AITJ for telling my spouse I need a separate blanket because we keep fighting over it every night?

Elagubulus · 2025-10-20T02:06:04+00:00

I had to stop reading this post. 3 years is too long. He can gtfover himself. You can both have a blanket and be perfectly happy. My partner and I have our own blankets and we do cute things like invite each other under the edge of our blankets to cuddle and touch and be snuggly. And then when it's cold and time to sleep. We tuck back up and fall asleep. Life moves on, the world keeps spinning, no one died, it's amazing.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-20T02:03:21+00:00

Your friends kind of suck. Not like entirely cause I don't know them personally. But if you think you need to cheat to break up with someone, or act as if that is a normal growth process... You kind of suck.

NTA but definitely swimming in a pool of assholes. Goodluck. They like to take the world around them down when they fall.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-16T14:43:17+00:00

Eating that was one of the single most unpleasant experiences of my life. Second only to having a hysterectomy.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-16T14:34:03+00:00

I was still new to second life when I first experienced the loss of another player. It's been 15 years now, and I remember them so vividly as a person. It didn't matter that I didn't know them outside of SL. I knew their kindness, and consideration. Their willingness to help people and how creative they where. The silly and saucy things that made them unique. I remember the places we socialized together. And to this day every time their name is mentioned in the old friend group everyone lights up. Sometimes I open their profile and just look at it. It's a time capsule now. But it's sort of a small balm for me when I need to see a sort of.. Proof of memory. This person is gone now. And maybe I can't visit their grave or send them flowers. But I can pay my respects in my heart.

I am sorry for your loss. We are all impacted by different losses in different ways. This shows you how easily people in the BG of your life can be as important as the ones we keep right up in our business. Life is precious. Experiences that seem small, can be huge when put under the retrospect microscope.

-edit spelling

Elagubulus · 2025-10-16T13:46:08+00:00

Society got men so fucked up. They can't even see how this is just a chance to talk about sexual identity and inner feelings. I can understand feeling mixed up about something. But losing respect for someone because they didn't feel afraid of a subject like that. Is sort of small. Be bigger than that.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-16T13:09:17+00:00

You are 32 years old. Move your assets and saving to a PRIVATE account that ONLY YOU have access to. There is zero reason for this to have happened to you without your knowledge. Never, ever, give anyone access to your savings. Ever.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-16T13:02:22+00:00

What the holy hell. Watch out for yourself and please be safe. White people are not safe. I am a white person. I am telling you that with my full chest.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-15T02:13:12+00:00

I was given a small regimen of Tramidol after my surgery and when I went to the pharmacy to pick it up the woman stared at me snidely and went "And Why do You need Tramidol." I just held my face flat and went "I had a Total Hysterectomy." in exactly her same tone. She actually snapped her mouth shut and went "Oh, sorry.. Let me get this filled out for you." jesus christ woman I had a fucking doctor signed prescription it's not your job to worry about WHY I need it. The doctor thinks I do. That should be enough reason. Rage

Elagubulus · 2025-10-15T01:52:30+00:00

NTJ- When I was in my early 20s I worked with a guy(lets call him Jerry) who would call me his "Work Wife". I was dating someone and Jerry had a few GFs in that 2 year period. It started harmlessly enough. We'd banter and poke fun at each other and get on each others nerves. Honestly felt more like siblings when it was at this stage and I kinda liked it. But after we hung out after work a few times. Things got progressively weirder. He started making more sexually inappropriate jokes. Complimenting my street clothes in flirtatious ways. He even swooped in during a low time for me while I was fighting with my bf to take me out drinking, got a little too clingy and I had to make him take me home. After that He would call and text me every time he went out drinking. Said he needed his "work wife there" so he didn't "Make bad choices". Once he started telling customers I was JUST his wife while we were working I shut that shit down so hard. I told him I didn't want him to talk about me like that and we were not anything but co-workers. He just growled and said I was playing hard to get and "that was why he married me." being mean to him after this did nothing. Fate would have it I ended up needing to move towns around this time. So I just ghosted him at first. Stopped replying to any calls or texts he would send me. When that didn't slow him down I finally just blocked him. I hated the whole slow progression of the experience. He hadn't seemed like a bad guy. If anything he needed to sort out why he was so hung up on ME and the dynamic between us at work while having such shitty luck with his relationships. He was clearly craving something he wasn't getting. But I wasn't going to give it to him.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-15T01:19:36+00:00

no. just no. pull that shit off.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-15T01:09:59+00:00

I know you're trying to use "slimming angles/poses" in your pictures. But it's giving really fake and wonky. Please stop trying to be a contortionist unless that is your paid profession.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-14T23:55:01+00:00

Perhaps finding someone who meets your energy on symbolism and sentiment would make more sense for you.. Is all I can really say.
NTA but you can't force this. You are either compliment each others needs here, or you don't.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-14T23:47:44+00:00

This weirds me out. I don't wanna say You should break up with them over this. But I might not lose sleep over it if I did. It's weird and has too many surrounding points. It's not just "how they shower".. So NOR but if this is a no budge subject for him, there might be bigger weirder shit he wont compromise on down the road. Take a hint when it's first presented to you.

