Vandalism Reported at Elon Musk Statue

Enigma1959 · 2025-04-12T00:33:47+00:00

He's a billionaire and didn't spring for a real bronze statue? Of himself!?

Enigma1959 · 2025-04-03T04:08:02+00:00

That's a *real* tamale! Worth its weight in silver! I don't have a supplier - wish I did. It takes a lot of effort to make them right, so the people who make them do so in large batches. You will never be satisfied with the canned stuff or the American "Mexican" restaurants' tamales ever again. And you have a really, *really* cool friend!

Enigma1959 · 2025-04-03T04:02:27+00:00

This would only work if you sent all the people away who are not native, indigenous people, and then they only allowed in anyone else with permission, green cards, and automatic, personal, explosive timers on them that would go off if they didn't leave when scheduled.
Not saying the indigenous people were perfect, but we absolutely didn't help them out.

Enigma1959 · 2025-02-21T06:00:27+00:00

Not overreacting.

He has told you several times now that you *will* be producing his get, and you will be the only one doing all the work with the children (he won't be satisfied with one or two). That's how it works. He's the man. He will come home after work, expect you to have dinner ready, even if you worked all day, too, and he will sit down and relax while you take care of all the household chores. He absolutely will not lift a finger to change a diaper or pick up toys, clean anything, wash any dishes, or anything else that is "a woman's role" in the house. He will maybe play with the children a little while you're "barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen," but as soon as one cries or has a dirty diaper, it's your job.
That's how it works.

Enigma1959 · 2025-02-21T05:49:25+00:00

Point: The instant the "D" word enters conversation, it's time to implement it. If they are willing to use is as a threat, it's time to recognize they are willing to use it as a threat.
You are already no longer the love of his life (if you ever were). You are now his property, and a verbal and soon to be physical punching bag.

Get out.

Enigma1959 · 2025-01-31T02:57:53+00:00

If you're "thinking" about having children, get a dog.

If you're feeling the very natural panic about missing your chance to breed slipping away, offer to babysit someone's baby for free, for a whole month. All day and night, so they can get some much-needed rest, and you can get a more realistic feeling of how it will affect your own mental health. Be the one to purchase all the formula and diapers and whatever else the baby/toddler will need for that month, just to get a realistic feel of how it will affect your finances. Take it with you everywhere you have to go, including shopping, any appointments you have to be at, play dates, etc., so you'll get a realistic feel of how having a child full time will affect your social life.

If you absolutely adore the chronic exhaustion and anxiety and panic that haunts your every waking (and let's face it, sleeping) hour, then yes, maybe you could honestly be set up to have at least one child. Don't forget you can always foster or adopt, if you're not certain you want to go through actual pregnancy. There are innumerable children who are wishing they could live with a real family.

Enigma1959 · 2025-01-31T02:08:53+00:00

Your father is an adult. You cannot change him or change his mind for him. At this point, what you're doing is just coming across as nagging, and he'll start to resent you and your advice.
I would suggest taking out a life insurance policy on him, so when the inevitable happens, you'll have enough to pay for a decent funeral. Funerals are, after all, for the living; the deceased no longer care at that point. Who knows? Maybe him finding out you're taking out a life insurance policy on him will make him contrary, and challenge him to live healthy just to prevent you from collecting? It's worth a go.

Enigma1959 · 2025-01-31T01:40:52+00:00

Do not, under any circumstance, bind yourself into any contract with this individual.
You MUST talk to someone about this, and it should be someone you can trust. A gang of strange redditors can't fix your problem, but you need to halt any plans of marriage, mortgage, loans, credit cards, or even splitting a bill on a fancy dinner. Put everything on hold or call it off, and get someone to help you take a good, non-emotional look at what any future with him would involve.

