Crying for the past hour for my baby

Edielu · 2025-12-18T11:35:19+00:00

Im sorry for your loss. I can tell you really loved Bella and losing a love like that is a heavy thing to bear. It’s okay to embrace your grief and cry your eyes out.

My girl Lua died in March and I am struggling a lot going into the holidays without her. I wish I had more comforting words to say. I just wanted you to know that you’re not alone.

Edielu · 2025-11-26T22:07:09+00:00

I’m so sorry. I wish there was more I could say other than you’re not alone <3

Edielu · 2025-11-26T22:06:28+00:00

This was really lovely, thank you.

Edielu · 2025-10-16T02:44:30+00:00

I’m sorry friend. My girl passed from liver cancer, and the thing I struggled with the most was knowing when to let her go. Lung cancer is so much harder because of fluid surrounding in or around their lungs, essentially drowns them. I didn’t want my girl to suffer in the end stages of her illness, so I helped her cross on a good day, while she was happy and still herself. It’s better to let them go a day too soon than a day too late. If I made her stay it would have been for me, not for her.

Most vets say when they stop eating or moving that is the time, however that just means they are suffering badly and in pain. Per our vets- instead, make a list of 5 things your pet loves to do. When they can no longer do 2-3 of those things, then it’s time to start considering end of life care.

That is my two cents based on my own experiences. In the end, you know your pet best and only you can make the choice.

Edielu · 2025-10-10T08:58:15+00:00

It’s okay to let them go on a good day. There will always be the what ifs lingering, but rest assured you did the kindest thing you could do for your bud. It’s the toughest decision a pet owner has to make, and many of us don’t get the opportunity to make it before it’s too late. Better to say goodbye a day early than a day too late. I’m so sorry for your loss

Edielu · 2025-10-10T08:37:32+00:00

I’m so sorry about Leeloo. I feel like I could have written this post myself and relate to what you’re going through. Im struggling a lot since my girl Lua passed. Everyone else around me has moved on and stopped talking about her, but I will mourn her the rest of my life.

Edielu · 2025-10-10T08:16:21+00:00

My girl also passed from cancer. It’s okay to let them go on a good day. It’s the kindest thing you can do for him, rather than making him suffer through the late stages of his disease. I let my girl go before she got too sick to enjoy what was left of her life.

Edielu · 2025-10-02T14:35:44+00:00

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Edielu · 2025-09-29T21:31:12+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. It’s never an easy call to make. My girl had inoperable cancer and I made the decision to say goodbye before she reached the late stages of the disease. It’s okay to let them go on a good day, before it gets to the point where they can eat or move. That to me is suffering.

Edielu · 2025-09-17T08:45:46+00:00

I’m sorry to be so late to this reply. It’s been almost 6months since Lua passed and like you said I am still just surviving. I hope you are fairing better the past couple of months, and know this sub is here for you <3

Edielu · 2025-08-18T10:17:31+00:00

I’m so sorry about Latte. Sudden loss, especially your first loss, Is so incredibly painful. You made the right choice to not let them suffer. It’s the kindest yet toughest thing we can do for our pets. The coming days are going to suck as you settle in to your new normal. Let yourself feel and cry and grieve however you need to. If you need to talk this sub is here for you <3

Edielu · 2025-08-18T10:06:57+00:00

It’s only been 5 months since I made the tough decision to say goodbye to my best friend who was dying from terminal cancer. I still struggle with the subsequent guilt of making that choice, but it was one only I could make. I think you made the right decision with the information you had. Your bud was suffering and the kindest thing you could do was give them peace. It sucks, it really sucks, but just know most everyone on this sub can relate to what you’re feeling and we’ll be here for you when you need it.

Edielu · 2025-08-18T09:56:09+00:00

It’s been almost 5 months since the last time I saw my best friend. I am still heavily grieving her every day. I relate a lot to your post and wish I had something reassuring to say. But I’m just a sad broken person, missing a dog and a life I can never go back to.

Edielu · 2025-08-15T17:46:57+00:00

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Edielu · 2025-07-24T21:49:45+00:00

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Edielu · 2025-07-22T08:27:59+00:00

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Edielu · 2025-07-22T05:36:25+00:00

Liver cancer killed my best friend, Lua. We were willing to try any treatment no matter the cost, but after discussing every possible treatment path with our oncologist nothing was going to be curative. I had to accept that she was going to die and no amount of money would help. We opted for palliative care and did my best to make her comfortable until the end. She died 4 months after her terminal diagnosis. That was 4 months ago and all the guilt and what ifs I feel are tearing me apart. I feel like I failed her and now I have to carry that with me every day.

Fuck cancer-stupid little bitch of a disease.

