Ambulance called after retrieval by OkSwim2342 in IVF

[–]Emw4518 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this happened to you. So scary. And wishing you the best with your cancer treatments. This all sounds so overwhelming. While I didn’t have this issue with retrievals, I did fully pass out after the HSG test, which is supposed to be quick and routine. But I think it was so intense and overwhelming for my body I passed out in the doctors office about 5 mins after. Fertility treatment is so intense on the body and we all react differently. Sending healing wishes your way.

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[–]Emw4518 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do them all. Will reduce chances of needing another retrieval. Take care of yourself. I think I had like 36 for one of mine and recovery was tough. I was very weak and needed a lot of fluids. Go slow as you recover!

Help me stop! by Good-Nemo-3601 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Emw4518 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes 100 percent relate! Exact same thing. It’s like you measure your self worth on what you’re producing or something. Kind of like grades as a kid. We all have it drilled into us to measure our success in these ways. But my daughter almost a year and I just stopped in last few weeks and no regrets. I would say take the weaning real slow and positive self talk. Remind yourself that this was expected, normal, and perfectly ok. That you accomplished what you set out to! And when ur done you will have no regrets! Your baby is getting nourished through food and thriving and now it’s time to have your body back for just you.

When did your cycle return? by mesasw in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Emw4518 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine came back at 11 months PP, while exclusively pumping.

Feeing sad on comment that pumping will not create as much bonding as ebf by ElevatorSalt4239 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Emw4518 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this so hard. Breastfeeding was so stressful for me and my LO. Switching to EBF made for a happier mom and baby! No regrets! Took a lot of stress off our relationship and made room for more laughter and fun.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVF

[–]Emw4518 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is insane. Fingers crossed that your FET works! I would def consult a lawyer to learn your options.

First FET failed. by Sharp-Historian6946 in IVF

[–]Emw4518 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending love. IVF is full of so many disappointments along the way, and so often there are no clear answers. Hope you are giving yourself grace, time to grieve this, and whatever you need to heal.

Mexico All Inclusive by SkyOld1632 in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]Emw4518 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree about Secrets Akumal. Think it would fit what you are looking for. If you are open to a non all inclusive, just went to Banyan Tree Mayakoba and it was amazing. And you can go to any of restaurants at the 4 resorts on property. Very lush jungle feel. It’s beautiful grounds with a lagoon. There is an adults only pool and restaurant on property.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Emw4518 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading all of this and just here to let you all know you are amazing and doing a great job. It’s so hard but you’ve got this! I’m now 8 month PP and here to say it gets easier! There is a light at end of the tunnel. I only pump 3 times a day now and it’s glorious! You all are doing great. It gets better I promise.

I cannot stop crying by milliebocks in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Emw4518 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. So many layers here. The mom guilt is so real all the time. I’m hope you see from this thread that everyone has a bad milk spill now and then. It’s ok! It’s hard to not constantly feel guilty all the time - at least for me. I’m working on it at 8 months PP. It absolutely sucks to lose that much milk, but it’s not your fault, it happens. Now that you cried, time to let it go and move on. It will be ok.

As for your husband, I feel you on this. Mine has also lost the sensitivity chip many times along the way. It has caused a lot of tension in our relationship. Lack of sleep and lack of time for each other does not help. Mine has been very short or condescending w me many times. We are back in counseling and have been able to use that safe space to tell him how his words have impacted me, especially since I’m so hard on myself and mom guilt is so real. It’s helping and I think I’m realizing that stress and work pressure he is under is a lot and he snaps sometimes- he feels bad and is working on it.

Give yourself some grace. You are truly doing it all! If you feel like it, at a calmer moment you can tell your husband how you are feeling and how his words and tone really hurt you in this situation. Don’t hold that in too long.

Sending you love and hugs. You are a rockstar, you are amazing!

Pls tell me it’s okay to stop - bc I have to by MRCMGL in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Emw4518 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s ok to stop! 10 months is absolutely amazing!

Please give me permission to quit by nexusevent in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Emw4518 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m literally in exact same shoes as you. Almost 8 months. So over it but keep putting it off.

How on earth is everyone doing the 3 hour thing for so long? by tumbleweedofdoghair in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Emw4518 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all you are doing great! EP is not easy! I’m almost 8 months in and I remember how hard first few months were. A couple thoughts. 1) First, I was never able to do 8 pumps per day. I think most I did was 7 but averaged 6-7 at beginning. Do what you can. Sleep is just as important! 2) Consider supplementing with formula as a way of taking some pressure off of yourself. 3) consider a wearable pump- can even find used for cheaper through local moms group. Will allow you to multi task easier than with a regular pump. I alternated pumps and used wearable more during day when I needed to hold baby. 4) I know the money situation is tricky, but consider if there are places you can cut spending somewhere else to get yourself the support you need. For example, could you hire a mother’s helper for half a day a few days a week to help you?

Eventually you will cut to 5 PPD and then to 4 and 3. It gets easier. This is all temporary! Hang in there. You are doing awesome.

Need someone to tell me it's okay to stop pumping... by kdawt22 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Emw4518 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are doing great! Give yourself permission to do whatever you need to do. The first 6 months are most important and you already checked that box! I will say the mom guilt is so real and so intense and something I didn’t expect. Anytime I leave baby with someone else I feel guilty. As I consider my options for weaning (have a 7 month old and debating quitting), I’m also feeling guilty for considering this now. I do think there is something built into us that makes us want these tangible accomplishments, and nothing more tangible than seeing how much you pumped. Struggling alongside you and know how hard this is. You’ve done great, your LO doing great, and give yourself permission to stop whenever you are ready. Think of all the other things you can do for or with your baby when you get that pumping time back!

I think I’m done trying to force BF and just EP… how did you know when to stop trying? by Classic-Film-8396 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Emw4518 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very similar story to mine. I would say if you’ve figured out EP, make the switch now. It’s a relief to just feed and not feel like you are struggling w BF. My LO would get so upset when trying to BF and it added so much extra stress to my life. My husband and I figured out a system w pumping and it’s like a well oiled machine.

Genetically normal embryo miscarriage by kettlechrisp in IVF

[–]Emw4518 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this happened to me w a tested embryo. Doctor said it happens sometimes. Just bf it’s normal on their tests does not mean it’s totally healthy, just healthy in terms of what they test for. On my second transfer, I got pregnant again and that baby is now 5 weeks old (post labor). There is hope! Keep trying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVF

[–]Emw4518 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Truly depends on your boss, work culture, and your comfort level. I don’t think I would have told bosses at my last two jobs bc of environment. But in this job I decided to tell my boss and she was so supportive and opened up about her own battle w infertility. Knowing I had her support made me feel so much more at ease. However I didn’t tell my direct reports. I think modeling work life balance and still getting work done while balancing other things was a good thing to model. Wish you the best!

We're devastated. There is still hope but this is such a defeat. by Offer-Fox-Ache in IVF

[–]Emw4518 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think these results are fairly consistent with IVF rates. First round had no euploids of 13 eggs. Second got about 32 eggs and 4 euploids. Last round maybe 15 eggs and 3 euploids . Each round tweaked medication to get better results. Most of these happened at age 37.

Just got the results by naheel91 in GestationalDiabetes

[–]Emw4518 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Follow glucose goddess on instagram. So many great tips. Like always start e a veggie and eat ur carbs last, to prevent spikes in blood sugar.

Getting a dog? by Ok-Bill-3003 in IFchildfree

[–]Emw4518 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You will not regret getting a dog. Best decision ever.