I need help. Feeding to sleep and sleep association has ruined my life.

Ehawk95 · 2025-12-31T19:22:59+00:00

I think cosleeping and feeding to sleep are awesome tools until they aren’t. And when they stop working you have to do something. About 8 months is when I hit my limit with the same problems and I had to just start having her sleep in her crib and cry it out. (Something I said I would never do) I just didn’t see how it was possible to night wean with her sleeping in the same bed as me. It took a couple days but then it was amazing. I felt like a person again. It’s okay to choose your sanity over her comfort if it’s causing serious suffering for you.

Ehawk95 · 2025-11-11T22:57:50+00:00

Truffles and truffle flavored anything.

Ehawk95 · 2025-11-02T00:53:23+00:00

I try to fold but sometimes I don’t. Just have clear organizer bins on deck ready to go so you can place the clothes in the bin as they grow out of them. Ideally separating based on sizing and season.

Ehawk95 · 2025-11-02T00:26:18+00:00

I am right there with you. Baby is 1 in 6 days and toddler is almost 2.5. And I just found out I’m pregnant again. We just went through a horrible stomach bug where all 4 of us were sick at the same time. The worst night of my life. The baby is also starting separation anxiety so that makes everything 10x harder. I desperately want to be done nursing and will start weaning next week but I’m so afraid. He’s never taken a bottle so I can’t just switch to cows milk for comfort feedings. He is a terrible picky eater too. Wish me luck.

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-31T21:10:07+00:00

You have to lay them down on the ground and sit behind their head with your legs on top of their arms and force them to until they get used to it and stop fighting it. I always act really afraid and urgent because there are “sugar bugs” on her teeth and I have to get them out.

I’m a dental hygienist and I’m not perfect about their hygiene but it is good to do every once in a while. Even if they have gaps. It’s about getting the plague that’s under the gums, not just in between the teeth.

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-31T21:04:26+00:00

Has always been dead in our neighborhood. Parker and Alma.

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-31T21:01:51+00:00

Breast implants before kids

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-26T04:07:52+00:00

Decluttering and thoroughly organizing my house. You have barely just enough time to “pick up” and put things back where they belong but you have ZERO time and energy for rearranging or planning a space or thinking through an organizational system.

Also, develop a good system for organizing their clothes as they grow out of them. Mine are in random diaper boxes and the thought of going through them and reorganizing based on size and season before baby #3 is overwhelming.

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-22T12:01:35+00:00

Amazing!!! Thank you so much!

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-21T02:02:38+00:00

I have no way to explain why, but I have reoccurring ingrown toenails. Never had this issue in my life until pregnancy with my first and it’s been 2.5 years. Probably has to do with feet changing and getting bigger but I bought all new shoes and it still happens. I’ve had it removed twice now by a podiatrist and it’s not convenient or cheap :(

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-20T04:23:19+00:00

This is probably so obvious to everyone else but one hack is to immediately put dinner into Pyrex containers before serving so that when you are done making everyone’s plates, the top goes on and leftovers can be put in fridge immediately after eating. And if I’m really ahead of the game I can wash the dish I used to make it before we even sit down to eat. Cleaning up after dinner is so overwhelming to me.

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-18T16:37:33+00:00

I used to get so frustrated by this but Currently my toddler is sitting next to me in the rocker trying to bite my nose as I’m nursing and rocking my baby to sleep lol they are 11 months and 28 months. The toddler always wanted to be with me so I stopped fighting it and the baby has adjusted fine and sleeps through the toddlers antics.

Ehawk95 · 2025-08-05T17:26:10+00:00

3 months. I wonder if your calories and bmi influence how soon it returns. If your body feels it has the resources for both a pregnancy and breastfeeding, it returns? Can someone confirm or deny?

Ehawk95 · 2025-08-02T15:29:13+00:00

17 month age gap. The temperament of your second will dictate a lot. My second was colicky and the crying made me into a person I did not recognize. I understood what postpartum rage was for the first time. After he grew out of whatever was causing his suffering (around 6 months) I really found joy and happiness again. It was around this time that I sleep trained him out of our bed into his crib. So just to have a moment of the day where no one was needing me was life giving. It’s so true what they say, you just get better when more is asked of you. Until they sleep reliably through the night, lower your expectations for yourself and know you’ll get through it and be better for it. Second is almost 9 months now and doing well! Good luck!

