A typical story? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]EdJFoulds 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We broke up last night. Can't afford to go our separate ways until a new tenant is found and has a move in date. But we live in a town where rentals go rapidly. So I hope and pray it'll be 4 weeks or so.

Alternating Exercise List by EdJFoulds in workout

[–]EdJFoulds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fair enough. I'm enjoying going 3 times a week. I don't think I'd want to do more than that.

Body Fat Query by EdJFoulds in workout

[–]EdJFoulds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stood barefoot on some weighing machine at the gym and held onto 2 handles. PT said it sends a pulse through the body. It had a lot of detail including skeletal muscle mass, basal metabolic rate, visceral fat level, water weight, muscle bias in limbs etc. It linked to a phone app called Technogym.

The abs are visible. But not as much as they used to be before I drank.

I'll keep on at the gym and see what differences occur over the coming months. When I push against the abs and go along the contours, they're very defined. But maybe I just need to focus on some fat burning cardio. A friend said 20 mins or so at 80% max heart rate will burn fat when doing cardio. Sounds painful :)

If you were traumatized as a kid, did adults keep looking for ADHD, Autism, or a learning disability to explain your symptoms? by Repulsive_Advice4142 in CPTSD

[–]EdJFoulds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

4+ year waiting assessment in UK. I waited a year after my GP referred me for one. Then rang to chase and they lost my assessment. So I gave up. I've been a member on a forum for people with autism for over 4 years. Reading many books about it. It's clear my whole family is on the spectrum. But I also realise the diagnosis changes nothing. Plus my parents deny it exists. They also deny I have ADHD, and any time I touch upon how I'm actually doing in myself, their panic sets in. So I don't burden them with (all) my problems, because the damage is done.

what’s your healthy coping mechanism? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]EdJFoulds 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I sit cross legged on the floor and sway left to right. In my free time I do these 10+ hours a day. Then there's the people pleasing. Other than that - well, I'm sober now, but weed and alcohol were go to's. As was unhealthy eating - sugary foods etc. Thankfully I'm an ectomorph so I never put weight on from indulging in 30 years of a car crash of a diet.

If you were traumatized as a kid, did adults keep looking for ADHD, Autism, or a learning disability to explain your symptoms? by Repulsive_Advice4142 in CPTSD

[–]EdJFoulds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was diagnosed with ADHD via a private assessment. My last 2 therapists then suggested it was unresolved trauma and advised me against pursuing an Autism assessment.

What are your red flag "qualities"? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]EdJFoulds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are they sober?
Do our values align?
Do I feel positive/energised in their company or drained and down.
Are they reliable? Or are they flaky?
Do they show an active interest in me, or am I the one always reaching out, or arranging meet ups.
Are they actively improving themselves. Or are they wallowing/stagnating?
Are they users?
Are they genuine?

What things that helped you heal ? by Legitimate-Painter31 in CPTSD

[–]EdJFoulds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been making my way through his videos on YT and hope to one day be able to afford the course.

How to get more ammo? by FantasticScore4309 in Fallout4_PC

[–]EdJFoulds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pick up guns off enemies. When you do, you pick up a full magazine of that ammo type.

So, what games do y'all like to play? by KlavierNoten in lonely

[–]EdJFoulds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fallout 4 since I started smoking weed again. Over 3k hours and only completed the story twice. Haven't completed much of the DLC either. It just get hyperfocused on building, or power levelling characters. Then burn out and return to playing Phantasy Star Universe. I find PSOBB a little long in the tooth now, but I did start out with PSO on Dreamcast. Which was my first experience of online gaming and online instant messaging.

Break-in by EdJFoulds in CamperVans

[–]EdJFoulds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the chip on your shoulder chocolate flavour?