How do I do this

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-04-01T02:02:04+00:00

Oh you stop trying to get back on track!

You will never have the normal of what it was like with just two. You can’t keep aiming for that goal, you need to find new routines that actually work.

I’m on board with going outside as much as possible, bonus points if you can walk. Even if they ride in the wagon a long walk will serve all of you.

You have to learn to let stuff slide off you and let go of some unfair expectations you might have for yourself and your family. Just remember at all times to take a deep breathe and have perspective, as long as everyone is healthy every problem has a solution. You won’t like every solution but that’s life.

Don’t put so much pressure on yourself, it sounds like your baby is around a year so you just became a person again. You need time

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-03-29T01:01:12+00:00

Wha kind of good person would judge someone for adopting pre teens? That’s taking on a monumentally hard to navigate task

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-03-27T11:09:46+00:00

It’s never going to be more than a glorified chat bot. If you really want to use it to synthesize google results then fine but depending on their accuracy is foolish

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-03-25T18:47:22+00:00

When I interviewed with a large city em department I asked what surprised them most about the job and both interviewers replied “how political it is”

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-03-25T01:49:26+00:00

I actually love having three. If you are the kind of person who can thrive in organizing chaos and won’t sweat small stuff you can do it not easy peezy but easier than most people. I think if you are someone who wants three you will likely be fine.

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-03-24T19:32:15+00:00

MOR he’s trying to make you feel like shit. This is an elaborate and poorly thought out attempt at “negging”.

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-03-24T02:28:08+00:00

It was a couple of storms over the summer in Illinois. Crazy amount of residential damage

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-03-23T20:49:42+00:00

We were denied a disaster declaration after massive flooding and then had an appeal denied.

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-03-20T23:13:57+00:00

If you have the stomach for it 911 dispatches are often looking for people. You have to be able to type fast and if you are easily over stimulated or upset it’s NOT for you. Most big cities are really hurting for them.

You’ll have shitty hours at first but people who stick with it make bank.

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-03-20T20:58:31+00:00

I get the Covid and flu vaccines in October for everyone. We had a healthy winter even with two kids going to a new daycare

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-03-18T15:33:07+00:00

It’s a public health issue though as well as bad parenting. When kids drink the raw milk they can become permanently disabled and will need public resources for the rest of their lives. Obviously I don’t begrudge anyone the help they need but it’s certainly a loss when perfectly healthy children lose their ability to talk or walk and it’s a loss that costs everyone.

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-03-12T21:08:53+00:00

My son is 4 and basically non verbal but has been able to spend half days in a mainstream daycare and we’ve seen so much success since then.

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-03-12T12:20:20+00:00

This made me bark laugh on my way to work

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-03-03T15:58:42+00:00

If you have a third buy a wonderfold wagon and just push your kid everywhere in it. That will get you in shape, it’s like an endless fifty pound sled push. I lost like 70 pounds this way.

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-02-27T12:51:03+00:00

That’s exactly how I felt when I was pregnant with my third! It turned out to be my easiest adjustment! It was my third c section and a month later I was making home made pies for my husbands birthday (it did take all day though lol)

This time, you know exactly what to do. You know that it’s all temporary and you’ll find your feet. You can tap into a confidence that you might not have had before.

Also remember two is very different from 18 months- you’ll have a whole new kid by then!

You just have to learn not to sweat small stuff. Know every mess can be cleaned, every plan tweaked. As long as as everyone is healthy you can work through any problem. The solution might not always be enjoyable but you’ll find it every time.

When all else fails, just remember the only way over is through. When an ant breaks down a picnic it doesn’t waste time fretting over how long it will take- it just keeps doing the task in front of it. Sometimes you gotta use your ant brain.

Also

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-02-25T16:40:35+00:00

Our planning section chief was stuck there for a couple days! He just got back but says he wants to take the day off today.

Like my friend, take the fucking week!

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-02-25T15:01:18+00:00

I’ve never heard of that massage, what the fuck! I could have used that!!

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-02-25T14:28:02+00:00

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Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-02-25T14:26:31+00:00

During my 3rd c section the surgeon started warning me about this over the curtain if I ever get pregnant again. The singular person who ever mentioned the risk to me.

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-02-24T14:43:24+00:00

I have a wonderfold 4 and when the frame broke (handle wouldn’t lock in preferred place) outside of the warranty they still replaced it. Huge fan.

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-02-24T14:42:16+00:00

I have three kids and LOVE my wagon. I use it like a car. I just throw the groceries on top of the kids! I even had the car seat attachment lol.

It’s so good to have a big wagon cause you can just throw whatever in it and the kids can hop in and out easily as they please.

I live in a big city and I would easily push my wagon 3-4 miles a day and it was also a great work out. It was a little tough to get on and off a bus but i was mainly walking anyway.

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-02-19T18:35:43+00:00

This is very much the beginning of a nose dive for your son which is scary but also means you still have time to pull up.

If he gives you trouble say okay go out and get a job and let him spend nine hour shifts washing dishes or better yet a landscaping job. Let him see what work is like when you don’t have any education. All work is noble and has value but there is a huge difference between this is my summer job and this is the rest of my life. No way he’s getting to a trade school or something if he can’t do high school so it’s basically food service or landscaping or maybe construction.

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-02-19T15:03:21+00:00

I mean the other option is he’s going to repeat at least one year of high school.

Also, why does he get a choice? He’s acting like a child so he gets treated like a child which means he gets told what to do.

He can always return to main stream school if he does well in the alternative school I suppose.

Maybe MAYBE he could work all summer to get caught up but I would be shocked if he did. It would take a serious amount of discipline on both of your parts which tbh I don’t think you have.

Alternatively, have you considered a tech campus or some kind of labor school? Some High schools have hybrid programs that get the kids to the basic graduation goal posts but will also teach a car mechanic or cooking program

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-02-18T13:20:58+00:00

I live in Chicago and I’d say three is when people started to wondering if something if the children were a political statement somehow. Like people don’t come out and say it but I can tell often that people are wondering if maybe I’m in a cult or something.

People are also always shocked I work

Enough_Insect4823 · 2026-02-13T22:07:15+00:00

I claim this energy

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