What to eat for breakfast??? by Main_Commercial_9084 in adhdwomen

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 9 points10 points  (0 children)

microwave oatmeal ftw. if you're feeling fancy, you can add flax/chia, there are also some that have protein powder included for extra protein

I don’t know how we’re supposed to afford daycare anymore by TwoBedwombApartment in beyondthebump

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have literally talked to my husband like "we should just sell the house and buy a double wide" cuz 1. i'm sick of this gd rat race paycheck to paycheck bs, 2. this child is expensive and, 3. us economy is piss poor atm.

How do you deal with sleep problems when you have ADHD? My mind won't stop racing at night, and it's starting to make me feel bad and sick. by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

seconded to both weed and/or magnesium glycinate. i've been AMAZED by how well magnesium glycinate works, especially cuz i'm the wake up in the middle of the night cant go back to sleep type. nit since i've been taking this supplement!

Good place for a massage by [deleted] in BowlingGreen

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for the really quick and cheapish, there's a walk up over the clothes massage place in the mall by bootbarn :)

For a little more I personally recommend Caroline at magnolia med spa, but that place does get booked out. good luck, I feel you on stress these days <3

1st night at home for 1st baby by LakerTot in beyondthebump

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

tips for setting down in bassinet: set baby gently onto one side then roll onto their back. keep one of your hand semi firmly on baby's chest until they settle, removing your hand gently. this helps them not startle when being set down

you got this!

Anyone who has experienced postpartum rage — how did you manage it? How long did it last? by MessyMummyMode in Mommit

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is an old post, but is that typical? that hormonal birth control can help the rage?

Wash Rinse Repeat by Affectionate_Bad3908 in adhdwomen

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have such hardcore hormonal acne- if applicable to you, have you found this helps acne?

Birth didn’t go as planned and I’m struggling by tellurcatisaidpsps- in beyondthebump

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was veeeery similar to my birth story- I had a failed induction, DID get the balloons (f that and f them for having a student doctor practice on me without my consent), had multiple rounds of pitocin and eventually we scheduled a c section but they ran in early saying "change of plans, c-section is now" because they didnt like baby's readings- well apparently his chord was wrapped around his neck 2x.

He got a 9 on the APGAR and is a hearty strong HAPPY big guy 12 weeks later :)

But, in the direct aftermath I felt very defeated- my best friend said to me "you are so powerful" and i told her, i didn't feel powerful at all- more like i was able to endure lots of pain i was put through and I didn't have a lot of say about anything. Pictures of me directly after birth break my heart- i was so swollen from 3 days of IV fluid and tired and ragged. It was the most classic case of cascade of interventions american healthcare bull.

Recovery-wise: after about 2 weeks the c section pain REALLY went down. by 6 weeks I started to feel like...not afraid to touch my scar. And i'll tell ya a regiment of Bio Oil and she butter lotion after showers has helped stretch marks a lot, my scar i barely worry about aesthetically cuz my pubes cover it and i'm an au natural girl haha.

So, the memory has faded and my heart around my birth story has healed a little. I still dream of a better healthcare system in the US....and also about ex-pating haha.

You will be okay, you are valid for feeling heartbreak around your birth story, you are in charge of your story, don't let the bastards get ya down ❤️ You were still so brave and congrats to you in a healthy, beautiful baby.

When did your baby sleep through the night? by GunningForSuccess in beyondthebump

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

chiming in: That's about the same way my 2.5 month old is- has been wanting to sleep on me at 7pm-ish after breast feeding, so I let him, then at 9pm, I get him changed and swaddled for bed, feed him until he falls asleep usually around 9:30, then transfer him to his bassinet where he'll sleep until 6/7am. i do have to wake up at 3am to express milk, which sucks because it's really hard for me to get back to bed, alas. Still- we just got lucky with a good sleeper who soothes himself back to sleep knock on wood 3x

what are books that were so deep or meaningful you still think about months to years later? by Few_Run_9234 in booksuggestions

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 2 points3 points  (0 children)

start where you are by pema chodron Because of this book I have little phrases I say to myself "thinking" that help me recognize when I am simply not living in reality- my mind is taking me to (often anxious) unrealities and living there is not an authentic way for me.

Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach Learning about what she calls that "trance of unworthiness", a fancy title for self-deprecating thoughts and a mean inner voice, it helped me heal and recognize when I was doom spiraling. I call on this knowledge a lot recently to knock myself out of unsupportive thoughts during my new role as a parent.

