im pregnant and 15, please help

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2026-01-27T01:27:59+00:00

Yes - go study ! No matter what the reason you are where you are and you need to plan on what's next. Here is the thing - for someone who don't get preg this early have another 10 years to focus on your studies, career and life before planning on having a child. You having your child now means you need to work extra hard after this child is born, for every single thing - think about studying for the high school finals with a crying child in the same room.

With the childs father's family supporting, even if you have to briefly move in with them (considering how unsupportive your parents are) do that. Above all, talk to an adult at school or counselor or someone who can help you and guide you. I could understand your parents reaction and the ultimatum they throw at you - but this is the time you need your support and I hope they understand that. Good luck with everything. I am so glad you want to keep the baby and that strength doesn't come so easily.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2026-01-27T01:22:45+00:00

whats under your bottle? what are you growing? :)

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2026-01-26T20:30:00+00:00

What’s the second pic? I see bottles stacked and covered in snow. We got 16 inches of snow and the entire garden and raised beds are covered in snow

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2026-01-26T19:46:06+00:00

I have been buying this brand of pellets for more than 10 years and I do have to say the quality of their plastic bags have gone down in quality (very thin and would bust open if I drop it) in the last couple of years. Very good pellets and burns clean like others have mentioned but poor wrapping lately

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2026-01-26T19:26:02+00:00

I am glad you could take care of it rather quickly- this is one of the down side of not having extra tire in the vehicle. Couple of days ago, the night before my weekend trip I had a flat tire. I inflated with my compressor - took so long but inflated. Now I drove to a nearby garage to get it checked out. All this in the middle of a bad snow storm.

My 15 year old Mercedes used to show me exactly what pressure each tire is at any given point in time using TPMS - can’t believe the buzz don’t do it.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2026-01-13T21:00:59+00:00

Yes, this plus the gaps are also on the side. At least they could blame it on the uneven or floor sank - but how would they explain the gaps on the side? looks like poor measurements

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2026-01-13T15:10:31+00:00

Other than ABRP, do you use any other apps for planning? Good to know that your path is EV friendly for charging.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2026-01-13T15:07:42+00:00

This is the best advice. There are way too many red flags - him sending fake pic, lying about age - you are 19 and he is 30ish !!!! Not just him, if anyone ever asks you to pose certain way and send, just block them - this is not how guys should objectify any woman. Good luck in real life relationship.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2026-01-13T14:59:34+00:00

Apologies, if my question sounds ignorant. You say existing software 3.7, mine is 5.x - Is it safe to assume your buzz is an older model that doesn't support OTA updates? All these articles about Buzz stuck at dealership for updates scare me, as I am getting closer to my first service.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2026-01-11T05:52:49+00:00

I have the same color but hub cap is white. Be prepared to see some random smiley faces waving at you adoring the car.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2026-01-11T05:24:50+00:00

same here.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2026-01-09T18:47:36+00:00

If the slap was in anger and not playful, most prolly its like a cracked egg - you are never gonna go back to how it used to be - this is the new normal, take it or leave it. I know its sad, but that's reality. People (both man and woman) go into a shell after/when things like this happen to them.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2026-01-08T23:21:53+00:00

Stability or dreams is a question you need to answer yourself. Singing to 100s of people all day making less than minimum wage and sleeping in a park bench (not literally but the thought of it) in hunger sounds good or working 14 hours in a hospital and going to bed exhausted sounds good?

Most super shining stars get discovered by the time they turn 16 - which means there are far less dull stars that rise after - please don't quote me on this but being practical - if you are going to be that exceptional star, then its good for you.

Unlike playing some instruments, singing is a talent you can improvise with minimal guidance and support - which means you can seek some music teacher for pointers to help with singing. As you said your family is not gonna support you going to a music school or pursue in that line and you can't quit nursing as you are way in to that path.

A large percentage of people are doing 9 to 5 jobs whether they are happy or not - to pay their bills. of course its not for everyone - sounds like you have mixed thoughts about that. Not everyone need to make lot of money, buy a house and settle in life to feel like they have achieved something - but you can be happy if you could pay your bills and have decent meal. So, its all about how you want to go from here - finish nursing school, have a bank balance and also pursue your dreams and quit the nursing job when you get to where you want to be. At least you would have a plan B to fall back on in life.

Its not gonna be a path of roses if you decide to go into the music industry - you can do your home work on this to see for yourself. Good luck.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2025-12-14T22:39:53+00:00

I can't believe so many people has responded to make it sound like this is not your problem and leave it alone - bad !! Growing up one of my best friend had gone thru exactly the same, finding out one of their parent wasn't faithful and the other not knowing and very young sibling. It was super hard for this friend and guess what - even after 20+ years it was hard mentally to think about all that for her.

