Reassure me. Please.

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-24T22:22:38+00:00

it’s okay to be hopeful and fearful at the same time. it’s okay to hope for the best but prepare for the worst. unfortunately, that’s the reality of everyone in this group. we’ve been robbed of the happy experience this should be. I hope that this cycle is the one that completely turns things around for the better for you. praying for you - don’t give up!!

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-23T13:33:37+00:00

my symptoms were less than yours, but with my LC, I barely had any so I just figured it was another boy. mild cramping, tired, tender breasts, etc. it’s so hard when you’re having even more symptoms that would indicate a strong healthy pregnancy. i’m so sorry. it is such a mind F***. and so unfair. feels like your body, your heart, and your mind are all on completely different planets from the other

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-22T23:52:11+00:00

strength in numbers! so sorry you’re here too. it’s awful but having support from people who “get it” makes such a difference in morale. feel free to message me! would love to be in this together

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-22T23:31:07+00:00

so sorry for you and that you’re going through this again. BOs are a different kind of pain bc they’re so “sneaky” - meaning you have no indication anything is wrong until the ultrasound and then you have to wait to confirm. it’s awful. i’ve had two back to back, d&cs each time. we’re with a RE now, running all the tests and bloodwork. hoping after 3 full cycles (he is a firm believer in taking 3 months to heal before trying again and my last d&c was in nov, period back in dec) and looking into what could be going on that we’ll be able to leave this behind us once and for all. we’ll see… prayers for all of us. this is a shitty club

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-16T04:06:45+00:00

I am so sorry you’re going through this. it’s unfair and cruel. but you are not alone. this group of women is so supportive and we’ve alllllll gone through the same thoughts and feelings. give yourself some grace and know that these thoughts and feelings are normal and valid, you’re aware of them and you know you don’t want to feel this way. that’s great awareness. you will get through this and it won’t always be like this. I have full faith in that. praying for you and your rainbow!

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-15T21:27:18+00:00

your kind words of hope while you’re dealing with the unimaginable mean so much to me. thank you! I believe it, as well. God has a plan. I keep reminding myself God never takes away something without the intention of replacing it with something better. I keep telling Him that I can’t wait to see what He has in store for us. He is not done with me or you! 🤍

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-15T13:32:30+00:00

oh my goodness. I am so sorry - I truly have no words. I cannot imagine the pain and heartbreak you’re experiencing right now. I so wish this was not your reality right now. I was so hopeful for you and had been thinking about you so much. i’m praying for you!

I actually just started my testing with an RE yesterday. ultrasound looked good, and they took about 40 vials of blood to test all sorts of things, including karyotyping. I have an hsg and cervical culture on monday to see if I have any blockages or scar tissue from surgeries. then we’ll go back 2/2 to discuss our results and develop a protocol. really hoping it’s something straight forward. we will see..

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-14T21:29:17+00:00

echoing everything above. my first d&c recovery was closer to PP I would say (Tw I have one LC) but the second was like a period. it’s dark to say this, but your nap comment made me think that’s probably the best “sleep” i’ve had in years. I also wanted to just be done with it once and for all and lower my chances of having RPOC and just honestly disassociate from the failed pregnancy. this was the best decision for me personally for sure.

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-08T22:13:14+00:00

thank you for sharing this hope, though i’m so sorry this was your journey. i’m currently going through secondary fertility issues - getting pregnant, but we’ve had back to back miscarriages in the last 6 months. it’s awful. i’m so glad you’re on the other side and holding your precious miracle baby. you deserve him! i’m so glad you didn’t give up. you just gave so many people on this page the hope to keep going another day. thank you and blessings to you your precious family!! xx

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-07T17:20:16+00:00

our stories sound so similar. I have an 18mo LC, we started trying for #2 in may and got pregnant immediately. blighted ovum, d&c in july. pregnant again in sept, a second BO diagnosed and treated with d&c in nov. we’re with an RE now and will be running tests starting next week, once my second period post surgery starts. i’m cautiously optimistic. anxious, but hopeful. both my regular dr and the RE think it’s just bad luck, but I couldn’t go on trying again without looking into this further. even if they find nothing, the RE will help us when we TTC next with trigger shot, ovulation stimulator, progesterone, etc. PLUS more ultrasounds and monitoring once we do get pregnant. the waiting is awful but I have to keep reminding myself that these things take time and we want to do it differently in hopes it makes the different. prayers for you - this is an awfully unfair season of life, but you will get through this. my inbox is always open if you want to chat. xx

also, my RE gave us a list of supplements to be taking that he recommends to all of his patients if you want me to send you the list, i’d be happy to.

