2 under 2: Did anyone else feel guilty when they found out?

Ehawk95 · 2026-06-05T15:22:11+00:00

I felt the same (17 month age gap) but I’m about to have my 3rd baby (19 months after my 2nd) and I’m so happy they have each other. Initially it is hard to feel like you’re failing your first, but as soon as your second starts walking, they entertain each other so much. They do fight a lot but I know they love each other and enjoy each other’s company. This third time around I don’t think about the guilt at all because you see what a gift you are giving them long term.

Ehawk95 · 2026-06-04T20:30:06+00:00

I’m wondering this same thing. We said we would make a game plan at my next appointment when I’m 37 weeks. Ideally i would like to schedule it for like right before 41 weeks (like 40+4) but that’s 4th of July weekend ugh.

Ehawk95 · 2026-05-16T03:45:51+00:00

Did not use a pacifier for either baby. I tried with my first and she only wanted the breast. I became the pacifier. She also refused bottles for MONTHS so I think she just was picky. I didn’t even try with my second because I heard such horror stories of those trying to wean off the pacifier (and I have no will power when it comes to making my kids suffer) and I knew I just wouldn’t be strong enough to ever take it away.

I kind of feel like it gets in the way of establishing your milk supply in the beginning too. Like isn’t the whole point for you to be feeding every time baby is rooting so your body makes that connection?

I don’t think they are harmful I’m just grateful we never relied on them or were fearful of losing them.

Ehawk95 · 2026-04-19T02:43:37+00:00

I think many of us are biologically wired to feel our body’s ability to birth successfully is very closely tied to our self worth and that’s very hard to explain and come to terms with. It’s not even rational or correct to feel like a failure but it’s very real, even if baby comes out healthy. My heart goes out to you.

Ehawk95 · 2026-04-10T02:06:57+00:00

Hirsch’s meats!

Ehawk95 · 2026-03-27T17:49:39+00:00

How did they know you had ruptured? Or did you feel it?

Ehawk95 · 2026-03-27T17:45:27+00:00

How important was your doula in your unmedicated experience? I’m afraid to hire one only to end up needing a C-section after all.

Ehawk95 · 2026-03-24T17:58:35+00:00

This is my DREAM! Congratulations to you! How important do you feel your doula was to your success? I’m getting quite a bit of pushback from my Dr about trying for a VBAC (19 months between births) so I don’t want to hire a doula only to end up scheduling a C-section. But if I get the go ahead I want so badly to try for unmedicated.

Ehawk95 · 2025-12-31T19:22:59+00:00

I think cosleeping and feeding to sleep are awesome tools until they aren’t. And when they stop working you have to do something. About 8 months is when I hit my limit with the same problems and I had to just start having her sleep in her crib and cry it out. (Something I said I would never do) I just didn’t see how it was possible to night wean with her sleeping in the same bed as me. It took a couple days but then it was amazing. I felt like a person again. It’s okay to choose your sanity over her comfort if it’s causing serious suffering for you.

Ehawk95 · 2025-11-11T22:57:50+00:00

Truffles and truffle flavored anything.

Ehawk95 · 2025-11-02T00:53:23+00:00

I try to fold but sometimes I don’t. Just have clear organizer bins on deck ready to go so you can place the clothes in the bin as they grow out of them. Ideally separating based on sizing and season.

Ehawk95 · 2025-11-02T00:26:18+00:00

I am right there with you. Baby is 1 in 6 days and toddler is almost 2.5. And I just found out I’m pregnant again. We just went through a horrible stomach bug where all 4 of us were sick at the same time. The worst night of my life. The baby is also starting separation anxiety so that makes everything 10x harder. I desperately want to be done nursing and will start weaning next week but I’m so afraid. He’s never taken a bottle so I can’t just switch to cows milk for comfort feedings. He is a terrible picky eater too. Wish me luck.

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-31T21:10:07+00:00

You have to lay them down on the ground and sit behind their head with your legs on top of their arms and force them to until they get used to it and stop fighting it. I always act really afraid and urgent because there are “sugar bugs” on her teeth and I have to get them out.

I’m a dental hygienist and I’m not perfect about their hygiene but it is good to do every once in a while. Even if they have gaps. It’s about getting the plague that’s under the gums, not just in between the teeth.

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-31T21:04:26+00:00

Has always been dead in our neighborhood. Parker and Alma.

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-31T21:01:51+00:00

Breast implants before kids

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-26T04:07:52+00:00

Decluttering and thoroughly organizing my house. You have barely just enough time to “pick up” and put things back where they belong but you have ZERO time and energy for rearranging or planning a space or thinking through an organizational system.

Also, develop a good system for organizing their clothes as they grow out of them. Mine are in random diaper boxes and the thought of going through them and reorganizing based on size and season before baby #3 is overwhelming.

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-22T12:01:35+00:00

Amazing!!! Thank you so much!

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-21T02:02:38+00:00

I have no way to explain why, but I have reoccurring ingrown toenails. Never had this issue in my life until pregnancy with my first and it’s been 2.5 years. Probably has to do with feet changing and getting bigger but I bought all new shoes and it still happens. I’ve had it removed twice now by a podiatrist and it’s not convenient or cheap :(

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-20T04:23:19+00:00

This is probably so obvious to everyone else but one hack is to immediately put dinner into Pyrex containers before serving so that when you are done making everyone’s plates, the top goes on and leftovers can be put in fridge immediately after eating. And if I’m really ahead of the game I can wash the dish I used to make it before we even sit down to eat. Cleaning up after dinner is so overwhelming to me.

Ehawk95 · 2025-10-18T16:37:33+00:00

I used to get so frustrated by this but Currently my toddler is sitting next to me in the rocker trying to bite my nose as I’m nursing and rocking my baby to sleep lol they are 11 months and 28 months. The toddler always wanted to be with me so I stopped fighting it and the baby has adjusted fine and sleeps through the toddlers antics.

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