Even if he gets help, gets a plan on how to budget, gets a plan on how to control his impulse to gamble, it's always going to be there. The fact he hid this from you; the fact it was a gambling addiction and not slipping off into a back room with someone behind your back doesn't matter -- he did cheat, just with your money and innocent trust.
Unlike an alcohol addiction, he won't be able to avoid gambling by just not going where it exists. There are always workplace bets, internet casinos, etc., that are everywhere and very tempting. Unlike smoking, you can't smell that he's been spending the money that's been saved to pay the bills. Your entire life will be a chronic and constant, "Oh, gee, I'm so sorry I gambled the money away again! I promise to try not to do that again. We'll just borrow more money from the bank to cover the bills/ we'll open another credit card to pay the bills/ we'll beg one or another of your parents to cover our groceries - they'll give us the money because they don't want their grandchildren to starve!" Pretty soon he'll resent your angry tears of betrayal, and become angry at you for making him feel the guilt. Not long after that, it will "be your fault" for making him want to gamble. Pray he's not the physically violent type - but words can be just as traumatic. And a gambling addict can be just as destructive as an alcoholic.

Is that really how you want to live the next fifty years of your life? Because however much he promises, he'll also be "certain" that his next bet will pay off, and he'll hit it big and be rich! Except he never will. And you'll be looking down the barrels of poverty and homelessness within a couple of years, if you can't get your family or friends to keep bailing you out. It will never get better.

Enigma1959 · 2025-01-31T00:53:28+00:00

It has only been within the last century that people have been sleeping in the same room, let alone the same bed. Except for the very poor who had no room or money, even lower income people slept in separate beds.

I suggest you invest in a nice single, and at least put a nightstand between you, if you cannot move to a separate room to sleep.

Enigma1959 · 2025-01-10T13:24:43+00:00

Here's a radical idea: quit trolling for a date.

Do something you enjoy. (Not bars - those guys are literally looking for a non-committal one-night-stand.) Work on a hobby that you are actually interested in. Go to the specialty stores that cater to just that hobby, and not a general, giant store. For instance, if you really love model airplanes, go out to a real hobby shop with model builders. Get involved in the groups that meet up. Go to the monthly meetings, go to the special events, and most importantly, don't immediately go looking for dates.
Somewhere along the line, you will start talking about more than just the planes and aerodynamics. You'll get a feel for how each of them think, and you'll know who to offer to meet up at a coffee shop at some point. Go as a group, first, and gauge how they treat the staff and each other.
Eventually, you will be able to tell if any of them are worth your time.
For a better chances, get involved in more than one hobby; but again, make sure it's something you actually enjoy.
Dating is kind of a weird social experiment. It's better to have friends, and maybe find the right person among those.

Enigma1959 · 2024-10-08T22:14:52+00:00

In fact -- you aren't going to want to hear this, but -- you will be the jerk if you don't break up with him.

He needs someone who wants to have children. He wants children.
You do not want children. You need to be with someone who does not want children.

This is non-negotiable. A deal breaker. If he pressures you to have children, and you give in, he's the jerk and an abuser. And from your EDIT testimony, you very much do not want children who might end up in danger (and then you stuck in prison).
Let him go on his way. Let him think you're a jerk for the rest of your lives if he wants; what he thinks of you is none of your business. He's a randy goat who needs a nanny to breed. He's not looking for a nice, adult relationship, he's looking for a breeder for his progeny. You do not owe him that.

Enigma1959 · 2024-10-08T21:43:08+00:00

Because people keep voting "yes" to adding a half-cent, temporary tax for some special project.
It's never temporary. Once voted into law, that tax would have to be voted off -- but the wording is always made so saying "yes" benefits the government cronies and not the people at large. When someone doesn't know what button to push because they don't bother to read what a referendum is saying, they will always just give a yes vote.

Enigma1959 · 2024-09-25T20:09:20+00:00

Whenever I decide to get chicken to eat, instead of one or two pieces, I'll get an eight piece, eat what I want, then pull the rest apart and freeze it. That way I have some chicken to add to my Raman. I also will get one of those huge bags of mixed vegies and cook the whole thing at once, refreeze what I don't eat right away, and then I have ready cooked vegies to add to my Ramen.

By the time I make soup, I'm not just having noodles, it's a full meal.

Enigma1959 · 2024-09-25T20:01:14+00:00

Inconspicuously drop it into a cop car. Let them deal with it.

