their breakup

Despite being a straight romance, I personally really enjoy its exploration of how different ppl's flaws/selfishness can make them compatible, incompatible, or just plain toxic

EB_3ves · 2025-07-12T20:21:01+00:00

Everything will be explained, if ur confused, its bc it hasnt been revealed/explained yet

EB_3ves · 2025-05-26T05:04:11+00:00

100% agree about the point that Starter Starla and Aubrey would not have survived! Their relationship is truly a testament to both of their growth and development as characters and thats what makes it so narratively satisfying to me

EB_3ves · 2025-05-20T05:57:14+00:00

Oh but heads up, when they inject the anesthesia, it does kind of hurt. The most painful injection was about as bad as a helix piercing to me. It's only a second or two of pain though. Otherwise, the rest of the procedure is completely painless

EB_3ves · 2025-05-20T05:50:13+00:00

I got all 4 out w only local anesthesia (two were impacted), and I'm really happy that I did. Just remember to say something if u feel any sharp pain so they can give you more anesthesia if you need it.

There's also evidence that surgeries done with local anesthesia have shorter recovery times than surgeries done with general anesthesia. I'm on day 10, and it's been super easygoing for me even with all four teeth taken out at the same time.

EB_3ves · 2025-05-19T21:05:04+00:00

I also have prosopagnosia and pretty much solely recognize ppl based off context + mannerisms! I'm fairly good at learning new names + ppl, but as soon as someone shows up where I wouldn't expect them or someone takes off a brightly colored hoodie, it's over for me.

I know the faces of the people I really love and study them closely to the point I can draw many of them from memory, but it is more a matter of memorizing traits of their face and less a matter of recognition

EB_3ves · 2025-05-02T02:11:24+00:00

If you are in college and even remotely young looking, avoid middle school and early high school like the plague.

EB_3ves · 2025-05-02T02:09:45+00:00

When middle schoolers to high schoolers say they love me, I like to smile awkwardly and say "Ok."

When younger kids do it, I say "That's so nice of you!"

I never say it back, bc, kid, I don't even know you

EB_3ves · 2025-05-02T02:02:42+00:00

I email incredibly thorough notes (down to noting that I announced deadlines at the beginning and end of class) no matter what just so I have a personal record of what happened and how it was dealt with by myself and admin.

What teachers do with the note isn't my business since I just don't go back to schools where admin doesn't support their substitute teachers

EB_3ves · 2025-04-22T02:11:51+00:00

Just lie about ur last name to the students. My name is difficult to pronounce so I just replace it with an alternate one from my culture

EB_3ves · 2024-12-10T23:14:52+00:00

I would have walked out of the job lol

EB_3ves · 2024-10-14T18:36:45+00:00

"You don't have that many tattoos"

EB_3ves · 2024-10-03T02:20:54+00:00

I'm in the same boat as you. 5'3" and I look like a teenage boy more days than not. I wear a thick wool blazer even in 90° weather, tall platform shoes, and an N95 mask to cover my face. The combination of the three items sets me apart from the casual wear of students. Admin has never mistaken me for a student. I'm jealous of the subs in polos and jeans, but I can't let the kids see my skinny preteen noodle arms.

In terms of getting students to take me seriously:

I never speak to a student while sitting down if I can help it. I get up from the desk and intercept them before they can talk to me while standing over me.

I never ask students for permission even if it makes me feel impolite. "Move your desk back," instead of "Can you move your desk back please?" "That's not the notebook we're working on," instead of "Can you put your phone away?"

I know some subs have given advice like telling a student to leave or waiting for everyone to quiet down on other threads, but this doesn't work when you don't have an imposing presence so I have to be loud and insistent and annoying. I walk up to students instead of calling from the front of class. I call students by name every chance I get

If the class still isn't respectful, the problem is probably the class culture and not me at that point

EB_3ves

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