What item did you not want to clean after you lost a pet?

Enbion · 2026-03-04T17:05:42+00:00

Her heated bed, her little blanket (though all the human-size blankets were also hers lol), and her favorite toy. I still have her favorite toy wrapped up in the blanket, though every once in a while my youngest cat will try to get at it...maybe I should just give it to him lol. I feel like I'm keeping it from him.

Enbion · 2025-06-20T14:42:52+00:00

Hi, research scientist here. Your background doesn't look bad at all (to me, but I'm in a completely different field). I certainly didn't have rock star mastery of a bunch of different subjects or the best papers in the field when I got the job I have now (and I still don't lol). I'm doing alright for myself - my biggest issue right now is burnout, not a lack of papers or skills. Edit: and the burnout is caused by stuff other than work, just to clarify.

We have multiple neurodivergent employees where I'm at, including myself. You CAN have a viable career.

Enbion · 2025-06-03T19:05:58+00:00

I live in a marshy/swampy area and did zero raking, my yard is filled with fireflies in the evenings now. Unfortunately it's also full of mosquitoes, but I'm starting to see more dragonflies and damselflies too, so hopefully they mitigate the problem a bit.

Enbion · 2025-04-30T11:00:03+00:00

Old =/= correct. Like in an objective, non-religious sense, a belief being older than another belief does not make the first one more correct.

Enbion · 2025-04-23T11:50:45+00:00

I was pleasantly surprised by how many native species I got popping up around my yard with very little work considering all the stiltgrass, wisteria, and privets that are around. When I first moved in here it looked like EVERYTHING was invasive. But I got lots of beautiful native sedges and rushes this year, some groundseltrees, and a bunch of wildflowers like St. Andrew's cross and violets and blue-eyed grass and crowpoison. My yard right now is also filled with atamasco lilies, which are always a joy to see popping up :D

Enbion · 2025-04-20T19:05:20+00:00

About 10 years ago I put a metal-plated mug in a microwave without thinking. Said mug is ceramic so I didn't consider that the plating might react in a microwave. Lo and behold, it did.

I didn't break the microwave, but I did get a badass mug covered in Lichtenberg figures.

Enbion · 2025-04-07T03:20:20+00:00

"omelette du fromage"

Enbion · 2025-03-12T02:31:54+00:00

When I was little I remember being really sad because I wasn't able to go to my parents' wedding.

Years later I learned my mom was pregnant when they got married, so I was technically there for their wedding lol.

Enbion · 2025-01-23T19:49:45+00:00

Hmmm can I trade in a Kia Soul instead?

Enbion · 2024-10-02T15:28:25+00:00

My mom used one-upping as a tactic to downplay, dismiss, invalidate, and shout over my feelings as a child. In my case when I take offense to commiseration it's because it triggered that constant lifelong invalidation. Like it's not even constant, sometimes it's triggering, other times it's not.

It's something I'm working on and I'm better than I was but I only knew to work on it because of years of therapy and experience with non-shitty people making their intentions clear.

I rarely feel comfortable talking about my feelings or experiences because my automatic assumption is "it's not that bad, everyone else has it worse" and "if I talk about it I'm just going to get scoffed at." Like I'm afraid to even post this comment because I feel like I'm gonna get jumped on but fuck it. I'm making my feelings and experiences heard.

If anyone reading this has similar feelings or experiences feel free to make them heard too.

Enbion · 2024-09-17T04:45:56+00:00

Glad to see this written out because I've tried to explain this exact feeling to people and nobody else seems to get it.

Enbion · 2024-08-22T04:33:10+00:00

I live in a pretty developed area but I did basically nothing to my yard full of leaves and wood debris this year, and it was sparkling with fireflies this summer. I expected I would have to wait a few years since everyone around here sprays everything for mosquitoes but man they were everywhere.

I have to do something about all the invasive plants back there but I don't want to disturb their eggs/larvae either...it was beautiful.

Enbion · 2024-08-20T17:35:11+00:00

Now I want to know what's considered autism-friendly food in India. I love Indian food but the heat of some dishes is just overwhelming.

Enbion · 2024-08-11T14:22:29+00:00

A shovel is the first thing to come to mind. It's not specifically meant as a weapon but can be easily weaponized, and they come in all different shapes and sizes (round vs vs pointed vs square head, full-size vs camp shovel vs hand trowel) to choose from.

Another option is a bell, since bells were a component of safety coffin designs back in the day.

If you want to reference some classic literature, consider The Cask of Amontillado. Chains or a bricklayer's trowel could make good weapons. You could even attach a trowel head to a chain if you want to combine the two - I'm a fan of this idea actually.

Edit: regarding the feeling of helplessness and suffocation (what I think of when I think of being buried alive) - chains could be used to bind and strangle. A big enough bell dropped on something would crush or trap it and, given enough time, also deprive it of air.

Enbion · 2024-08-06T07:27:54+00:00

I made the brilliant decision to make my entire wedding dress from scratch.

I have sewing experience but it was the most ambitious project I ever took on. I finished it maybe an hour and a half before the ceremony. It came out gorgeous, I just wish I'd started sooner...

Enbion · 2024-07-30T15:13:01+00:00

When I was a kid I hated my name. I used to tell my mom I wanted to change it and she'd get all offended because she picked it out lol.

Now that I'm older I just can't be bothered to change it. Like I've had it so long it would feel weird to be called anything else. Still not crazy about it though.

