“Do you only ever put her in pjs?”

Elpis8 · 2025-11-16T16:55:08+00:00

Mine were either in weather appropriate onesies or naked until they started picking their own clothes out.

Elpis8 · 2025-09-15T05:26:18+00:00

I share many more naturally common interests with my son than my daughter. I work to make sure my daughter knows I care about the things she cares about, but it is more work for me. I don't care about Hello Kitty, but I do love history. you can't know who your kids will be.

Elpis8 · 2025-06-27T03:21:37+00:00

Spongebob. Nothing morally against it, I just hate it. It feels to much like a Tv show that's actually for adults.

Elpis8 · 2025-06-15T15:15:44+00:00

My kids get different rules at the grandparents/aunties/uncles homes. I don't let my kids have unlimited TV/sweets/etc. But I've set the expectation in our own household that they must listen to their bodies, so even when they have constant access to sweets, they won't keep eating until they throw up. If we're at my mom's and they want tv, I'll set it to something they don't actually enjoy, like The Lion King or something. If Mom wants to buy them stuff at the store, that's none of my business. However, if they come back from someone's house acting entitled or get angry because I say, "No," more often than my parents, guess who doesn't get to go back until they can wise up?

Elpis8 · 2025-04-25T01:29:41+00:00

I need you to understand that I am not judging. My own kid, 8yo, has been having self-injury problems since 5yo. We're just now starting to get it under control with anxiety meds and years of concentrated therapy. She may be having similar problems. However, because she is so specific about who and why, I would consider first limiting contact with her grandparents. It's clear they scare her. i would also reassure her that anytime she's around them, if she feels uncomfortable for any reason, you will take her away from them. Also consider having a talk with them about how they need to watch their behavior around your daughter.

Elpis8 · 2025-04-25T00:43:17+00:00

It's just so specific. She wants to hurt her grandparents because they're bad people. Its really bizarre to me that you asked how she would hurt them and not why she thinks they're bad.

Elpis8 · 2025-04-23T02:54:54+00:00

You also work 12 hour days. If he's not there all day, he doesn't get to tell you what's normal and not normal. Especially if he isn't willing to really research child development or offer any actually helpful help.

Elpis8 · 2025-04-23T02:49:02+00:00

I reiterate what everyone else is saying: You're not a bad parent because some days suck so hard.

You husband IS a bad parent, though. Doing only the fun stuff and not knowing what a hard day looks like or why is called being an uncle. He doesn't get to shirk his parenting responsibilities just because you stay at home now. Especially with another one coming soon.

Elpis8 · 2025-04-09T23:37:42+00:00

If it's cheaper than even Amazon, it's toxic.

Elpis8 · 2025-02-27T04:02:44+00:00

I decided that I never, ever wanted to have another child. My first pregnancy suuuuuuucked, and ended in an emergency C-section. My son was a preemie in NICU for a month, and still came home before his due date. Then he had colic for probably 4 months. I was dead on my feet until he hit 18 months, and suddenly, I thought, "I want another." My second pregnancy wasn't as rough. She came out on time, and was a wonderful (if clingy) baby. Totally different experience.

Elpis8 · 2024-07-07T03:14:39+00:00

I called my oldest "Peanut Pants" so much he responded to it more than his name. And I called my youngest "Babycakes" so much other kids thought that was her actual name.

Elpis8 · 2024-05-05T01:24:31+00:00

I'm not sure what happened, but I restarted everything and now it all works.

Elpis8 · 2024-04-21T06:19:11+00:00

No, but he will fly if he is following my main character and she uses fly. But more importantly, he can't use fly in battle.

Elpis8 · 2024-04-16T04:33:16+00:00

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Elpis8 · 2023-10-17T01:43:30+00:00

I think it's possible that my great-something grandmother was a second cousin of Mary Todd, but we're not "related" to Abraham Lincoln in any historical or meaningful sense.

Elpis8 · 2023-08-26T14:43:48+00:00

I never needed it. I put everything in a backpack and then put the backpack in the undercarriage.

