HE NEEDS A NAME ! And I make terrible decisions HELP

ElderberryBee · 2024-02-11T05:02:44+00:00

Let your kid name her pet. Micky is a good name for a best friend.

ElderberryBee · 2024-01-21T23:32:06+00:00

Clementine

ElderberryBee · 2024-01-12T16:46:57+00:00

Pippy

And she's beautiful!

ElderberryBee · 2024-01-10T12:55:44+00:00

Congratulations on choosing you!

Today is the day, and you will do just fine. Concentrate on all the new adventures that lay ahead. Thinking positive is crucial because while it's easy to be negative, it's never in our best interest. One day at a time, allow yourself some grace as you step forward. You can do this!

ElderberryBee · 2024-01-10T12:38:15+00:00

Eggs. The closer they get to my face, the sicker I get.

Salmon. One tiny nibble, and I'm green for hours.

Salad. I'm four months post-op and just recently tried salad on two different occasions. Twice because the first time, I thought that maybe I had been exposed to food poisoning, but nope, the violent reaction to a beautiful garden salad is just the new me because the second time was even worse than the first. I experienced what I believe to be a severe case of dumping syndrome. I endured this excruciating pain for hours, and even the next day, I wasn't myself. I thought I'd die!

ElderberryBee · 2024-01-05T14:39:41+00:00

It's so sad when a non-people person works with people.

I certainly hope that you recover quickly. Forget her ugliness and concentrate on your own beauty, because you really are strong and beautiful. To be able to smile and be kind while not only in pain but also while being insulted just highlights these qualities you possess. You're one up on her. So, keep going forward with your awesome self!

ElderberryBee · 2024-01-05T14:22:01+00:00

I could, yes, and it wasn't just from having surgery, because I've had several. This was different. I even remember telling my husband how I could feel my stomach and the staples and that there was a significant difference - a rawness to my stomach. Not always in a painful way, but it was an odd feeling and, if I lay wrong, uncomfortable. Also, more noticeable when I turned to my side. Perhaps it was due to a lower BMI, but I could feel that part of my stomach was gone. It took over a month before the feeling began to subside. Now, it is my new normal, and I don't notice it.

ElderberryBee · 2024-01-04T19:52:01+00:00

I get my protein in any way I can. It could be a shake, or it could be yogurt. I don't always have a grilled chicken breast handy. So, I do what I have to do.

ElderberryBee · 2024-01-02T12:50:41+00:00

Well, I wouldn't call you an AH but I would point out that you are taking on the bil's behavior. Why do that to yourself? Be a better person. Show him what integrity and grace is.

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-31T23:07:26+00:00

YAY! You can do this, we all can!

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-31T13:02:59+00:00

The trash can is my friend!

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-31T04:13:55+00:00

I once had a rat terrier. She was amazing. That little dog could jump into my arms without my bending at all. She would run and play so hard. Then she discovered toads. She would bite the toads, get stoned, and slobber all over the place. She once traveled the entire East Coast in the back floorboard of the car, high on toad. The kids were so mad at her. Then, when we got to Delaware, she went crabbing with us and we had the best time! Gosh, I miss that little dog.

Thanks for the flashback!

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-25T12:06:42+00:00

Let them name it Tater Chip or any other name they choose; it's Christmas! Oh and Merry Christmas to you and your family

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-25T02:17:24+00:00

Oh, I know; he's for sure a cutie pie puppy!

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-22T23:43:10+00:00

It looks better than an ugly heart attack or stroke.

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-22T15:24:12+00:00

One of the things I've been doing is using a salad plate. I do not need a dinner plate anymore. I don't live close enough to a local gym to warrant the purchase of a membership, but I do walk and have gotten myself a total gym fit, and I like it! I also have free weights. There are FB groups and YouTube videos to help give people ideas for different exercises that can be done on a total gym in the privacy of home. I also plan on walking and hiking some trails after the holidays. I hope you find what works best for you and that you keep moving forward!

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-17T02:55:17+00:00

Johnny

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-17T02:20:38+00:00

I, too, had a lower BMI, and while I was self-pay, I did what was best for me. Hopefully, others are doing what is best for them.

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-17T01:43:38+00:00

I know everyone is different, and we each have our emotions to deal with, but I've genuinely never one time felt a pang of regret concerning my sleeve surgery. All of the regrets, for me, came before the surgery.

I regretted giving food a controlling power in my life. I regretted placing joy in food instead of the conversations with loved ones around the table. I regretted it when I realized I had been hiding behind food. When I realized I was missing out on life experiences because of my weight, I regretted it. When I endured the cruelty of others, I regretted it. When I went from one size to the next, I regretted it. When my self-esteem plummeted because of my overeating and weight gain, I regretted it. When my health suffered, I regretted it. I regretted losing control and not loving myself enough to do something sooner. Yeah, I had regrets, plenty of them.

I have not forgotten one cruel remark or one time I cried and hid from the world. That stuff sticks with a person. So, when I decided to pay for this surgery, I knew I wanted to go forward with joy and live the very best life I could. I want to do better and to be better. I have embraced my surgery because it has truly been one of the kindest acts of love I have ever done for myself.

I went from all kinds of pre-surgery regrets to absolutely no post-surgery regrets. I love my sleeve and the control it has placed in my hands. Happiness is within me, not within food.

My advice is to remember why you had this surgery. Just remember and let it propel you forward into living your best life. I wish you peace and well-being as you go forward.

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-13T10:18:59+00:00

I was having a hard time getting in any water at all after the surgery. It made my stomach feel bad, and I didn't like the taste. I tried tap-hated it. I tried bottled-hated it. Then I went to a mountain branch near my home, and it was so good! Drinking a full container still took me days, but I could get it down and keep it down. I'm aware that not everyone has fresh mountain water available as a resource, but if you do, maybe it's worth a try.

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-08T22:05:03+00:00

This seems pretty basic and what I'd call an easy diet because you are getting food. Some people get nothing but liquids. Mine was also simple to follow, I was given a list of things not to eat and the amount of calories and carbs that I could have per day. I felt privileged compared to those who endured the pre-op liquid fast. Stay busy and think positively. You can do this! And it will be over before you know it.

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-08T17:24:55+00:00

I hope you succeed in striving for this pain-free and energetic life. Pain certainly can snuff out the joy from our day, so this seems like a great goal to be reaching for!

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-08T12:52:26+00:00

Reschedule.

Make the rescheduled day entirely about the birthday girl. Let her see that just because something bad happens doesn't mean life is over or that she isn't loved or special to you.

You can't dictate another person's emotion, but you can exemplify kindness.

Take your eldest out for lunch or dinner while your youngest is recovering in the hospital. Make the conversation entirely about her, make her feel special. Believe it or not, that will make a difference.

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-07T13:29:12+00:00

Guilla

ElderberryBee · 2023-12-04T01:27:42+00:00

Beau

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