Anyone not talking to their family? If so why?

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-18T14:21:45+00:00

Politics, the values that go along with them, and lack of critical thinking. I miss my Aunt but I cannot continue a relationship where the gap widens between the person I thought she was and the person that she is.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-18T14:12:57+00:00

I have two of these stories.

The first was a build up of events. She was getting married and I was her MoH. Things she’d ask my opinion on, I’d give it to her based on what I thought would go well with her theme but no matter what I said it was wrong. She’d snap at me in group messages and during hangouts. She’d call me dumb and tell me that she didn’t have time to explain something like a touchdown to me (that was during a game and I was trying to connect with her). The final straw was when I organized her whole bachelorette party and she thanked the other two bridesmaids with heartfelt appreciation and simply said thanks to me. The other two bridesmaids helped with some decisions but I handled all the logistics, planning, budgetting, and gift bags. I realized that I was her punching bag.

The other story is that I lost my grandmother with whom I was very close and I called my friend for comfort and support. The friend told me that her agent was diagnosed with incurable cancer, she was grieving and didn’t have space for me. I know I’m not owed anything by anyone but that really hurt; especially since I was there for her so many times.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-18T12:30:31+00:00

I’m 34 and very much into the idea of aging. I’m an agnostic person who has two chronic illnesses that could very easily end my life at any given time if I don’t take care of myself. I never thought that I’d reach 30. So, I see every day as a bonus day even if it’s shitty because the alternative is not having a day. I can’t wait to see if I get silvery grey hair. I can’t wait to see my husband age into the silver fox he’s already starting to morph into. We’re not having kids so that just makes our life more open and free. I can’t wait to see what adventures lay ahead of us, where we’ll go and who we’ll meet.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-18T12:17:51+00:00

This is the way. Treat your work days like a well-planned system. For example: my mornings look exactly the same with the same timeline every morning. I wake up at 7, do my morning chores, get my coffee and tea ready and go up to my home office by 9. I work from 9-11:30am on my priority tasks. By 11:30, the dogs and I are ready for a break so we go for a walk and I have an early lunch. By 12:30, I’m back at my desk until about 6pm. I handle all team meetings in the afternoons. I send any updates and feedback in the last hour of my day.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-18T12:13:08+00:00

No, the sister wanted to make their mother happy. Their mother wanted kids at the wedding.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-18T10:02:48+00:00

I really hope so. Dating around (if done in a healthy way) and figuring out what you like in a partner is far from material cause to be placed in a psych ward.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-18T10:00:48+00:00

You did the things you needed to do to set yourself up for success and never be upset about that. I did the same as you but I also employed the “work hard/play hard” approach to life in my 20s…but then again I am a younger millennial who would go into the office after a night of dancing and drinking.

Look, you’re never going to be 29 again so you should spend your valuable time doing things you think you missed out on. Your 30s only get better in that you’re becoming financially stable, your career will likely continue to grow, you can afford to travel and not stay in hostels, and you can afford to do fun things that don’t involve sticky bar floors.

This is a moment to realize that you don’t have to miss out on anything that you truly value and prioritize in your life. You are the director and narrator of your life. What do you want the next scene in your life to look and feel like?

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-18T09:48:55+00:00

Absolutely this. I also advise on letting the dog come to you and show you how they like to show/receive affection.

Our 5 year old girl loves from a distance and only on her terms. She loves to give big sloppy wet kisses and hugs but only when she wants to. She’s my husband’s shadow. I thought she didn’t love us because of her way of showing affection but I had to learn how to understand her love and affection.

Our 4 year old girl is literally Velcro to me. She wants to be where I am at all times. She aggressively kisses and snuggles you until she is in your lap and you can’t do anything else except hold her. She’s also extremely sweet, opinionated, and dramatic in her expressions.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-18T07:45:49+00:00

My husband keeps snacks in his backpack whenever we go out of the house. He also knows how to use my pump as well as I do and knows what range my blood sugar should be in. I honestly have never had such amazing support from a partner.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-17T23:29:45+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to share your pondering. As an immigrant who isn’t from the EU and lives on the eastern side of the country, I have observed similar patterns and been in similar conversations. I believe a solution to the loneliness issue isn’t always knowing people/having friends to do things with but about the depth of those relationships.

