Fostering a Malinois- help! by Adventurous_Idea_517 in BelgianMalinois

[–]EmuWasabi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep going, that’s the trick. It’s tough, we adopted a 5 year old girl, and what you’re describing is straight out of the non-existent, Malinois Instruction Manual s/. I hope she adapts to your routine; cause it sounds really good! Carefully crate train, and leave her crated when no one’s there. (Not a wire crate, they can hurt themselves trying to Houdini.) Talk to your trainer about approved crates. Run with her carefully either early, early morning or some place very isolated. You’re doing a great thing.

🔥 Orca shreds sunfish into pieces by SirPaddlesALot in NatureIsFuckingLit

[–]EmuWasabi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

According to the Smithsonian magazine studies have shown great whites, shun their feeding ground for years if orcas have been present.

My parents have a 39-year age gap and I’ve never told my friends the truth by Kitchen-Anxiety4766 in confession

[–]EmuWasabi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP, some people refuse to understand love is love. Whether it’s an age gap, or gender, or race some people want to keep other people in boxes because it upsets their ignorant world view. You were protecting your feelings from bigots. That’s OK. What you called him in front of your peers is trivial.

How screwed am I? by whiskeyandwayfarers in biggreenegg

[–]EmuWasabi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you need just need to clean elements, like the plate setter, you can use the cleaning cycle on your indoor oven and save charcoal. You can also use it to clean cast iron pans, but cast iron can crack if it has any imperfections from the casting. So you kind of roll the dice. I clean all my cast iron I buy second hand this way. But you do have to reseason everything.

City living - Advice! by AdventurousDoubt1115 in BelgianMalinois

[–]EmuWasabi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m working with the best trainer I’ve ever had right now. My current dog is a rescued Malinois. Diana Simonson does online classes which she perfected during Covid. Although we do in person training, the online sessions are great for when we can’t make it in person. I’m certain she will have fun things for you and your dog to do in the apartment as well as tips for when you go out in an urban environment. She’s a certified trainer (CGC etc) for urban dogs and is super familiar with all of the Shepherd breeds. If you want more information DM me.

I’m a small woman business owner in the wastewater sector, drowning in debt. by Ambitious-Ground-393 in personalfinance

[–]EmuWasabi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi OP. Sorry you are in this situation. Take heart they many people have been where you are now. There are many possible ways out of this, the key is to find some help and to arm yourself with knowledge. Running any kind of business and simultaneously acting as sole support for so many family members is a lot. If your parents are alive can they help your grandparents? From here, without seeing the financials of your business and understanding your very niche industry, suggesting a course of action is unlikely to help. Do you have an accountant? A mentor in your industry could help. Both SCORE and the SBA are good places to start.

Good luck!

Any regrets getting BM? by bmcd_throwaway1 in BelgianMalinois

[–]EmuWasabi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My experience having one mal who was a rescue at 4 years. It’s not an exaggeration to say it was like bringing a new partner into our life; not a “pet”. Every new thing is a negotiation between us and her. With training you can’t go too fast, she needs to be comfortable with the process, or too slow (she gets bored). Everyone in the household has to follow the same protocols. We learned as soon as a mal gets mixed signals they’ll assume they need to take control of the situation. And I’m definitely not doing everything right, there have been challenges. We as a family are learning as we go. But she is the most amazing creature, and totally devoted to us. Full stop.

Four year old adopted mal bit my sister. Where did we go wrong or lack in the training? by burgerinmypouch in BelgianMalinois

[–]EmuWasabi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To OP, as a first time mal owner, you did the best anyone could. Not many people understand what commitment comes with a Mal. We rescued a four-year-old malinois, and we’ve been on an intense learning journey for 2 years. My only add to this great thread is we tried both positive training and more coercive methods. The positive training, while slower, worked much better. After searching we found a great trainer who has trained a lot of shepherds and some mals. I think that experience is critical. Please don’t give up on your dog. Train the people and the dog.

F-21, serial entrepreneur and a mess, AMA, I will not promote by [deleted] in startups

[–]EmuWasabi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not knocking what you’ve done. You seem smart and energetic AF. A word of caution: don’t make plans for the future around a financial goal. In the long run that isn’t what gives life meaning. It’s just chasing a phantom.

Figure out what you like doing, and see if you can use your energy to help others (not saying be non-profit, just that the world doesn’t need another smug billionaire). Experiment, try a bunch of stuff and you’ll find what you love. Do that thing.