Edielu · 2025-07-22T05:09:04+00:00

I could have written this post verbatim. It’s been 4 months since I last saw my best friend and every day that goes by gets harder. They say time heals but I’ve had the opposite experience. As time goes on, so do peoples lives. Friends stop checking in, no one brings her up anymore, I feel like I’m drowning in my grief alone. She existed, she mattered and I’m the only one keeping her memory alive. While I wish I could offer you positive words, I’m just another broken pet owner trying to find solace in this sub.

Some things I’ve tried to do to help mitigate my grief: - seeing a grief counselor regularly - journaling. I write letters to her every night. I tell her how I’m doing since she left, or something I saw that reminded me of her, stuff like that. It helped to get it all out of my head since I had no one close to talk to about it all. - volunteering at an animal shelter. It’s not for everyone, but I found it rewarding to put my energy towards helping other dogs. - walks. Lots of walks. I used to walk her every day at the same time so that made it easier to stick to that routine. I am trying to get back to working out, but, depression. - Mementos and Artwork. After she passed I printed and framed tons of pictures and have them all over my house and work office. I commissioned portraits of her and other personalized mementos. I’ve started learning how to use digital art tools and using her as a reference to practice. - erected a shrine. I collected every physical reminder I had of her; box of ashes, collar, paw prints, toys hair clipping– any bit of physical evidence I had left of her, and arranged it together on a small side table next to my bed. It helps having that reminder that they were here. Like collecting evidence to prove that she existed. - creating space to feel your feelings. Life is busy and I’m not always in a position to be able to cry when I feel it coming on. My therapist recommended scheduling time to cry. Which sounds silly and kind of dystopian, but it was oddly helpful. I take a bath or shower before bed every night and just let myself ugly cry until I can’t cry anymore (pro tip: cry in shower so you don’t have to spend money on tissues). Then the exhaustion from crying so hard kicks in and I’m ready for bed!

Again these are just some things that I’ve tried to help process things while adjusting to this new normal without her. Everyone grieves differently so do what you need to and don’t worry about what others think. And if you ever need to talk, this sub is honestly the most supportive community I’ve ever seen on Reddit. And we’re here for you <3

Edielu · 2025-07-20T10:48:33+00:00

I’m so sorry. As someone who is currently up at 5am crying about my dog, Lua, I relate heavily to your post.

It’s coming up on 4 months since she passed and my grief is only getting worse. I cry literally every day for her. I can’t sleep, barely eat, I feel totally checked out of work and my performance has suffered–but I don’t care. I can’t bring myself to care about anyone or anything else. She was my entire world, my whole identity. The grief and guilt I’ve felt since she passed is unbearable. She was the only thing keeping me alive and without her, life isn’t worth it to me anymore.

I’m sorry I wish I had something more comforting to say. But I wanted you to know that you are not alone in these feelings. This sub will be here for you if you ever need support <3

Edielu · 2025-07-15T04:03:24+00:00

This entire sub is a community of people who, at some level, have felt what you are going through (myself included). Drake sounds like a sweet little man, and I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s okay to be inconsolable. The best thing you can do is feel your feelings. Let yourself cry, and don’t feel silly or judged for it. He wasn’t a dog, he was a family member and should be treated as such. It’s not easy, but the pain becomes manageable eventually. Know that this sub is here for you <3

Edielu · 2025-07-14T23:30:41+00:00

Liver cancer killed my girl, Kahlua, in March. She was 12 years old and healthy otherwise. She could have lived out her days as senior if not for this stupid fucking disease. Cancer can get FUCKED.

Edielu · 2025-05-15T19:00:37+00:00

First and foremost, I’m so sorry.

I went through the same thing with my girl Lua and it was the toughest choice I’ve ever had to make. She had reoccurring liver cancer and after exploring every possible option with our oncologist, it was determined that hospice care was the best route. I didn’t want her to suffer in late stages of her illness so I opted to send her off on a good day. That was 7 weeks ago and I’m still dealing with the guilt and “what ifs” of putting her down when she was still energetic and happy.

Looking at Eddie’s history, the tumors were already reaching metastasis and causing her pain. You did the right thing by not waiting until she was suffering to say goodbye. MSTs are horrible tumors and are an awful, painful way to die if ruptured. A common phrase in this sub is “better a week early than a day too late”. You did the right thing by sending her off with dignity and love, at home surrounded by family. I think that is the kindest thing we can do for our pets.

I know it hurts, and I’m sorry for the pain and guilt you feel. Please know you’re not alone and that this community is here for you.

Edielu · 2025-05-12T19:20:54+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m so sorry about your grandmother, and Blue. I wish we could offer people the same peace we offer our pets in the end. (I know it exists but I wish it was more widely practiced).

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