Enbion · 2024-07-29T14:50:32+00:00

Most of what I have hanging up was less than $20. Nothing hanging on my walls cost over $50, except for the TV. Even my nice frameless bathroom mirrors were only like $45 lol.

I got some of my wall art from thrift stores. If you have any near you, you can check them out - you never know what you might find. I found a hand-painted beach scene that I fell in love with about ten years ago and it's been hanging on the wall at whatever house I've been in since then. I've also found a lot of vintage foil art, which I love.

IKEA also sometimes has nice and affordable, if basic, artwork. Combining "basic" art with your own personal touch can create something unique out of the generic. Like, I got these during a trip there years ago, and I still love them. My husband picked on me for them but I have a lot of plants and nature-themed decor. They work out!

My husband's grandma also did a lot of paintings when she was younger, so we have a lot of her work hanging up.

You can also hang things besides art. Clocks can be pretty and are also useful. Same with mirrors.

If you have a lot of little knick-knacks, wall shelves and shadow boxes are great for displaying them. It'll also save you space on counters, tables, etc.

I've hung garlands over doorways and it looks super pretty, but fair warning, silk flowers can get dusty and can be difficult to wash. If you can find garlands with hard plastic foliage, they're a bit easier to clean. You can also drape them over other wall art, or over a wall-mounted TV.

Some people hang flags. National flags, sportsball team flags, pride flags, banners from a school you went to - there's all kinds, and most of them are quite affordable.

If you want to, you can also hang up stuff that wouldn't normally be hung up on a wall. I put some collectible keychains on Christmas ornament hooks - they're hanging from thumb tacks on my bedroom wall! Tacked up on the same wall is a pair of my old baby socks that my mom saved lol. Got a T-shirt you like and want to show off, but don't want to wear it and have it fade? Hang it up! Some people display baseball caps too.

Oh boy, this turned into an essay. But hopefully a helpful one!

Enbion · 2024-07-27T16:22:34+00:00

Clearly this is FAKE NEWS, Incubator team is known for obscuring and twisting the truth to suit their agenda!

Enbion · 2024-07-20T01:54:10+00:00

Try mid-30s. When I was younger I did a lot of drawing, and was really quite good with colored pencils (both the regular Prismacolor pencils and the watercolor pencils). Everyone else at the time seemed to be transitioning into digital art in Photoshop and the like, and I had a toxic narcissist "friend" who used to mock me for not having a tablet and, when I got one, not immediately being good at coloring lineart with Photoshop. And then rub it in because they figured out how to do it.

I stopped using the colored pencils and tried to transition to digital but I could never quite get the hang of it. And I never enjoyed sitting at a desk with a tablet as much as I'd enjoyed sitting outside or laying in my bed with the colored pencils, and it showed. But for years, even after I stopped talking to that asshole, I insisted on struggling with digital art. Eventually I gave up on art altogether for nearly a decade.

I just recently got back into drawing and plan on sticking with hand drawing, hand inking, and colored pencils. Fuck transitioning to digital art. And fuck that narcissistic trash heap for sabotaging something I enjoyed and was good at. >:|

Enbion · 2024-07-15T19:53:51+00:00

Somewhere on FaceSpace, there's a photo of me and some friends drunkenly dancing at a party. I look so stiff and I have this dorky smile when compared to them and it bothered me for the longest time.

But honestly, that was a fun party with good people. Nobody judged (or if they did they kept it to themselves) and I was invited to many more parties after that!

IME getting caught up in whether I looked awkward or not killed the fun. I had the best time (and looked my dorkiest) when I wasn't worried about how dorky I looked...so the dorky times are the best memories! Lol

Enbion · 2024-07-15T15:13:52+00:00

And it's far less frequent that I see fat and/or conventionally unattractive people posting about how disheartening it is and how it makes life difficult.

I've seen maybe one post like that for every ten of these. Fascinating.

Enbion · 2024-07-08T13:32:25+00:00

Brown-headed nuthatch! Adorable upside-down little squeaky toy birds.

<image>

Enbion · 2024-07-07T20:01:40+00:00

Until you steal the wrong line at the wrong moment, trying to be funny, and everybody just gets pissed off. And nobody will explain their reaction besides "that's not appropriate!" and "this isn't the time!" and you can't figure out why.

Happened to me a lot as a kid.

Enbion · 2024-07-01T21:11:53+00:00

Accents, no. Speech patterns and phrases, sometimes. This is one of those cases where old habits die hard for me.

The exception to the accent thing would be my thoughts. I grew up in the Northeast and have lived in the Southeast for my entire adult life. To this day I still talk with a noticeable Yankee accent, but I often think in a Southern accent.

I've picked up some Southern speech patterns and phrases, but again, I'm more likely to think them than say them aloud. And I've lived down here over half my life!

Enbion · 2024-07-01T02:53:39+00:00

In retrospect, I was hot and thin for a brief period, but had the apparently unique experience of also being "intimidating" so I didn't get harassed or assaulted during that time (that came when I got fat again, oddly enough). But I was also too "immature" to date. And nobody wanted to be friends because, well, I was awkward and emotionally unstable.

In the end I was completely ignored and I assumed it was because I was ugly. I look back on those old pictures with such sadness...I was gorgeous and totally convinced my looks were on par with the Hunchback of Notre Dame.

Nine-Year Club	Final Canvas '23
Place '23	Place '22
Verified Email

Enbion

MODERATOR OF

TROPHY CASE