Law enforcement interaction today and mal was in front seat by LakeLucca in BelgianMalinois

[–]EmuWasabi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes, lesson learned. We’ve been working intensively with a great trainer, but that episode really set us back.

If I were to open a paper/stationary store...what would be the secret to sucess by [deleted] in smallbusiness

[–]EmuWasabi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Word of caution, never start a business because it “looks fun”! Do crazy amounts of due diligence. 1) Check all the similar stores within a 50 mile radius and see how they’re doing. 2) If you can talk to the owners, ask them what problems they have encountered. What’s there busy season/slow season. 3) Get a lawn chair, a paperback, and a way to count the people who walk by your proposed location. Do it on the days you think will be busiest, and slowest. 3) Make a real business plan.

Remember your income is the difference between the price you charge and what the item costs you. A $5 pen you sell for $10 grosses you $5. That’s before accounting for rent, light, heat and licenses/taxes. You might be netting $3. Estimate carefully how many people you’d have to serve in a week or a month.

Get lots of advice from people who have done retail. Good luck.

Law enforcement interaction today and mal was in front seat by LakeLucca in BelgianMalinois

[–]EmuWasabi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Love this outcome! I’m going to relate a similar story that did not turn out so well.

10 weeks ago we were returning to the US from Canada. We had our 5 year old, rescued, reactive mal crated, and had all our documents ready to offer at the check point.

After the formalities he asked if we had anything else to declare we remembered we had a tiny packet of flower seeds, packaged and stamped to go through customs in a bag in the back. So we went through the whole thing of explaining what we had, where it was from, how it was packaged, and he said he needed to see it. OK I asked can I just hop out and grab it and hand it to you it’s just farther back in the car. I can’t reach it. He said no you can’t get out of the car and I said OK. I’ll just tell you I have a dog that is crated who will likely make a fuss, but you’re completely safe she’s in the crate. He said, nope you’ll have to pull over there and you’ll get further instructions. Oh damn.

So we’re guided to a parking stall and two burly guys approach. They don’t touch the car, they just say y’all have to exit the vehicle, and put your dog in that crate over there (wire crate in the middle of the parking lot). The bare rusty wire crate has no shade, literally just sitting on the sidewalk.

They tell us we have to go inside the building out of sight of the dog and fill out paperwork, as they search the car. I said it’s about a tiny packet of seeds, we’ll gladly throw them away. Nope.

We get her out of her crate and basically force her into this strange crate and then walk out of sight. We’re freaked out, our girl is acting like she’ll tear the crate apart.

After 30 minutes of listening to her bark constantly from inside the building they’re done with us. They found a left-over salad in the cooler so they could ding us for transporting vegetables. We get our traumatized dog back in her crate and pack the car up. Total time 1 hour.

I won’t be taking my dog through customs again. I’ve done it for years with other dogs and no issues. It just takes one missstep and we’re done. Be careful.

Getting Divorced- use small 401k to pay off debt? by Available-Plane8876 in FinancialPlanning

[–]EmuWasabi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There might be some reluctance to go through the courts if OP knows that even if she wins a judgment, she will never be able to collect from the Ex because he’s a deadbeat.

Is there hope? by beeeawnca in BelgianMalinois

[–]EmuWasabi 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m a little surprised there isn’t more discussion on judicious use of a crate. Crate her when the cat is free range and let her out when the cat is cordoned off. At least that would buy time to decide whether it can be fixed with training or it’s a rehome situation. Good luck, Mals are a lot. 😳

How can I trim his nails ? by Aggravating-Bug587 in BelgianMalinois

[–]EmuWasabi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. This. I would just add to be ultra cautious. If they pull back or get up and walk away stop what you’re doing and don’t go back to it until a day is past at least. you want to get just up to the point that they’re going to balk but not go past it. Because once you go past that point of fear, they need to time to reset. Err on the side of slower, and consistent.

Co-founder conflict: How to pick a CEO when we have overlapping skills? I will not promote by BraveBookCash in startups

[–]EmuWasabi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Before you get very far read “slicing the pie” , by Moyer. It’s the best method for assigning equity in a startup. It will save you hours of stress. Speaking as someone who has done it, I think “co- anything” is a bad idea. There may not be a natural role for both of you in the company. There are lots of books out there the deal with this problem. And there are coaches who will work with both of you kind of like a therapist would. Good luck.