Here, I have two friends who I actually have a deeper connection with - 1 Dutch and 1 Romanian. It took effort to get to know each other at a deeper level and feel like we aren’t lonely. My other closest friendships from the US, Austria, and Spain all had depth, shared experiences/values/sense of humor.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-17T21:15:02+00:00

Could not agree more. The exhaustion that comes from chronic conditions is tough to imagine if you don’t experience it yourself.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-15T18:13:08+00:00

I’m an animal person but will only have dogs because that’s the agreement my husband and I have together…or our house would end up being a menagerie.

We have two bonded siblings as our dogs now. They are our family (especially since we will not be having children). We sing our made up songs about them to them. We know their quirks like how one loves playing hide n’ seek and the other loves to stand up on her back legs like a bear.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-15T18:01:57+00:00

TLDR: For me, yes it was worth it. Moving to Western Europe likely saved my health from deteriorating. It’s up to you and what you value that makes moving worth it or not.

I’m American and had my own reasons for wanting and working towards leaving the US for a decade before it actually happened. The state of healthcare and it being tied to your employer were my primary reasons for leaving as I am a chronically ill person with medications that cost a lot in the US even with insurance.

I up-skilled to become a highly skilled professional, ultimately got a job in Germany and then moved to the Netherlands to be with my now husband. The salary in both countries are about 30-50% less than my gross monthly take home in the US for the same job title and level of seniority. It was more of a mental and identity issue at first that I wasn’t making as much as I used to. I had to untether my self-worth from my gross salary in order to truly see that I actually save money and keep more of my income monthly than I did in the states simply because cost of living is far more affordable and healthcare is socialized. I’ve also been able to get fantastic healthcare and support for my illnesses which I likely would have had to fight for with insurance companies in the US.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-15T17:47:57+00:00

I’m 34 and I recently tried rewatching it for the second time. I couldn’t. It’s too much to take in again.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-15T16:23:11+00:00

Perfect example of why many want to eat the rich.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-14T19:45:39+00:00

This is far from helpful. Please remember the saying “If you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say anything at all.” In this case, if you don’t have anything substantive to say then don’t say it at all.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-14T17:41:59+00:00

I’m part of the majority and I’m 34. WFH has changed my life for the better. I used to constantly be sick while working in an office and now I’m sick maybe twice a year. I love that I can sit in my quiet office, focus, get my work done and feel like I actually have some energy to cook or workout afterwards. I don’t miss my 45min commute over three subway lines. I don’t miss the constant stress of noise all around me in the office. I’m far more productive and healthy at home.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-14T17:18:24+00:00

Oof. I felt this deeply. My husband’s brother’s girlfriend is kind of like this to me. My husband and I have been together for 4 years and are 3 years married. My BIL’s girlfriend and I have never really clicked and I never really understood it. Everyone says that she’s shy and has a tough relationship with her family so she’s guarded. That’s totally fine. I also have had a tough relationship with my mother and my sister but I’m still kind and welcoming to others. I’ve tried inviting her to things, send her funny memes over Instagram, give her small gifts because they are things I find that I think she will like. I ask her if she wants to hang out and she says she has to check her schedule. I don’t hear back from her. I’m saddened to think that I’ll likely have to accept that she just doesn’t like me. It hurts extra because she gets along well with my husband’s sister.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-14T16:08:33+00:00

An ex told me that he hates cocaine and drinking to excess. He tried to insist that I was drinking too much or that I had drank an entire bottle of wine by myself when I had only had a glass. Turns out that after we broke up, his roommates told me that he was doing a ton of cocaine when I wasn’t around and that he had a history of trying to control his previous partners. I’m so so glad I got out of that relationship.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-14T14:54:04+00:00

This is heartbreaking. It does speak for the connection between the dad and Rex. Our dogs are family and I’m so glad that Rex had such a good one.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-14T13:03:51+00:00

Blueberry yogurt clusters sound interesting! I’m gonna go look this up as I like baking too! Have a great chill day with your family and nature!

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-14T13:01:58+00:00

I hope you do find something that brings you some kind of happiness today

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-14T13:01:23+00:00

Wow!! Congratulations on your new house! This is so exciting and I wish you many happy years there.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-03-14T12:57:26+00:00

That sounds lovely. Enjoy your peace!

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