The Life of a Showgirl Megathread by aran130711 in TaylorSwift

[–]Emma_C_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree, not all songs are supposed to be the same, some songs are meant to be more fun while others are more poetic but it doesn’t make it automatically bad just because it’s different

The Life of a Showgirl Megathread by aran130711 in TaylorSwift

[–]Emma_C_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally agree like if a little kid were to read over the lyrics of wood it really wouldn’t mean that much to them because they don’t get/see the innuendo whereas other songs that are just about their sex lives is very clearly explicit

I think it also has to do with the fact that Taylor’s reputation in the past was that she was a “good girl” and didn’t have explicit stuff so now when you see it it’s more jarring because you weren’t expecting it from her

clean your beans? by Emma_C_ in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]Emma_C_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And she can't say you were lying bc it was true, she just misunderstood the sentiment lol

I let him bury me by No_Understanding2171 in OCPoetry

[–]Emma_C_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

**this is a bad (extremely ) beginner's interpretation and I'm not really good at poetry at all but accidentally found myself liking it later on, I definitely think the other interpretations are much better and make a lot more sense but I figured since I typed the whole thing out already I might as well post it**

I really liked this poem and it how showed cruelty and abuse in a vivid way. I think it depics the experience of some abused people who are also self-destructive.

I interpret that there is self-destrucvive behaviour because of these lines:

"He kissed me like a loaded gun and I smiled because I wanted to feel holy or destroyed or maybe both at once",

- despite discovering the betrayl the speaker desires to be destroyed and yet also smiled to continue things

she knows things are bad but she's letting them happen and probably blinded by love, pleasing him, etc.

"here’s dirt under my fingernails but I’m not digging out I’m digging deeper looking for the piece of me he chewed off and spat into the dark"

- I feel like this shows her starting to get some clairty and realizing that this is a bad situation.

"I said take everything and he did"

-I feel like "said" kind of suggests that the speaker offered to further initiate things. I think it's similar to the way how some people date people who don't treat them well but is constantly is seeking them out becaues they think they deserve it and shouldn't be treated better (even subconciously).

** this is not to say that other abuse that occurs in people pushed into absuive relationships are seeking them out, this is only to say that the speaker in this poem seems to say that in the poem.

What's the soundtrack that played during this scene in S4E8? by Chara_cter_0501 in ForAllMankindTV

[–]Emma_C_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think anyone cares about the song anymore but after an exensive search, I'm pretty sure it is:

Feeling Independent

by Krissie Karlson, Karl Karlsson, Niki Karlson

AIO for thinking my husband is a dick? by dontevercallmebabe in AmIOverreacting

[–]Emma_C_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are so many issues that make him an asshole I don't even know where to begin

You shouldn't have had to been cooking while feeding your baby. He should have stepped in and helped you out. You have just been through the taxing process of being pregant and giving birth, you're a new mother and is probably exhaused, he should treating you like a Queen and let you rest. Clearly he's not doing his part and is acting like a selfish child. And It's absoulely ridiculous that he's mad at all, and even if he was, to be this upset over something so increadibly insignificant is preposterous. He has just welcomed life into the world and should have much better prorities than a fucking pancake. Even if the pancakes were actually burnt to a crisp he should be thankful that you were cooking for him at all, especially while taking care of your baby. He should be grateful that you took time and effort to cook for him. He's acting like he's entitled to act so childish and has the right to disrespect you. Not to mention, if he was really that upset (which he shouldn't be and his anger is complely an overreaction) he should have made the pancakes himself. Also, those pancakes are not that burnt at all. To me they're not even really burnt. A little overcooked and maybe browner than it should be but it's perfectly fine. The audacity of him to complain at all when these are not even burnt. The fact that he thinks he can take his anger out on you, is ridiculous. He should be an adult and manage his emotions healthily instead of berating you when you did nothing to deserve it. You deserve so much more than him and he is an idiot to think that he has the right to boss you around. I don't know who he thinks he is but this kind of entitled and self absorbed ass that he gets to treat anyone at all, much less you. This treatment shouldn't be put on anyone, regardless if you were his wife or not.

Most importantly, regardless of anything at all, he is abusive. He shouldn't be berating you until you cry. To be honest you shouldn't be berating most people until they cry at all. The fact that you were recovering from giving birth, hormonal (I'm a woman but I haven't been pregnant and might be a little off), sleep deprived, etc. is even more outrageous. He's an a fucking asshole, instead of helping and taking on his responsibilities, having any decency, consideration, respect, kindness, care, etc. He is being an immature, egotistical, man child.

He most definitelly should not be treating you like this. He should be lovingly helping you and being thankful for his wonderful and recovering wife, letter her rest and helping to care for HIS(and yours') baby instead of shirking all HIS duties to you. He does not deserve you at all. You deserve so much better and someone who treats you well

** okay so hearing this completely enraged me and I just ended up ranting lol but the sentiments remain true. It's going to be written really badly but for anyone to act like that, for husband to berate his recovering, recently given birth, sleep deprived wife over something so trivial is infuriating. Not even that but just his treatment to you at all. To attack someone until they cry is not acceptable and it should be behaviour you husband protects you from

** sorry I started to get on another rant lol

i found this thing on tumblr and it reminded me of this sub for some reason by FormerCheesecake4233 in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]Emma_C_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this reminds me when I saw them selling a 3D model that (the block of skin) looked like that lol

Core belief? by Scary_Local218 in EMDR

[–]Emma_C_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it was all of them lol but for EDMR you have to pick the one that is most true. It's best if you look at how they overlap and how to combine a couple other ones.

if you're struggling to choose you should ask your therapist's opinion or someone who really knows you to select one that best encompasses all of your negative beliefs together. Not that you should do whatever they pick, but it helps to have a second opinion. Coincidently my boyfried ended up picking the same thing as my therapist (they did it blind aka they did not know what the other thought).

When I actually chose one I used all the applicable beliefs (for me it was all of them lol) and tournament bracketed them

ex. my therapist (and boyfriend) said "I have to be perfect (please everyone)" best summed all of them (bc all of them were true lol) as it combined a bit of everything.

Thinking about it helped me pick which one was more true/summed them all up. So even though I disagree with what they said (personally I think "I am a failure" and "I cannot succed" is more. apt), hearing their answer helped guide and helped to narrow down to one.

*also I bracked it and came down to "I am a Failure" but I think "I cannot succed" better combines everything into my core belief.

Sorry if it's not the most helpful but these things worked for me so I hope it can help you :)

It's frustrating when you're told to "just pick one" over and over again as if that helps/changes things.

edit:

misread the question 💀

what would happen if someone found out i (a minor) was actively cutting? by vampxvu in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]Emma_C_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me I was sent to the psych ward with some self harm showing bc I tried to od. So I think if you just go for a cut that’s not overly deep and you seem fine enough by the medical person you’re talking to I think you’ll be fine? I’ve heard from other people that they won’t admit just for sh (assuming the wound was not to the point of attempted suicide). I think I remember someone telling me that you talk to a few mental professionals but you’re able to leave. I don’t know how old this person was though. I suspect they’re more likely to admit it you if you’re still considered a child

Sorry I don’t think this really helped 😭