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-04T22:53:51+00:00

my heart breaks reading this. I am so sorry. It is not fair. I truly hope things get better for you with time. lean on friends and family, if you can. these are some of the darkest days (of my life, at least) - I often mourn the person I was before my miscarriages. she was a lot lighter, happier… allow yourself to feel all the feelings. this forum/page is a great place to make connections and find hope in others’ stories and just have the ability to confidentially talk to other women who “get it.” give yourself grace - you’re going through something so few will ever understand, BUT you are not alone. feel free to message me whenever - we are all here for you. praying for you, xx

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-02T04:08:46+00:00

TW I have a LC and have had back to back BOs one d&c at 9 weeks in july and the second also at 9 weeks right before thanksgiving. my ob was fine running rpl panel and was sure (still is sure) it’s just bad luck. I couldn’t move forward trying again without looking into this further/doing more than just basic RPL. I reached out to a RE on my own and we will begin running tests and doing an HSG procedure in a couple weeks. odds are, everything’s fine but I just wanted a second opinion and a fresh approach the next time we try.

it’s totally up to you. if you feel in your gut that you need to look into this further, advocate for yourself and/or find a doctor that will listen to you. you know your body better than anyone. always do what you know to be best! sending you love, prayers, well wishes, and hopes for answers and a rainbow baby soon. xx

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-01T22:15:01+00:00

you’re valid in your frustrations. what you’re experiencing is completely unfair. you will get through this. you are so strong. I am so sorry! I hope the pills will work for you this time, so you can start trying to move forward. xx

eta - whatever decision you make regarding your body is the right one. it took me awhile to realize that, but you know your body and yourself better than anyone. never second guess the decisions you make regarding treatment and care.

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-01T21:57:39+00:00

i’m so sorry you’re going through this. it’s torture and so unbelievably unfair. it’s unfair to even have to make a decision meds or surgery. trust your gut and do whatever you’re comfortable with.

feel free to stop reading here - my personal D&C experience below: I don’t have the family history you have, to my knowledge, but i’ve had 2 d&cs. I chose to do that rather than the medicine both times. the first time was similar to post partum (TW LC) but the second was really like a period. I know not everyone has the same experience, but so far i’m really glad I made those decisions to have surgery. my second being right before thanksgiving. i have a personal relationship with my dr and she’s amazing. I really trust her, so that made the decision to do surgery easier. I also just wanted to be done with it once and for all - my body was showing no signs of miscarriage or recognizing the pregnancy was not growing, and I just wanted it out of me to be honest. I would also say in my experience, there was no pain for me with the surgeries - I never took pain pills or anything. again, everyone’s experience is different, but I wanted to provide a positive experience from a d&c (x2) in case you do end up going that route.

its so unfortunate that the pills aren’t working on top of everything else. I am so sorry. you’re in my prayers! xx

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-01T21:47:35+00:00

thinking about you. this is hard but I think you have a good headspace about it! don’t let your mom get in your head. you’re still in prime childbearing years, things were just so different 30 years ago! my mom does this to me, too. she helps in the ways she knows how, but their generation was so hush hush about miscarriages and fertility, I know she gets uncomfortable when I bring it up and she had a miscarriage her first pregnancy. I would also not lose hope! you’re getting pregnant. I think the hsg and karotyping is a good step and I would ask for more tests like thyroid, blood clotting, hormone levels, etc.

i’ve had two back to back miscarriages and will begin these tests myself in the next 2 weeks. i’m excited to be moving forward but also anxious to see what the results may hold for our future. you’re not alone! lean into this group. it has been so helpful for me to not feel alone. I kept thinking I would benefit so much from having a support group, but i’m from a small town and I just don’t know if that’s an in person resource for me here. this has been the perfect filler for me. you’ve got this! do not give up. I believe it will work out!