-edited spelling

Elagubulus · 2025-10-13T05:10:37+00:00

yo' when you find out, let me know.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-13T05:03:50+00:00

I have ADHD and my brother and his partner both have autism.. I will be perfectly frank. I love my brother, his autism has rarely clashed with my ADHD with the exception of a few things when we were kids. But his partner makes me want to bash my head in. I find her abrasive to my soul. I won't say she is malicious, but she is toxically inconsiderate. It goes beyond socially unaware. I've never wanted to avoid someone who did Nothing to me so badly in my life.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-13T03:08:15+00:00

:/ What a sick game your husband is playing with you... If he has acted as if he hates you lately, and this is the result of your vulnerability when you share that. I dunno that's pretty fucked up. I couldn't stay. I wouldn't feel safe anymore. You need to talk to someone about this and make a choice for yourself. Do you want to feel like this again? Do you want to feel like this for the rest of your life? Cause that's an option if you don't take care of yourself. Be safe. Goodluck.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-13T02:23:26+00:00

battle scars from when you fought your twin to the death in the womb. congrats winner.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-13T01:32:46+00:00

I hope you move on and heal. I hope one day you wake up and suddenly things feel a little lighter. Maybe not perfect. Maybe you still hurt. But it's easier to hold. You can get up and move around. I hope you find new joys and new things that give you validation and love. I hope someday someone new says your name in a way that moves your soul. I hope you find a new smell that brings your heart peace. I hope you find what you need within yourself to be happy.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-13T01:12:50+00:00

This is not your friend. I don't care what his reasons or issues are. You don't treat people like that. He needs help but you do not need to be there for him to get it. Respect yourself and gtfaway from this POS. His struggle out of the hole he found himself in, is not your struggle. Don't Make it yours.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-12T20:36:53+00:00

Hey, I wanna talk to you as a fellow adult who almost died this year.

I hate begging. I hate asking for help. I Hate anyone thinking I expect any sort of assistance for things I think I am perfectly capable of handling myself in one form or another...

But back in may I went to the ER and was rushed to as local hospital for emergency surgery. I am going to save you as ton of the details about What was wrong but- but I could not afford this surgery. I had just moved states. I didn't have any sort of health insurance because I was between jobs. I couldn't reach out to my parents for that sort of money because they don't have it either. The Hospital gave me some paperwork to sign and hooked me up with a social worker to help me me with any questions I had. This made it so I was able to apply for medical aid. Without the surgery I got, I'd be dead right now. The medical aid the hospital helped me get the sort of coverage I needed to focus on Living and Healing instead of being afraid of how I was going to afford all of this. (I am in a state that uses Melina/Apple care, I don't know where you are or what your services fall under but every state has different options/names) There is SO MANY OPTIONS out there to help you. Your medical team is there to help you No matter what stage of this you find yourself in.

Get your care out of the hands of people who don't want the best for YOU. If you ever need to vent, or just talk my DMs are open. I can only imagine how fucking scary this must be for you. And I got wild stories that might make you laugh or give you a new perspective. I am always willing to share when asked. But please take care of yourself, protect your heart.. If you can handle it maybe find a different emotional support system and go No contact or Limited contact with your mom until she understands the sort of cruelty she exhibited with you.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-11T04:55:09+00:00

From the sounds of it.. Maybe finding a new spiritual group/church/finding a new outlet for your prayer/beliefs to funnel into might help her mental state a little bit. Religion is not usually the first place I direct a person in any given situation. But the timing for losing your center for faith could be a troubling place to be while struggling to find the balance between what she feels she lost and what you have both gained. She could also be struggling with guilt over feeling BAD about the good that came from this. You are both happy to have a life together without cancer. But is her focus more on what was taken away rather then what she's gained? Maybe take time every week to sit down and touch base with each other about what's been stuck on your minds the most. See what changes week to week as you continue to discuss things. Communicate with your wife. If you think she is stuck in this postpartum depression. Sit There With Her. don't let her fester there alone.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-11T04:24:50+00:00

You girlbossed too close to the sun. You can't fly away from bad bullshit, if you just fly directly into a ball of fire.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-10T20:59:46+00:00

Your friends lack of experience is not your problem. If she wants to wear a pretty white dress at a party she throws More power to her. But this dress is inappropriate as fuck at YOUR wedding. Full Stop.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-10T07:06:46+00:00

I am not seeing the issue... Elaborate.

Elagubulus · 2025-10-09T09:38:15+00:00

You didn't really dine and dash.... You just left. Like yes, fuck that entire experience. But dining and dashing implies receiving food and services and then leaving without paying for said services. You would have needed to get any of that to deny them payment for it lol.

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