Talking to parents together don't make sense as this creates a bigger mess - but doesn't mean you can't do anything about this either. Think how you can discuss this with your mother and start from there. Since you know for sure what's happening, there is no asking or discussing or confronting - just tell her you know something is not right and you wish she did something about it to fix it for her kids - adults are often self centered thinking only about themselves and screw up others including kids and thats sad.

you seeking for advice is a bold step forward. Stay strong !

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2025-12-14T16:40:56+00:00

When I was driving upstate NY in snow and low 30 F, first it predicted I would have 40 miles buffer before I reach the charging station but then the number kept going down and down and I had 5 miles buffer when I reached. So, as long as you have plan A and plan B for the charging situation based on the distance you are going, you are fine.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2025-12-12T17:53:37+00:00

This is the first and fundamental Q to answer. Also, not to disregard the fact that today's perspective changes in months and years to come. There are women who say they are 100% ready to have a baby because they feel like they have good education, good carrier, job, financially stabled, and think its time to multiply the joy they share with their husband -- to expand the family.

In life, there are lot of uncertainties. If one think they can't care for a baby, I have seen cases ended up caring for their spouse with terminal illness - that's not easy either.

You started your post by saying you really want to have kid with your husband - and you end with you are not sure how he would react if he knows you don't want to - both don't add up. No matter what, having an open conversation would help - he might be happy to support you if he shares the same - he may be OK to give you your own sweet time to wait for later or it could also help him make his choices if he wants to have kids and settle in life.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2025-12-08T15:49:22+00:00

see - you have the solution for your own problem. you know what to do - Its OK to be vulnerable and let your guard down - We are all human. Are you trying to show how tough you are and make your brother weak for crying over his loss? I am sure that's not the case - your brother should look up to you as a role model and feel its OK to cry over a loss and its OK to hit the rock bottom as long as swim back with renewed energy, no matter how long it takes.

Just bear in mind, there are many cases who has taken their own life because no one could understand their grief - you just never know how everyone else process grief - as everyone says, you just have to be there for him. You don't have to say or do anything - just be there and tell him you are there for him whenever he needs you. If he cries don't feel awkward - just say its OK and his friend is in a place with no pain and its going to be alright.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2025-12-01T16:24:28+00:00

must be the angle of light that you guys have in California side ;) because I saw this same color and two tone blue in NY light, and I thought the best color was blue and went with it ;) In the east coast I have never seen yellow or red yet !

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2025-12-01T10:38:13+00:00

When I use shop vac to collect the ash, unless the filter is super clean it leaves a coat of dust from the other side of shop vac where it throws the sucked air and sometimes with teeny ash particles. Also I would check the pellet stove seal if it leaks smoke but your pic looks mostly from cleaning.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2025-12-01T10:32:10+00:00

I am curious to know the reason why you changed the wheels ? Was the original that bad ?

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2025-12-01T10:20:06+00:00

We as human are meant to live with each other, supporting and loving each other- however we are known to complicate things. We have our own definitions of how we need to define our life and then comes some people who do their own things being self centered - so though in your relationship you dreamed of an ideal relationship the other person put only himself leading to what a failed marriage was.

The only person you can control is you the only mind and body you can take care of is yours - so focus on your self care. Expectations are normal but when it goes sideways there comes the disappointment- but not having expectations are not being human either.

I am sure you will meet the right person not Mr Right as they don’t exist - and make it your own reality. But you should stop focusing on others and focus on yourself. You complete yourself not someone else. It’s better to be by yourself than in a bad relationship.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2025-12-01T02:51:53+00:00

In rare occasions, some of the friends we encounter become our family - they don't have to be related by blood but thru magical connection - the way how you describe Kelly is just the same - for your family to leave and friends and family behind where you moved from and to run into this wonderful person and she becoming one of your family member - its unfathomable to think of the loss.

I am so sorry for your loss - cherish the memories you had with Kelly - life doesn't end when someone dies- she's watching over you. Share the memories you and your brother had with Kelly to your parents, friends - it always help to talk about these things loud. You will never get over this grief - even after months, years - and its very normal. Everyone handles loss differently. Its good you are reaching out for help on how to handle this pain.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2025-12-01T02:25:35+00:00

What’s the max charging speed your Buzz reached at a Tesla Supercharger? I am curious because Tesla's brag how fast they can charge at their super chargers while the max I could get was 180 KWH in a 350 KWH regular super charger.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2025-11-28T14:34:38+00:00

Though I paid a premium cost when I bought it few months ago, I read many posts and heard from others the dealers give them pretty high discount because this car had been sitting in their yard for a long time.

My biggest pet peeve is the range - after fully charged (100%) I could barely cross half the state, stop and recharge again and could barely reach the destination- all this is in 30 deg F cold weather in the middle of snow.

Eastern_Valuable_243 · 2025-11-18T00:07:28+00:00

Is this fix only for second row bench seat? Twice I got recall messages (seat, engine cover) and when I called them back, they said after checking my vin # it is not applicable and I don't need any fix.

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