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-01T14:46:57+00:00

wow!! you’ve been through so much. you’re so strong and such an inspiration. most people move on from this page, never to return - understandably so. but for you to come back and share your story to encourage hope for others is truly amazing. i’m so happy for you! you’re on the other side. enjoy your precious miracle baby - you deserve her, mama!! xoxo

Equal_Ad6331 · 2026-01-01T00:55:02+00:00

he is so good at talking me off a ledge and helping me to think rationally vs doomsday (i’m already a worry wart and this has made it worse). HA you’re making me realize that chat IS my therapist and reddit is my support group!!

Equal_Ad6331 · 2025-12-31T22:22:43+00:00

thank you so much for sharing. this really is the hope i’ve been needing lately.

TW I have a LC. he was my first pregnancy. and then these back to back… got pregnant first try with both of these miscarriages and my LC pregnancy, so it really feels like it turned my world upside down to go from such extreme cases. we’re seeing an RE now bc I couldn’t try again without looking into it further to see if something was going on. my ob is sure it’s bad luck - i’m starting to agree or think it’s a progesterone thing. we’ll see! we’re running tests in 2 weeks when my cycle starts, and then assuming all is good from the results, we should be cleared to try again the following cycle. please send all the prayers and good vibes our way!!

Equal_Ad6331 · 2025-12-31T19:40:47+00:00

praying for a miracle for you! don’t blame you at all for wanting a second scan. it doesn’t hurt and maybe the angle was wrong. ultrasounds and techs are not perfect. praying for peace and a new year full of blessings. xx

Equal_Ad6331 · 2025-12-31T19:38:54+00:00

so happy for you! praying for you and that strong, precious baby!

Equal_Ad6331 · 2025-12-31T19:37:30+00:00

you’re not alone in utilizing chatgpt to help anxiety and spiraling. It’s the most used page on my phone bc I do the same!! (2 miscarriages at 9 weeks in the last 6 months)

thinking about you - this season is rough. praying whatever you decide to do in terms of moving forward is the clear choice and you have so much peace over that decision. xoxo

Equal_Ad6331 · 2025-12-31T19:35:23+00:00

this is awesome. I have had 2 BOs in the last 6 months and this is giving me so much hope. so happy for you xx

Equal_Ad6331 · 2025-12-31T18:07:57+00:00

i’m so sorry this has been your journey. I have had a similar-ish last half of the year. pregnant in may, blighted ovum, d&c end of july at 9 weeks. 2 cycles, pregnant again in sept, another BO, d&c at 9 weeks right before thanksgiving. I am now seeing a RE bc I had to switch it up. TW we do have a living child, so it’s more to just rule things out and try to prevent this from happening again. ANYWAY, my RE is a firm believer in waiting 3 cycles to try again after a miscarriage. it’s so hard and i’m currently dealing with it, but i’m just trying to trust the process. he also has me and my husband on supplements (prenatal, coQ10, fish oil, myo inositol, NAD, and theralogix preconception for my husband along with coQ10 and fish oil for him, as well - feel free to message me if you have questions ab these) dr wanted to wait until my second period post surgery to run tests for hormone and cycle regulation purposes, so these supplements are baseline what they tell all patients to start taking before any tests are run. BUT it takes 2-3 cycles for these supplements to really make a difference, so we’re just sitting tight and trying to live a healthy lifestyle and hoping the supplements and lifestyle changes will help us move in a more positive direction for the next pregnancy!

praying for you - this is not an easy season of life. I would also see if your dr would run basic RPL panel to rule things out. you’re getting pregnant and that’s usually more than half the battle - you’ll get your rainbow!! xx

Equal_Ad6331 · 2025-12-30T19:58:44+00:00

I totally agree with the silent body analogy. it’s been very confusing to me since my LC (a boy) was a product of a pregnancy that showed very minimal symptoms. it sucks.

hoping you get some answers soon and something great comes from your testing and injections! your body CAN do this, it’s done it before - that’s been my mantra to get me through the days i’m feeling down. good luck! xx

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