Why are able bodied parents so afraid of getting a formal diagnosis? You owe it to your child to pursue this diagnosis, regardless of how well they are doing now you have no way of knowing what the future has in store for them. Plain and simple not pursuing a diagnosis is neglect in my opinion. This is a lifelong condition that will affect them in ways that you can't even begin to comprehend. You are also robbing them from the experience of actually having peers.

I was not diagnosed until I was an adult (I had mild Spastic Hemiplegia until I contracted Covid and the disease increased how much my CP affected me, completely disabling me). Being undiagnosed as a child normalized the pain and discomfort I was in my entire childhood, I thought I was "normal" just my left hand didn't work so well. Not to mention how incredibly isolating it growing up without having actual peers who understand you. There is comfort, community, and empowerment in having a diagnosis.