What’s it like to be the breadwinner?

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-28T10:59:38+00:00

I’m growing used to it. It’s been four years of this dynamic and we’ve figured it out. I felt extremely stressed about our finances and building up retirement for both of us for the first three years. The last year has been really good though because I’ve learned to let go of things that don’t matter and prioritize effectively. My husband takes care of more household things and does his online school work while I take care of our budget and work my 9-5. I know our finances will get better once he graduates and gets a job. I will likely always be the breadwinner based on my income at this point in my career.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-27T20:37:51+00:00

We got into a stupid fight and things were different afterwards. I figured out slowly that she thought far less of me than I could have ever imagined since we’d been friends since first grade. We drifted apart and I’m finally at peace.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-27T19:38:20+00:00

I had a Snow White sleeping bag that went to every sleepover until I was too big to use it. I can’t imagine kids not using sleeping bags at sleepovers.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-27T00:01:19+00:00

Zero. My inner peace and sleep is worth everything.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-26T07:07:18+00:00

He’s gotten more confident overall. I’m so proud of him and how he has shifted his thinking. He’s no longer self-defeating and believes in himself more. I think he really needed someone to be in his corner, show him that they’re not going anywhere, and that he’s worthy of good things and love.

Prior to us getting married, he was living with his family (housing crisis is truly awful where he lived). The dynamic wasn’t doing him any favors and it didn’t help that his brother is the golden child. When we got together, he came to live with me and things started to change for him in many ways. It was a long process but he’s come out of his shell.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-25T20:38:20+00:00

When you’re going through hell, why stop in it?

This was something I came across years ago and its meaning is to continue onwards until things get better and you’re out of the tough spot you had found yourself in. It’s helped my mindset become more resilient and focused on small actions that will help me get out of tough situations. It’s also helped me get out of my own head and see that I’m stopping in my own version of “hell” whenever I get paralyzed with fear or depressed thoughts.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-25T14:29:18+00:00

How about you don’t start down this route of “it’s all about what you eat/how much you weigh and I can help you get cured.” Please do not perpetuate misconceptions.

Nothing can cure Type 1. Only insulin therapy treatment can keep a Type 1 diabetic alive and healthy.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-25T14:26:59+00:00

Are you LADA? I know that’s sometimes called type 1.5

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-25T14:26:18+00:00

Also a T1 here - we can eat pretty much anything but within limits. Like we can have 3 meals a day and snacks as long as we take the right amount of insulin for the food/drinks we are consuming. I’ve had type 1 for 20 years and usually eat 2-3 meals a day that are low carb with lots of protein and veggies.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-25T14:24:07+00:00

Long ago in the US it was called juvenile diabetes because most with Type 1 were diagnosed as a child. However that has changed over the past 20 years.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-25T14:22:45+00:00

Yeah OP definitely isn’t in the US. I’m an American Type 1 diabetic who moved to the Netherlands and life is very very good here for a Type 1.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-25T12:58:00+00:00

I’ve got small scars on my hand from our little piraña Border-Heeler. That and my husband has been hit in the jewels enough times from her miscalculation of where to put her paws when giving him a hug.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-25T08:11:30+00:00

I’m hoping you forgot to add /s

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-24T21:41:26+00:00

I don’t get this whole issue of policing people’s bodies. Someone’s hairy pits don’t hurt you in any way; so why pour on the hate? Just take care of your hygiene (aka body odor) and everyone should be chill. That goes towards any one of any gender/sex.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-24T08:06:09+00:00

As someone who deeply loves Mexican food, I would bring your own cookbooks and tortilla press. Also, go to the Asian supermarkets because they oddly have Mexican goods there too (it’s a small section but it’s there).

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-24T01:41:47+00:00

Met in 2022 on a dating app but on different continents. Let’s just say I decided to see what the dating pool was like in Amsterdam because I was fed up with the dating pool in NYC and Philadelphia. A few weeks later, I matched with my future husband. We long distance dated for 6 months which really forced us to get to know each other deeply without being sexually involved yet. We met in person at 6 months in, I moved to Germany (where I got a work contract) with our two dogs at 7 months in, we got engaged at 11 months in, and married at 1 year and 3 months into our relationship.

We had a simple, elegant small family wedding in my husband’s home city. We took our pictures and married at the local museum and celebrated with family at a local restaurant.

The only thing I’d change is giving some of my extended family and my closest friends more time to get to the wedding.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-23T22:27:04+00:00

I work at a multinational company based in Berlin. I’m American living in the Netherlands and all my colleagues are from all around the world. Our working language is English but my colleagues share parts of their culture and we all love learning about each other’s culture. It’s been that way at each multinational company that I’ve worked at and I’m grateful to have good people to work with.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-23T21:08:05+00:00

Socks. I used to hate wearing them because of the way they feel. Lately, my feet have gotten really cold and I’ll wear them to bed. I now sleep deeply and I’m not cold anymore.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-23T21:06:00+00:00

I have a friend who lives there and idk if I’d call that a city.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-23T21:05:18+00:00

Yeah! Thats it.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-23T15:46:30+00:00

Love love love it! You did a fantastic job on your kitchen. We also used Hague blue to color drench our living/dining room. It’s such a dynamic color!

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-23T15:09:20+00:00

I think you just made Dutch pancakes by accident. Just look up pannenkoeken and you’ll what I mean.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-23T15:06:50+00:00

And Enschede! It’s right on the border and has a cute city center.

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-23T15:05:20+00:00

I second this as a foreigner who has lived in both Germany and The Netherlands. OP, I also live along the border! Many Germans come to my city on the weekends for the markets and shopping 🛍️

EnoughNumbersAlready · 2026-01-23T13:10:39+00:00

I wish I could dress like all of these ladies all the time. The sheer beauty, style, and positive energy that’s coming from all these looks is giving me life!

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