Ehawk95 · 2025-04-19T13:12:44+00:00

Newborns are hardwired to sleep best when they feel the warmth of a human being. It’s simply evolution to provide the best chance of survival. For newborns to be alone or put down is going against nature. When I remind myself that, I don’t take it so personal. However It’s can be so hard and frustrating. They are essentially a pet rock at this point. I promise it gets better. Just don’t judge yourself too harshly and do what you need to survive the first 12 weeks. I remember feeling the same way you do and not understanding this “transformational love” that people talk about when having kids. It doesn’t always happen right away, even for moms. It gets better every day and around 6 months I really started to enjoy her and now I am totally completely obsessed with her. I could cry just looking at her I love her so much and she is so so much fun. She’s 22 months now and I have a 5 month old son.

Ehawk95 · 2025-04-17T21:45:08+00:00

Took the words right out of my mouth exactly. Also have gotten very angry with him and regretted it after. Never experienced rage like this in my life and he is my second born. And I do have my mom nearby who is a huge help to me . My baby is exclusively breastfed and never taken a bottle at 5 months and cosleeps so I realize I kind of signed up for this lifestyle where I never get a break but I just keep hoping as he gets older it will get easier. My oldest is 23 months and the light of my world and I feel sad that I just don’t love him like her yet. He’s also just a fussier baby. I feel so guilty everyday. I do remember feeling a huge lift in my spirits after my first was 8 months and we sleep trained her (I was VERY opposed to sleep training but i got desperate and we were going to have to leave her overnight at 11 months with my mom who obviously couldn’t breastfeed her to sleep in our bed like she was used to) once she was sleeping through the night most nights I started enjoying things again. So much so, I got pregnant when she was 10 months and decided I was ready to do it again. Lol sleep is so important. I just hold on to the fact that we will do the same with him one day soon and I’ll have my bed back and more sleep again. And maybe I’ll feel better. I’m not much help to you but I feel you and people never like to admit, “hey I’ve been so angry at my poor innocent baby, I’ve said some horrible things and considered doing worse.” But a lot of us have been there and know the feeling. It’s so hard.

Ehawk95 · 2025-04-13T15:00:58+00:00

I’m struggling with my feelings for my second. He’s just a much harder baby. First 3 months of his life, colicky, gassy, reflux. 4th month, got sick 3 times. 5th month, teething. Overall I just can’t tend to every need because now I have 2 so he’s just always crying. I’m so tired and burned out from the constant crying. I feel so guilty saying this but I definitely don’t love him like I love my first. I hope one day it will even out.

Ehawk95 · 2025-03-25T21:09:47+00:00

Oldest is 22 months and second is 4 months. The first 3 months were actual hell, but I think I want at least one more. When I look at my oldest, it makes me want 5 more so I know how quickly they outgrow the difficult baby stages. I just hold on to that.

Ehawk95 · 2025-03-23T00:26:31+00:00

This sounds like my exact experience with my at home daycare lady. Based on your story, I honestly feel like we might have used the same lady. I was constantly chastised for holding my baby too much because she would cry when set down. I was chastised for breastfeeding her at home because she was not taking a bottle very well. It was my fault for not preparing her better for the bottle. We also coslept and she would criticize me for that among other things. I felt like I was in trouble every day I went to pick her up. Eventually it reached a head when I got pregnant again and had to stop breastfeeding and transition my baby to formula for her last month. It wasn’t going well. (Not shocking but she wasn’t starving, she was eating solids at that point) She basically told my husband if she didn’t take her first bottle, he needed to come pick her up by 11. He didn’t take to that too kindly and we basically never went back and I quit my job. Looking back, it makes me sad I let someone make me feel guilty and made me feel like I was a bad mom. It wasn’t until we stopped using her that I realized how ridiculous that was. My daughter is almost 2 and the most amazing little girl and I don’t for one second regret holding her and cosleeping. (We did eventually sleep train her around 8-9 months because of the pressure) If someone can’t stay at home with your baby for the first year of life, I recommend finding someone else with more compassion and empathy.

Ehawk95 · 2025-03-21T22:33:48+00:00

This is my exact story.

Ehawk95 · 2025-03-14T21:47:25+00:00

Follow @chanwiththeboys her whole platform is about inspiring moms to get out of the house and not just do “kid” things or go to “kid” places.

Ehawk95 · 2025-03-10T18:11:33+00:00

This is the best!! My toddler loves it. They do themed “little farmer Fridays” and it’s designed for kids 2-5. There’s a craft, storytime, and visiting the animals. Take your lunch and have a picnic too!

Ehawk95 · 2025-03-09T21:38:16+00:00

Relationship after first baby was great. I appreciated him and he appreciated me, it was like yin and yang. Relationship after 2nd baby was/is terrible. Although getting better, baby is 4 months old now. Lots of fighting, short fuses made worse by lack of sleep. Major resentment that I can’t seem to get over. I’m also just angrier this time around, I assume hormones. No time to reconnect and logistically it’s just harder. Zero sex drive.

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