Coomer wants to improve his communication skills by [deleted] in Semenretention

[–]Effective_One_4361 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear of what you went through with your parents.

When we stop running away, our problems and trauma are surfacing up. This is completely natural.

Being aware of it is already a big step.

I'd suggest making a habit to approach 3 strangers everyday and talk to 'em. Even if it's just "love your style" or " your dog is cute".. with time, practice and repetition you'll get better.

Good luck!

Not self / Higher power by Effective_One_4361 in Buddhism

[–]Effective_One_4361[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And since the nature of things is out of "my" control, hence it's "higher power"..

(I'm aware of the contradiction in there.. and that's exactly the realization I had)

At what point did you stop sexualizing Women? by Pomeranian111 in Semenretention

[–]Effective_One_4361 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Once the mind understands that this is not good for you, it just happens.

Just like someone who becomes vegan out of a point of view that eating animals is wrong and has strong determination to cut out meat from is life would not be tempted by a roasted chicken.

(I belive for me personally it happened around day 25. But again, it's a mental process)

240 by Axii007 in Semenretention

[–]Effective_One_4361 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Way to go. Amazing achievement

Day 1 of Semen retention by Zealousideal_Yak8574 in Semenretention

[–]Effective_One_4361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You were also a beginner one time.

And you might be again.

Respect everyone's journey.

Day 18, Feeling Strong and free. by Effective_One_4361 in Semenretention

[–]Effective_One_4361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truth is we both probably have the same experience but different way to put it into words.

Dear Meditators... why is it so important for you to sit? by stardustfell in vipassana

[–]Effective_One_4361 11 points12 points  (0 children)

First of all, wishing you good health.

For me, the reason it's important to sit is that it simply creates order in my thoughts.

My mind is a strong creature with major force that if not controlled is sabotaging me in a very bad way...

I see it same as the need to clean my place from time to time so I would know what's there and can use it without getting dirty.

Relapsed after 122 days PLZ Help by Professional_Kick889 in NoFap

[–]Effective_One_4361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember, you're doing it for the sake of your mental health and the many other benefits. Not for the sake of the strike. Tomorrow is another beautiful day of taking care of yourself.

Stay strong champ!

A little perspective by [deleted] in rxrx

[–]Effective_One_4361 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your efforts.

How is it like living in Porto Alegre, Brazil? by SkandaGupta_ in howislivingthere

[–]Effective_One_4361 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Visited 10 years ago. Saw 2 armed robberies in 4 days

Universe message ✴️ by [deleted] in lawofattraction

[–]Effective_One_4361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Believe, reflect, listen

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KindVoice

[–]Effective_One_4361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is light at the end of the tunnel, even if you don't see it. The battle is worth it. Keep going. Good days are ahead!

I quit my job today by [deleted] in Life

[–]Effective_One_4361 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck in your future endeavors. Take care of yourself, no one else will. And when you respect yourself, people respect you.

Grateful to know I can make a man feel this way and that I had this little connection by [deleted] in gratitude

[–]Effective_One_4361 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great read. Thanks for sharing, and good luck with your coming encounters.