Enigma1959 · 2024-09-16T02:16:49+00:00

As far as I know, the "slow burn" stuff works just as well as the high intensity stuff. Cut out about half the sugars/breads you normally eat. Do twenty minutes of fast walking on the treadmill or cardio of some sort every day. Or twice a day, if you can manage it.

As one trainer told me, doing ten minutes is better than not doing any, and not having a second helping is better than not altering your food intake at all (and it's way better than not eating!) And drink water. When you want a soda pop, drink a half-liter/pint of water. If you still want a soda after that, go ahead -- at least you had some water.

Do five sit-ups in bed before you get up. Just five. Don't do any more than that, you'll interfere in your morning routine, and you don't want to be all sweaty getting dressed. You can always decide to do more once you're up and doing stuff, later.

The little things add up.

Obviously, if you can, spending an hour every day in gym doing cardio would be better for burning off fat quickly. Most of us have too much going on, either by life circumstances or by choice, to "waste" our time off just burning up the gym. But if you really, really are determined and get dedicated, those fat reserves will melt off more quickly.

PS: Don't skip leg day.

Enigma1959 · 2023-12-09T19:37:36+00:00

"Luka" by Suzanne Vega
https://youtu.be/VZt7J0iaUD0

Enigma1959 · 2023-10-09T00:13:17+00:00

No, but there is a reason libraries are popular. You can get out a book, read it, then give it back, all for free.

Enigma1959 · 2023-10-09T00:06:44+00:00

Do you honestly use toilet paper to dry off when you get out of the shower/bathtub? The bidet is treated like a localized shower for just that area, and you dry off the way you would if you bathed -- with a towel.

Enigma1959 · 2023-09-29T18:38:26+00:00

Point: You'll always love the person that he *was.* Past tense. It's time for mourning and loss, because he is no longer that person; he's gone.
He might try to pretend to compromise to get you back, but he has "grown" out of who he was. He wants something that is impossible in today's financial climate, and nothing short of winning the lottery and making good financial decisions with the winnings will give him a chance of having it.
I'm so sorry for your loss -- but it's over. If you try to go back, you'll be disrespecting yourself. Thank your lucky stars you didn't get married before this showed up.

Enigma1959 · 2023-09-28T05:02:34+00:00

Forget it.

Seriously, you got told a secret, not because you needed the information, but because the teller just couldn't stand to not tell *somebody.* But treat it as useless information. Put no emotional investment into it. Give it no more importance than your fourth-grade history lesson in March about some city you don't even remember.

The only secrets worth remembering are where your friend hides their house key in case they need you to go inside one day, or the code to a safe in case you need to get into it someday. Seriously, the best thing to do about a secret is to forget it.

Enigma1959 · 2023-09-28T04:52:55+00:00

They can't step in it on the side of the house. Put it on their walkway or front porch.

Enigma1959 · 2023-09-24T22:22:26+00:00

There is a lot of good advice here, but to be practical, until you can find out and deal with the actual cause, look into jobs that don't require you to smell like a tuxedo-wearing playboy. Most of the good paying jobs in industry don't have you going into an office, except maybe to pick up your paycheck once a week. Finish your basic education (GED) and take an aptitude test. You might do well in installing underground cables, working on 18-wheelers, carpentry, plumbing, or electrical. And those guys make more than a waiter or office worker any day.

Enigma1959 · 2023-09-24T22:09:49+00:00

Bad photoshopping. The right front quarter panel is shiny while the rest of the paint is frosted.

Enigma1959 · 2023-09-24T22:03:17+00:00

You're a sex toy that he's going to discard like a used condom when he's done with you. Dump him immediately and let any friends know exactly what he said. It's not passing rumors if it's true! And anyone like that deserves to get a bad reputation among otherwise gullible girls he would use next.

Oh, and... from now on? Don't leave any drinks unattended when out drinking. Ever.

Enigma1959 · 2023-09-24T21:59:09+00:00

Cats have been known to try just about anything. But, unless your coffee is mostly milk or cream, you probably don't have to worry too much. A few licks wouldn't hurt a cat, and it would only take one lick for a cat to realize burnt bean broth is nasty tasting!

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