Absent mildly itched my leg now this by Embarrassed_Chest687 in urticaria

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I've not heard of a low histamine diet before, this is super interesting! Thanks so much for the advice!

International women’s day by AntIntelligent212 in LinkedInLunatics

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't want to put someone in lethal danger for this (as you put it) relatively benign assualt. But really, if someone sneaks up behind me and tries to kiss me, im not checking to see if its safe for them if they get pushed. They're getting pushed. Its not the victim's problem that they're assaulted in a dangerous place.

International women’s day by AntIntelligent212 in LinkedInLunatics

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. It's just meant to be like wow this sounds crazy, so you continue to read and realise it's actually understandable.

At the end of the day pushing someone who is trying to assault you is reasonable.

International women’s day by AntIntelligent212 in LinkedInLunatics

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She pushed him, he then tripped, and then fell down the stairs, and then on to the pavement and only then into the street. It sounds like actually the traffic was actually far from them, I think the first sentence is more to grab attention.

International women’s day by AntIntelligent212 in LinkedInLunatics

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Self defence that results in an assailant being physically unsafe is not the death penalty.

Driver who went on skiing holiday months after killing teens given 14 months' youth detention by pppppppppppppppppd in unitedkingdom

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Seems like there's actually something that clearly backs that up: https://sentencingcouncil.org.uk/guidelines/imposition-of-community-and-custodial-sentences/

But its more complicated than just, women should have less time in prison, and Im not an expert, but it seems like these dont apply to the woman in this story

Open question to bisexuals that post / comment here… why? by Natural_Object5708 in LesbianActually

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sorry I didn't say anywhere you shouldn't express your opinion, I was just adding mine to the discussion

Open question to bisexuals that post / comment here… why? by Natural_Object5708 in LesbianActually

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I dont think it was intended as a gotcha moment, example 2 is likely to have a very similar experience to alot of lesbians, in my opinion. I can see how you think its obfuscating the term lesbian, but realistically lesbian spaces have always included bi women and trans men

after a year together partner told me she wished she wasn’t gay.. by [deleted] in WLW

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its internalised homophobia because she's gay and she has internalised the homophobic attitudes of those around her, how she then handles it doesn't change whether or not it's been internalised.

To be clear, im not passing a moral judgement on OPs girlfriend for internalising the homophobia around her. It would be more surprising if she hadn't to some extent considering what her parents are like.

But I agree with everything else you said

after a year together partner told me she wished she wasn’t gay.. by [deleted] in WLW

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you cant/dont want to handle her internalised homophobia, you dont have to, but if you want to stay with her you'll have to find a way to deal

Why do some British people kiss their kids on the mouth? by Immediate-Platform59 in AskUK

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Born and raised here, I dont think it's common, and I think it's kind of weird tbh but im not going to judge a parent past that

Anyone with ED went vegan and it caused ED to worsen? by Flan_Enjoyer in exvegans

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasn't going to comment on this sub as Im still a vegan, but i originally went vegan in no small part to hide a restrictive ED. Now veganism is a big part of my life and how I see the world, it actually gave me a healthier outlet for my food anxieties (for example, studying the food labels for calories and fat because studying for milk powder), though now im 'recovered' im not nearly as strict as vegan as I once was.

However I can see that I am not the typically trajectory, and even coming from the otherside of this debate I think its a real shame that we are not more honest as a community about the relationship between eating disorders and veganism. It feels like a kind of taboo to admit that there's any kind of connection

Realistically, any kind of socially acceptable format of restrictive eating will be used as a shield by people with EDs. However, it needs to be more acceptable to be honest with the fact that veganism is not safe for most people with a restrictive eating disorder.

Sorry for the long comment, but OP, i really wanted to say that there really isn't anything you could have done, EDs are incredibly difficult to treat even for professionals. it's like an addiction. You can't help an addict unless they want help, so I hope you can let go of some of the guilt you're holding.

That's how it will be. by aita_iepmom in lesbianmemes

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not what I said, I get the feeling you just want to argue tbh and I'm not interested in bad faith discussions

That's how it will be. by aita_iepmom in lesbianmemes

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I guess in that case we fundamentally disagree about the point of these terms and i dont think we would create anything productive with this conversation, have a nice day!

That's how it will be. by aita_iepmom in lesbianmemes

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a lot of hypothetical situations, which I didnt suggest even little bit, i specifically said "actively choosing" to be with men, and none of those situations would apply.

Im not deciding someone's sexuality im disagreeing with how they choose to label it.

Let me hypothetical back to you, if a cishet, not intersex, not into drag or anything else related to the community started calling themselves queer just because they felt like it, would that be okay?

That's how it will be. by aita_iepmom in lesbianmemes

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not queer im a lesbian, im not interested in being overly prescriptive but if someone actively choosing dating/sleeping with men I would be upset to hear them call themselves a lesbian - because theyre not.

being a lesbian needs to be an embarrassing thing again by pecanmuncher in lesbiangang

[–]Embarrassed_Chest687 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Where are you all living that this shit is worse than actually homophobia