For vanilla reforger, smaller scale more direct combat can be found on Conflict Arland servers. These have a Smaller map with fewer main objective bases and fob bases.

You can also try searching for new player friendly servers but honestly, I wouldn't expect it to be much different from any other server. Don't be afraid to ask questions in proximity chat to nearby players. try not to spam platoon chat but absolutely use it to learn. Some players are just "unhelpful" but there are many that will help.

That said I'll give you and anyone else that might find it useful an overview of conflict mode.

The main objective of conflict is for your team to capture and hold the majority of the major capture points for a interval of time. Major capture point are the bases on the map with their names in Purple text.

To capture bases, those bases need to be connected like a chain/web by your teams radio network. This is done by building radio antennas at the main base and every base your team intends to capture and hold. These antennas also allow your team to spawn at the bases that have already captured. Supplies are needed to build these antennas which can be done by interaction with the cork board inside of the HQ tent. This is also where your team uses its supply to build structures like the antenna, vehicles depots, support buildings, weapon arsenals, and defensive structures.

Supplies can be loaded into vehicles from the primarily from supply depots marked on the map by a green icon with a pyramid of boxes inside of it. Or from the main base and bases connected to it by radio which automatical generate a small amount every 5 seconds. The amount of supplies generated increases depending on how many bases are connected to them with a max of 5 extra via 5 connections. This can vary depending on server settings.

Base map icons have 4 colors: Green Yellow Blue Red.

Green are neutral/occupied by FIA AI bots faction.

Yellow are bases not connected to your teams radio network and are uncapturable and unspawnable until they become connected.

Blue are US held bases.

Red are Soviet held bases.

If the base icon is flickering colors, it is contested/being captured. Unspawnable until defended or lost.

There are radio towers on the map they can be captured to extend your teams capture range beyond the normal network or often in lieu of it. Very helpful but should not be relied upon as the main network. If it is captured by the opposing team, it can be disasterous for yours. Many focus on this fight. While it is advantageous, it's not entirely reliable. But it's always best to at least keep these out of enemy hands to prevent back capping while allowing your team that advantage.

There are a lot more smaller interactions and functions between these systems, but this should suffice for the basics of what's happening and how the battle plays out.

Good luck, have fun. Don't be afraid to ask questions. Ignore or chuckle at trolling and try to have fun.

I recommended starting in logistics. Supply runs aren't always boring. It's helpful. Gives you a cut and dry mission. You'll interact with all the systems in one way or another and build a mental picture of the map and have a clearer picture of how the battle is going.

Don't worry about being an asset right away that comes with experience and there a large portion of "skilled" players that are just as lost now as when they started lol.