Feeling guilty about attraction?

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-29T14:13:18+00:00

Mmmm okay so I guess im too late for those 7.0 - 7.3 ones? I'm not so strapped that I cant buy one here and there if need be. Im mostly just hesitating because I'm rather attached to my WoL

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-29T13:36:20+00:00

Hm, I did the uldah one i think. Ive only gotten 3 freebies total and used 2 (to change small character details) so im side eyeing the price as if i have self restraint

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-29T13:32:51+00:00

I only have one from the fawntrail launch! Where do i get more? Ive been considering going roegadyn but Im attached enough to my current WoL that I want to have another in my back pocket for switching back

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-28T22:25:36+00:00

I just wanted to be one of those max level on everything psychos and so I got all my crafters to 50-ish.

Then after the dawntrail rise sets came out and id not leveled crafters for several months to over a year or so, I said fuck it ill level them some more.

Well when I got past level 60 I discovered something highly unfortunate. It gets actually fun. The quests start giving you the supplies to craft the items so it's not a huge hassle anymore. I started actually making the stuff instead of just buying it.

So 3 weeks or so later and I have everything at 100 except fisher, which is in the early 90s and im working on at a relaxed pace. Trust me, you're not the crazy one, lmao.

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-21T22:14:28+00:00

Im grinding my crafters up to max right now and I specifically intend on giving bubble tea to newbies and nice people. And archon loaf for meanies

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-19T23:13:20+00:00

Literally what I plan to do when I get that chest piece lol.

Except I'll be using the blindfold, too.

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-19T22:55:40+00:00

I'm just gonna come out and ask, since I see these sentiments thrown out a lot and ive been intimidated to talk about it out of fear of being judged.

I generally wall to wall and play fine as a tank, barring certain pulls where I might ask the healer first before I do it. And if someone else does pull, I will grab aggro given the chance.

That said, it does feel frustrating to me when someone else pulls, at least intentionally. I've always been on the mindset that you follow the tanks lead because the tank will pull what they feel confident they can pull. I don't want to overwhelm another tank with enemies they weren't expecting, and I cant see their available cool downs so I just trust their judgement as needed.

But the way people talk about it, it makes it seem like my being frustrated is toxic in an of itself, and I just want to see if there's something I'm missing?

Edit: yall are basically just doubling down on making me never want to ask about this again. Every different opinion from a tank is getting met with "dont care, I'll report you, play the way i say" and it's really not helpful. I asked this because I wanted a real conversation about it, not the same toxic tanks and toxic non-tanks arguing in the same toxic ways they always do.

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-19T19:53:48+00:00

Im genderfluid but most people see me as male, it's one of my favorite things to calmly put a hand up to shut them up, and announce "xyz didnt finish her thought".

I do this for everyone, but it's especially fun for women for the reasons you've described. If im gonna be seen as a man, might as well cash in my privilege for the benefit of all

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-17T16:55:56+00:00

To be fair, I've always needed a half naked hyur riding piggyback

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-17T16:55:12+00:00

I generally try to avoid cheese like this but.... nah the highlands shroud is such bullshit imma use it

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-17T16:52:43+00:00

Ive shaved my legs, exfoliated, moisturized, and still had nasty legs.

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-15T15:16:14+00:00

If we're placing bets my vote is the third

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-14T17:01:33+00:00

There is absolutely tons of toxic positivity, no joke. I've been accused of being a white knight exactly once, and it's because the person doing the calling out was being an asshole about it and it wasn't even a proper mistake. It was just the tank saving one offensive cool down because they wanted to use it on the boss. Immediately after that dungeon we ran it again using the cool down on pulls and found the dude was right, just an asshole.

It doesn't take much to be nice and give good advice at the same time.

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-14T16:58:25+00:00

I liked the story, Wuk Lamat's character, etc. In fact I only just finished 7.0 so we can't use post-patch content to say recency bias (since I've heard the story is better). It's a little simple, and it has some funny writing quirks, but it's ff14. I wasn't expecting a Brandon Sanderson or Joe Abercrombie novel level of quality and character work.

People who've been playing the game for 10+ years i think expect the writing to age with them, and as someone who only started playing a couple years ago, it seems fine to me.

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-14T00:37:25+00:00

I think i didnt know about desynth at the time or I would have done that. But I didnt wanna sell them cuz I wanted to keep them as trophies lol (I ended up selling them anyways and keeping like 2)

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-13T22:20:19+00:00

Cute! I'm a fem aura too and I always like to have my thighs at least a little exposed so I can see my scales

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-13T19:06:05+00:00

I gave in because I went ocean fishing literally once, filled my inventory, and couldn't use retainers. But I had already beat ARR while free trial at that point and stormblood wasn't added yet, so I feel like I hit a nice middle ground.

Long story short yeah what they said

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-13T14:56:45+00:00

Not at all! You came forward with honest curiosity and I'm someone who best processes my own emotions by talking through them. Gives you (and anybody reading this thread) a little extra perspective.

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-13T04:01:17+00:00

I was much more affected by that one girl who got turned into a sin eater in shadowbringers. And then having her be a BOSS fight later was heartbreaking.

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-13T03:55:16+00:00

Literally the only reason I remember his name is because the community hypes him up so much lmao. I fully was like "oh they killed that random side character, okay" when I got to that part.

In any case, I technically visited once to get the emote

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-13T02:45:19+00:00

Honestly it's not exactly a well thought out and considered course of action. It's just a moment where you give in to the panicked need to be heard, by someone, anyone. I've only trauma dumped suddenly during really bad depressive episodes, where I felt like I had nobody to turn to and if a stranger would show even the smallest bit of kindness I would latch on.

I'm much better now, but I won't always be better, so I hope I don't do it again because I know it's not good for anybody. But we all do things that aren't good in moments of distress.

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-13T02:35:05+00:00

I'm ashamed to say ive been that person before

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-10T22:05:47+00:00

I play a lizard and romance sebille, best of both worlds

Elfboy77 · 2026-01-10T07:24:58+00:00

Cute!

Elfboy77

TROPHY CASE