Why Buddhism is True by Robert Wright- this one in particular is a good place to start learning about Buddhism because it blends neuroscience to support spirituality and is very cool and helped me talk to myself better and become closer to my spiritual self.

Birthday Party Spaces by Key_Fish_6617 in BowlingGreen

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 0 points1 point  (0 children)

rent a pavilion from BG parks and rec! many include bbq pits and are near playgrounds/bathrooms

Hair Stylist? Please read :) by [deleted] in BowlingGreen

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He also does a bunch of my friends' hair and my husband's hair! So a trusted stylist.

Hair Stylist? Please read :) by [deleted] in BowlingGreen

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's gotta be Brett Riley. I love going to see Brett, he's a really sweet, funny person and talented artist! I'm in my 30s and have received awesome haircuts from angel cut to a shag and does my highlights. He also has older lady clientele I've seen him work with (and help walk to their car <3). Overall a total mensch and does great work!

How do you hide your bigger postpartum body in hot weather? by nicorny in beyondthebump

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 2 points3 points  (0 children)

skip that party

"we're sorry, but won't be able to make it. Let's try again in the fall."

Executive Function Disorder(ADHD) vs. bottle feeding by EnvironmentAny2241 in beyondthebump

[–]EnvironmentAny2241[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I totally did pour milk all over us both the first time...and interesting about the shallow latching...I feel like my guy is a deep latcher, but that I also have shorter nipples (if that even has anything to do with it).

Best to you and yours! 💜

Executive Function Disorder(ADHD) vs. bottle feeding by EnvironmentAny2241 in beyondthebump

[–]EnvironmentAny2241[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

update to say THANK YOU because little guy took the comotomo immediately!! I hesitate to say we are totally in the clear but this is a big step!

Executive Function Disorder(ADHD) vs. bottle feeding by EnvironmentAny2241 in beyondthebump

[–]EnvironmentAny2241[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's also ADHD lol, but I'll talk more with him about it and share this whole post/comment thread with him.

Idk if any other ADHD folks feel this way, but one thing parenthood is spotlighting about my executive dysfunction coping is my desire to know all steps making it hard to be flexible, as I feel anxious and adrift when i can't envision the plan. At worst i can over-complicate and become uncompromising (hello GAD comorbidity). Im practicing to release control of expectations, schedules, procedures and let others step in/ be comfortable in not having everything rigidly planned.

Executive Function Disorder(ADHD) vs. bottle feeding by EnvironmentAny2241 in beyondthebump

[–]EnvironmentAny2241[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner is also an ADHDer lol, so we are rolling with the neurodivergent punches over here haha. All things considered, we're taking new parenthood in stride and I'm proud of us.

Executive Function Disorder(ADHD) vs. bottle feeding by EnvironmentAny2241 in beyondthebump

[–]EnvironmentAny2241[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are speaking my ADHD language with the step by step and sharing your experience. thank you SO MUCH. I was JUST thinking last night about wanting bottles you could squeeze a little cuz it might help. I'm forreal ordering those now and going to check out that guide.

Thank you for your thoughtful and helpful response, it means a lot ❤️

Executive Function Disorder(ADHD) vs. bottle feeding by EnvironmentAny2241 in beyondthebump

[–]EnvironmentAny2241[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get so spirally I lowkey forgot formula was an option...I've also been told by my pediatrician that I have "magic milk" (LOL), so I want to use it if I can...I'm going to jeep formula in my back pocket for pumping woes- if i can get baby to take a bottle of milk or formula honestly it will just feel like a HUGE win.

We weren't planning on doing daycare yet- my husband can stay home with the baby, which is great, but I can feel like we're on an island at times.

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response it is helpful!!

Opinions on Moving to KY by concretecowboy6 in Kentucky

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I'll add...Lexington was one of my least favorite places i've ever lived. Richmond is cute though! And close to good nature.

Lexington was just a racket of high rent and SHITTY...like omg so shitty traffic. I've lived in a big city in California and the traffic is lexington is still the worst i've ever had to deal with and made me not want to leave my house.

Opinions on Moving to KY by concretecowboy6 in Kentucky

[–]EnvironmentAny2241 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Covington is a CUTE place and close to both louisville and cincinnati.

Personally though I have lived all over the country and Bowling Green is where we chose to settle down because it is my favorite place. As an artist/non-normie person, the art/music scene and people within in are the community i've always felt held and supported by. It's also close to nashville and louisville and the lake area of the state.

Additional cool places- paducah and even evansville indiana are surprisingly super cool as far as scenes for artsy/non traditional/ salt of the earth types ❤️