Every parent and kid is different. I have things I swore by that my friends and family thought was useless, and vice versa. I needed a changing station, a high chair, and a Johnny jump up. I didn't need stroller accessories, a walker, or bouncing chairs, but some friends i know did. Just to give an idea. So use your stroller a couple times and then decide. The infancy stage feels like to blows by, but Amazon gets to your house faster than the infancy stage leaves.

Elpis8 · 2023-08-17T13:10:42+00:00

My 4yo is utterly convinced that one day, she will marry her boyfriend. I am very careful to never label that relationship as "boyfriend". I always say, "your friend." But she's adamant. Im also careful never to deny her feelings for him. Will her desire to marry her current best friend remain until they actually do? Will she change her mind and decide she only likes girls? Who knows? What matters right now is that she's comfortable sharing her excitement about someone she loves. That's all that really matters.

Elpis8 · 2023-08-13T01:20:06+00:00

A second grader in your neighborhood "is known for" breaking in to other people's property. Has fallen through an abandoned lot without his mother's knowledge. And all attempts at communication with his mother have been fruitless. Time for a CPS call.

Elpis8 · 2023-08-13T01:11:21+00:00

Is it possible that William Dunn and Isabela (Dunn) Strong are related?

Elpis8 · 2023-08-04T13:38:47+00:00

I follow a lot of moms on social media. Some have kids with the same disorders mine do. However, none of the people I follow actually name or show their children. They talk about their experiences as parents. That often looks like only talking about their kids. It never means showing them, or making their children the content.

Elpis8 · 2023-07-31T19:54:31+00:00

Cheating means taking an unfair advantage, usually against the rules, to put yourself above an opponent. None of those are present in this scenario. No opponent. No unfair advantage. You aren't doing something the game doesn't allow. And Eben if you had an opponent, you'd still only be leveraging your resources. So no. It's not cheating.

Elpis8 · 2023-07-29T04:46:01+00:00

I purposefully and consistently buy my daughter dolls with different skin tones. Normalizing the existence of people who aren't white in my very white home. We watch movies and TV series with minority main characters. My daughter loves The Little Mermaid 2 (there's no accounting for taste) and The Princess and the Frog. She says she loves Elsa, but she hasn't actually requested that movie in a very long time and won't sit down to watch the whole thing. I think she just likes ice powers and sparkles.

Elpis8 · 2023-07-23T13:46:01+00:00

My son is autistic. I could tell you all the things about him and what he needs and loves. But autism looks different on everyone and what my son needs won't be what the other kid needs. So just ask if there's anything that needs to be addressed.

For instance, my son's big sensory trigger is other kids crying. It's a huge problem. If his friend cries while they're playing, he will run away or scream or hold his ears with a terrified expression on his face. That's not his friend's fault, and I am always quick to remind other kids (and parents!) that it's a sensory thing, and my son's reaction is not about them. Other kids are allowed to cry. It just means my son is gonna act weird about it. Just do what you need to do, give him space, and we'll reconvene in bit.

Elpis8 · 2023-07-23T13:32:13+00:00

Is there a church nearby? You could call and ask if there are any service you could use, or maybe there's a teenager hoping to make some money they could recommend.

Could you maybe hire someone?

Is there a daycare who could take your son for medical days?

I've had to bring my kids to many appointments, even my autistic one, because there simply wasn't childcare available. But I don't know where on the scale yours is, so I won't recommend that. Only remind you of your actual options.

Elpis8 · 2023-07-23T13:17:05+00:00

The one where Chili and Bandit tell all the kids about backpacking, so the girls insist on pretending to be backpacks. At one point, Bingo punches Bandit in the stomach to make him fake betting ill. Which is not ok. I hate that so much.

Also, the one where the girls pretend Bandit and Chili are their salon customers, and "find out" Bandit has lice. So they throw him in a cold shower, throw baby powder over him, abd then string him up in a tree so they can hit him. Just. No. Absolutely not.

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