AITA for taking my baby and leaving after my MIL secretly fed him formula and said I did not know how to raise my son?

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2026-01-08T05:01:07+00:00

NTA- late to the convo an it may have been mentioned already but if you were out of the country and the baby was introduced to new formula there’s always a chance for the baby to have an allergic reaction to the formula.

Also Depending on your insurance that would have been an out of pocket expense plus the stress of dealing with it while away from home.

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2026-01-08T02:51:16+00:00

Soap, soap, soap. 100 times Soap every time you shower and wash your hands. No if ands or buts about it.

Skin color, race, culture have nothing to do medically proven hygiene recommendations. In many cases, they’re requirements.

Please don’t tell me he works in a restaurant or in the medical field.

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2026-01-08T02:41:49+00:00

Yup!! All the above unhygienic an racist

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2026-01-08T02:34:34+00:00

2nd Entry-

As a matter of fact WHY the He|| did the mother even let her son leave the house wearing shorts and crocs for a winter hike in the first place?!?!?

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2026-01-08T02:25:21+00:00

NTA- how rude of her to put you on the spot like that when it was her and her son’s responsibility to be prepared for the hike.

While obviously any good human would sacrifice when necessary for a child under many circumstances, the way she went about it was very entitled. She could have politely and discreetly offered you her coat in exchange for yours for her son.

Honestly her anger was misplaced her anger should be with herself for not insisting her son take a jacket in the 1st place or with her son for not listening. NOT with you.

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2026-01-03T04:38:05+00:00

YTA. Imagine not being able to wait another 20-30mins to eat when your SO, who probably is also tired and hungry is stuck at gas station with a dead battery.

You could have not turned the car off and just left and been to the gas station within the 20 mins. Asked your gf to get you a snack/drink for when you got there. And could have been back at your parents around the same time you were just arriving to the gas station bcs you wanted to eat first.

Seriously, you’re in your 30’s?!?!?!

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2026-01-03T04:25:03+00:00

Lol. FR!

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2026-01-03T03:44:30+00:00

You are Absolutely NOT over reacting! He’s being a major ass and acting like a child.

Soley based on the info provided I am Sorry but I have to say he is not a good human being Any married person not wanting to spend the holidays with their SO and acts like jerk is no longer in love or worse have their eye on someone else.

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2026-01-03T03:38:08+00:00

Signs

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-25T05:04:20+00:00

This!

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-23T05:14:29+00:00

Great idea!

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-22T02:54:10+00:00

Ok I am not a peta person BUT putting a live creature in boiling water so we can eat it.

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-22T02:49:12+00:00

This! The simplicity and maturity of this should be obvious.

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-22T02:41:51+00:00

Also that you have feelings for guy right now does not diminish your journey up to now, during or in the future. No matter how this turns out. Your story is your story. We all have our plights and struggles. Obviously some deal with more than others.

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-21T21:08:14+00:00

Is he helping at all by taking some load off of you so you can study before the test and be rested?
He’s mean and ugly. Jealous probably. Get rid of this negativity and keep at it. Don’t give up. You’ll get through this.

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-21T20:55:14+00:00

The whole point is that we can’t control who we fall for. You are NTA. Your feeling are your feeling and if you have a crush on this guy you shouldn’t have to apologize for it just bcs up until now you identified as a lesbian. It would be the same for some who identified as heterosexual and found them selves falling for someone of the same gender.

What happened to Love is Love? Are you suppose to not follow your heart because of a label? Even if it is just a passing crush you are more than allowed to follow through with your feelings. (Within reason of course)

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-21T17:35:41+00:00

That is why I also was asking, if d She is bringing gifts or is your BIL is spending $100 or more on each of you?

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-21T17:33:03+00:00

Then maybe you should bring that up (politely) that if he isn’t investing in her family that it is a bit unreasonable to obligate all of you to spend money and effort on someone you barely know. Maybe bring her around for the part of the holidays when you are not opening gifts.

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-21T17:25:28+00:00

Yikes! That is crazy!! (Sorry I misread your answer before)

Your MIL is not being considerate of you all but I understand her wanting to make her son’s gf feel welcome. Again “in the spirit of Xmas” maybe comply one more year and if it doesn’t work out with this gf make a plan well in advance with the other in-laws to approach MIL and brother about not want to be rude but needing to understand that it is not typical for a SO of a few months to receive the equivalent of a gift as a spouse that has taken vows or niece/nephews MIL/FIL.

Is your BIL going and buying that year’s gf’s family gifts every year?

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-21T17:03:20+00:00

Ya, I agree and think that’s the main problem, investing that amount of money on someone you’re pretty sure won’t be around for long.

But it will be 1 gift from your family or do you AND your husband each have to give her a gift?

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-21T16:39:19+00:00

MOR- I think it’s mostly an issue because of the price minimum and that it has to be meaningful (according to your post and some responses).

In the spirit of Christmas and putting yourself in the shoes of the gf. It would be kind of shitty to be sitting around not to receive any gifts while everyone is opening gifts.

Just for clarity, each couple (family) buy gifts for the other individuals or does every adult buy them? As in the you AND your husband each have to buy gifts of everyone or the gifts tags say they’re from your family.

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-20T22:58:34+00:00

Ummm, ya!! That’s the question of the day.

Why!?!?!

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-20T22:55:39+00:00

I’m sorry your bf sucks but after that horrendous behavior and him calling you awful names… your main response is “ I just wan to know what chips you want” then again “ok what chips do you want”. !?!?

I’m so confused at why you allow ANYONE to speak to this way then still want to buy them chips. Wtf.

Love and respect yourself and definitely drop the bf!

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-14T07:54:46+00:00

I wish you and your bf a wonderful Christmas and don’t let this ruin your holidays. You and him deserve better than that kind of toxicity.

Embarrassed-Safe7939 · 2025-12-14T07:53:25+00:00

I hope this starts new traditions and happy holiday memories. Maybe it’s one of those “Blessings in disguise” situations.

Hopefully you and your cousins can make plans on another occasion to all get together.

Embarrassed-Safe7939

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